1. flirty40greeneyes

    flirty40greeneyes Busy busy busy!!

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    Just recently I have been very hurt and upset by somethings said and done inside my family. I have been reading on here about other people who have also been hurt and upset by people in their lives and thought I'd share this verse someone sent to me years ago, when my ex was drinking himself silly and I was getting so upset by it all. It helped me at the time, it's helped me recently .... and hopefully it might help others who are hurting at something said or done at the moment.



    How important are they ?



    Someone said something unkind about me. Are my feelings hurt? Yes.
    Should they be? No.
    How do I overcome my hurt?
    By detaching myself, "turning it off," until I can figure out what lies behind it.
    If it was a retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct the matter.
    If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained by anything that happens outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.



    Let me not take to myself, and suffer over, the actions and reactions of other people. Other adult human beings are not my responsibility, no matter how closely their lives may be entwined with mine.
    I will not allow myself to be troubled by anyone else, my goal is to improve my own way of living and looking at life.





     
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    DQ Queen of the Damned

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    Oooh I like that - I like that a lot!! :cool:
     
  4. nadhak

    nadhak LIGHTER LIFE FOR LIFE

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    thanks - that is very useful - I am so sensitive and just wish I could be a bit tougher!
     
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    That is a good thing to remember, especially as that kind of hurt in the past would make me turn to the biscuits. But I am not going to do that to myself anymore !
     
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    By detaching myself, "turning it off," until I can figure out what lies behind it.
    If it was a retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct the matter.

    If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained by anything that happens outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.



    Let me not take to myself, and suffer over, the actions and reactions of other people. Other adult human beings are not my responsibility, no matter how closely their lives may be entwined with mine.
    I will not allow myself to be troubled by anyone else, my goal is to improve my own way of living and looking at life.


    Excellent Beverly:)
     
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    thanks for posting - just what i needed to hear right now
     
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