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I have finally admitted it to myself

I am Fat.

Not just overweight.

I am Morbidly Obese.

If i don't do something now, I never will.

If i don't do something now, I could die.

I have a daughter, I need to be around for her. I want to see her grow up. I want her to be proud of me.

I want to be slimmer and fitter. I want to be able to walk up the stairs without struggling to breathe.

I am 5ft 1 and i weigh 111KG, about 17st 6lbs. My BMI is 46.2

I don't know how to do it, I don't know where to start.

I have tried WW, SW, CD and Orlistat, none of which have worked (obviously)

I have zero self confidence. I am concious of myself a all times, no matter where I am or what I am wearing.

How have I let this happen? How can something so big creep up so silently, so that you don't know it's there until it's far far too late?

At the moment, eveything seems pointless and impossible.
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Hi Starlight, and thank you.

How do i work out what the best diet for me is? :sigh:


Busy busy busy!!
S: 15st3lb C: 13st11lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 33.1 Loss: 1st6lb(9.39%)
I felt so sad for you reading your post ....

Why did the other diets not work for you?? (as in why did you give them up??) Which one worked the best??

Is it worth a trip to see your GP and having a conversation with him/her to see what they think may help??

Let us know if there's anything else we can do on here to help.


Gold Member
Just because one of those diets has not worked for you in the past doesn't mean it won't work this time. attitude is very important and i feel you have to be in the right frame of mind to lose weight. so why not give one of those diets another try

Irene xx
Hi, I'm new, I'm starting my weight loss journey tomorrow (23/7/08). I'm really glad I found this site as I know that all the hints and tips from the other members will really spur me on.
I have 5.5 stones to lose, so it's going to be a long journey but I know I can do it!


Busy busy busy!!
S: 15st3lb C: 13st11lb G: 10st0lb BMI: 33.1 Loss: 1st6lb(9.39%)
You certainly can happylittlesoul - what a lovely cheerful name! Good luck and post regularly to get support!
Hi Fat and Fed up. Like Flirty 40, I too felt a bit of a pang of saness reading you post because I completely empathise with you and know how dreadful it is to feel like that about yourself.

I'm too morbidly obese (same BMI as you but I'm 5'8 and weigh 20ish st atm). It's taken me ages to actually start CD, I knew it was the diet that I wanted to help me lose the weight with as it is pretty simple when you think about it, well in theory anyway! I think the only person who can answer your question about the right diet is you, and if you really are that fed up with being his way and feeling so down right rubbsihy then you will do it.

It's taken me since May last year to crack SS and now I'm heading into my 2nd week and I'm not looking back this time! I know this will sound a bit daft and I'm hoping not patronising but just get on and do it! You'll be chasing this round waiting for the right moment to start, when now is the best way.

Have you been to your GP about your weight, and had your thyroid checked to see if that is an issue?

I really hope that you find the right way for you, I really do. I have a 3 and a half year old daughter and like you I was petrified that if I carried on eating and pretending that my weight wasn't an issue or tha I'm still young theres plenty of time and that I'm invincible, before long I will be dead of some obesity related illness. That hurt me more than anything, and I think was the turning point for me.

Sorry I hope I haven't made it too much about me but I sincerely hope that you start becoming the person you obviously want to, and will be.

x x x x x x


Resident geek
Hey there doll.. Welcome to minimins.. As Starlight has said.. You've taken the first step..! and thats the most important one.. As Irene has said.. just because those diets havnt worked in the past.. doesnt mean they wont know.. its all about where your mind is.. and you've shown that you are ready to do it.. carry on posting and reading here with us at minis.. we loooove having more people.. and you can get so much support here.. no matter whats on your mind..
*looooads of hugs*..

Cat x x x


Bouncing back
The beauty of the modern world is that there are so many options and choices and help available for losing weight. You should go see your doctor, and they'll help you on your way.

My dad, who's also morbidly obese, tried a lot of diets, herbal medications and all sorts of random things, then he went to the doctor. His doctor referred him to a dietician and together they worked out a diet tailored to Dad's eating habits and attitude. He's losing weight slowly but surely. Although it would be a lot faster if he exercised more!

You'll find a lot of support on this site. It helps with your positivity and the sticking to your diet, whatever it may be. It's a hard hard journey, but you can do it if you really try.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

as the others have said you have taken the first step
the crowd here are fantasic at helping and supporting you
they always have known the right thing to say at just the right time
and will help you on your journey
do you want to remove food or learn to eat properly
huge huge hugs hun
and good luck
Thanks so much for all your replies.

As I said i have tried ww - i couldnt do with faffing around with the points. SW was ok for a few weeks, and i lost over half a stone, but I found that i was eating the same food all the time (I will NEVER touch couscous ever again!) Xenical didn't work for me as i suffer with IBS and the xenical made me worse. CD - i hated the sachets, absolutely hated them. I was sick on the second day, and now i can't even look at a cuppa soup. Adios was ok at first but that affected my IBS too.

My doctor has said that my next step will be surgery, but that thought scares me. I really don't want to go down that route. One doctor even said that I was a faliure for not loosing weight with the xenical. I walked home in tears.

Having written this and read it back, I think that maybe SW was the best option. Maybe if i speak to the leader she can help me with finding alternative foods. I was also thinking of Rosemary Conley.

I haven't been able to exerscise for the last year or so either. I have a heel spur (made worse by the weight) and i tore the ligaments in my ankle, was in plaster for 5 weeks. Still having problems now.
fat&fed up, if you do join SW again, there are loads of recipes on the website, and on the SW forum on here, we are always exchanging recipes, so don't feel like you have to always eat the same foods.

I wish you all the best with your weight loss, i have LOADS to lose, but i am finding that SW works for me, because i never go hungry

I think I will try SW again.
I have looked at the website and at the recepies as UndisturbedGirl suggested, and I think that if I put my mind to it, I can do it!

ETA My local class is held on a Wednesday - I will start tomorrow!
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Bouncing back
You CAN do it! looking forward to hearing about your progress!



Silver Member
Thoughts are with you.... XXXXX
Good Luck and remember any thing is possible.... some things just need more working at than others.......
Thanks again - you are all stars!

I have had a look at the before and after pics and i'm amazed - I can't imagine ever getting to my goal of 65KG from 111KG, but i think those pics are all the inspiration i need.

Could someone please tell me how to put a weightloss tracker in my siggy strip please?

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