Just Do It
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Hi, sorry to ask another question but I have realised I have hit a major issue with my whole weight problem and I am wondering how to deal with it.
Firstly I have been annoyingly focussed on my whole journey so far. This has led me to realise that as long as I have extremely clear, and not too wide boundaries, I can stick to the rules and even enjoy them. I have made them work for me.
Now, I am in Week 6 of management. Still sticking to the rules. BUT I have arranged a weekend away for my OH and me, and our two best friends, to celebrate 25 years of being asked to go out with my now OH. It was his best friend who did the asking as he was too shy after I literally ran away from him as fast as I could the first time he tried to kiss me!
So we are going to a posh hotel, two nights dinner, bed and breakfast.
It is something I have dreamed of doing for years and in my dreams I was always thin - the irony of it all now he finds me too thin!!
Anyway, how do I approach the weekend food wise. I have been mulling it over for weeks and asked my LLC. She said I should just go and enjoy it as it was a once-in-a-lifetime experience and that is the advice she always gives for such occaisions.
However, that has left me feeling uncomfortable. I have been thinking hard about why and I think it is because I find it extremely hard to make decisions. I have driven everyone in our house crazy over my kitchen deliberations recently, every five minutes I change my mind, I ask everyone what they think and then drive myself in knots because they all have different opinions over style, colour etc.
I have just realised that is what I am doing here right now, I want someone to come along and give me the definitive answer. Oh, I think I have just got it, I do see everything in black and white, I must think that 'someone' has the correct answer, the 'black' answer, whereas really there are a lot of shades of grey in the variation between the extremes.
I am going to have to learn to make decisions for myself - that sounds like I need to grow up!!
Anyway, my thoughts are that I will try to stick to the current foodlists as closely as possible, no bread and butter, even though that is the part I look forward to the most at hotels. I can have breakfast - bacon, egg, mushrooms and tomatoes even yogurt and fruit although that sounds like a lot. Two food packs throughout the day if I need them and then an evening meal.
I will try and choose what I think are the options closest to the foodlists and indulge myself by having a starter, main course and some of the healthiest dessert, but not just fruit salad. And I will try and leave some of each course, my aim will be to end the meal not stuffed but comfortably full.
I will try not to see the food as a reward, I will buy myself some new clothes and make-up on Thursday, and see dressing up in them as a reward. Oooo maybe a new necklace as well. Primark watch out!
I know I don't have to worry about putting on weight, that is not the bit that scares me, it is the mindset thing, I don't want to lose the plot and revert back. I suppose it will be my first real test as I haven't allowed myself to operate outside the rulebook.
Best wishes
Claire
Firstly I have been annoyingly focussed on my whole journey so far. This has led me to realise that as long as I have extremely clear, and not too wide boundaries, I can stick to the rules and even enjoy them. I have made them work for me.
Now, I am in Week 6 of management. Still sticking to the rules. BUT I have arranged a weekend away for my OH and me, and our two best friends, to celebrate 25 years of being asked to go out with my now OH. It was his best friend who did the asking as he was too shy after I literally ran away from him as fast as I could the first time he tried to kiss me!
So we are going to a posh hotel, two nights dinner, bed and breakfast.
It is something I have dreamed of doing for years and in my dreams I was always thin - the irony of it all now he finds me too thin!!
Anyway, how do I approach the weekend food wise. I have been mulling it over for weeks and asked my LLC. She said I should just go and enjoy it as it was a once-in-a-lifetime experience and that is the advice she always gives for such occaisions.
However, that has left me feeling uncomfortable. I have been thinking hard about why and I think it is because I find it extremely hard to make decisions. I have driven everyone in our house crazy over my kitchen deliberations recently, every five minutes I change my mind, I ask everyone what they think and then drive myself in knots because they all have different opinions over style, colour etc.
I have just realised that is what I am doing here right now, I want someone to come along and give me the definitive answer. Oh, I think I have just got it, I do see everything in black and white, I must think that 'someone' has the correct answer, the 'black' answer, whereas really there are a lot of shades of grey in the variation between the extremes.
I am going to have to learn to make decisions for myself - that sounds like I need to grow up!!
Anyway, my thoughts are that I will try to stick to the current foodlists as closely as possible, no bread and butter, even though that is the part I look forward to the most at hotels. I can have breakfast - bacon, egg, mushrooms and tomatoes even yogurt and fruit although that sounds like a lot. Two food packs throughout the day if I need them and then an evening meal.
I will try and choose what I think are the options closest to the foodlists and indulge myself by having a starter, main course and some of the healthiest dessert, but not just fruit salad. And I will try and leave some of each course, my aim will be to end the meal not stuffed but comfortably full.
I will try not to see the food as a reward, I will buy myself some new clothes and make-up on Thursday, and see dressing up in them as a reward. Oooo maybe a new necklace as well. Primark watch out!
I know I don't have to worry about putting on weight, that is not the bit that scares me, it is the mindset thing, I don't want to lose the plot and revert back. I suppose it will be my first real test as I haven't allowed myself to operate outside the rulebook.
Best wishes
Claire