I've had two very different experiences of the same situation recently - women wanting to know how I have done it (because, I am guessing, they are gobsmacked by the results) and I realise I don't really know how to handle the "how did you do it?" question, when I believe there is more than a passing interest. And I know that evangelism (about LighterLife) may not be the right answer...
For example, my neighbour asked me seven weeks ago and I knew she was interested - she told me, was very up front and we had a frank discussion and guess what? She's doing LighterLife when she comes back from holiday. Amazing! I was clear what she wanted, we were both honest and she was ready to talk specifics! She had reached her own tipping point.
But, last week, I was introduced to someone (by my friend) who is thinking about LighterLife and this woman knew that my friend had a friend who... had done it (LighterLife). She didn't realise it was me and was...gobsmacked when I revealed that it was indeed me. I could tell by the way she looked at me (as I would look at someone who was six stones lighter - not all down to LighterLife but 80% - and just be incredulous). I recognise that look because I've done it myself so many times (but mainly at various slimming clubs!). Anyway, she asked me all about LighterLife and then proceeded to tell me all the reasons why she couldn't do it BUT I wasn't pushing it at all. I just said it was one of the best things I had ever done in my life and I wish I had found out about it years ago.
This weekend, a friend (wife of one of my husband's friends) asked me all about the diet and kept saying things like, I need to do that, tell me more, that sounds good, yes, yes, yes. This woman is clearly bigger than she was and is clearly very unhappy about it but not unhappy enough NOT to eat cream with pudding, etc etc. We all know that behaviour, don't we? It's the cycle of change stuff - pre-contemplation ie denial!
The thing is, I wrote about the first woman on my blog and someone commented, quite rightly, that we come to these decisions when we are ready. Absolutely.
But what do you do IF the person asking you how you did it, is REALLY interested (and may be thinking of doing LighterLife or something similar)? How do you strike a happy balance?
I don't know how to handle this situation and it's going to come up, again, I am sure.
Any suggestions? I don't want to say the wrong thing. I may be trying to adapt my people-pleasing behaviour but I am still senstive to others' needs!!
Thanks.
Mrs L xxx
For example, my neighbour asked me seven weeks ago and I knew she was interested - she told me, was very up front and we had a frank discussion and guess what? She's doing LighterLife when she comes back from holiday. Amazing! I was clear what she wanted, we were both honest and she was ready to talk specifics! She had reached her own tipping point.
But, last week, I was introduced to someone (by my friend) who is thinking about LighterLife and this woman knew that my friend had a friend who... had done it (LighterLife). She didn't realise it was me and was...gobsmacked when I revealed that it was indeed me. I could tell by the way she looked at me (as I would look at someone who was six stones lighter - not all down to LighterLife but 80% - and just be incredulous). I recognise that look because I've done it myself so many times (but mainly at various slimming clubs!). Anyway, she asked me all about LighterLife and then proceeded to tell me all the reasons why she couldn't do it BUT I wasn't pushing it at all. I just said it was one of the best things I had ever done in my life and I wish I had found out about it years ago.
This weekend, a friend (wife of one of my husband's friends) asked me all about the diet and kept saying things like, I need to do that, tell me more, that sounds good, yes, yes, yes. This woman is clearly bigger than she was and is clearly very unhappy about it but not unhappy enough NOT to eat cream with pudding, etc etc. We all know that behaviour, don't we? It's the cycle of change stuff - pre-contemplation ie denial!
The thing is, I wrote about the first woman on my blog and someone commented, quite rightly, that we come to these decisions when we are ready. Absolutely.
But what do you do IF the person asking you how you did it, is REALLY interested (and may be thinking of doing LighterLife or something similar)? How do you strike a happy balance?
I don't know how to handle this situation and it's going to come up, again, I am sure.
Any suggestions? I don't want to say the wrong thing. I may be trying to adapt my people-pleasing behaviour but I am still senstive to others' needs!!
Thanks.
Mrs L xxx