Is anyone doing this for love?

Discussion in 'General Weight Loss Discussion' started by thechaplingirl, 18 November 2010 Social URL.

  1. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    Is anybody loosing weight for somebody else or to find somebody else?
    I'm interested to hear your reasons.
    A part of me is doing this for love.
    xoxo
     
    Last edited: 18 November 2010
  2. Avatar

    MiniMins.com Matched Content

  3. *Sparkles*

    *Sparkles* **2015 is my Year!**

    Posts:
    4,376
    Likes Received:
    9
    Start Weight:
    19st11.0lb
    Current Weight:
    17st4lb
    Lost(%):
    2st7lb(12.64%)
    Diet:
    weightwatchers
    I want to find romance and realistically I know guys dont go for bigger girls :(
     
  4. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    I know :(
    I always go for guys way out of my league, figured I have to step up my game because I don't want to settle for second best.
    xoxo
     
  5. Goin'down

    Goin'down Full Member

    Posts:
    122
    Likes Received:
    0
    Start Weight:
    15st13lb
    Current Weight:
    14st11lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st0lb
    Lost(%):
    1st2lb(7.17%)
    Diet:
    Three sensible meals a day
    Its sad to say but yea partly. My last bf broke up with me cus i was gaining the pounds. Im still in love with him even tho i shouldnt be. N hes going out with some girl now who looks like a thinner version of me. Devastated!
    It does seem shallow but i do think u cant get the kind of love u want wen ur massive - ppl have to be at least a bit attracted to fall in love. Just my opinion but it seems to be that way as far as i can see :(
     
  6. brideweightwar

    brideweightwar Full Member

    Posts:
    147
    Likes Received:
    1
    Start Weight:
    17st10lb
    Current Weight:
    16st13.5lb
    Goal Weight:
    13st5lb
    Lost(%):
    0st10.5lb(4.23%)
    Diet:
    Slimming world
    The way i looked at is my primary reason for doing it has to be for me! If i do it for someone else i will fail. On the love note if a guy doesnt want to be with you just cause of you body type then he isnt worth being with!!!
     
  7. hbb

    hbb Thoroughly Determined

    Posts:
    1,090
    Likes Received:
    15
    Diet:
    Weight Watchers Discover Plan
    I'm certainly doing it to gain the self-confidence associated with being thin, to let me approach potentil love interests! Fed up of feeling too fat to find love! :D
     
  8. kittykandy

    kittykandy Member

    Posts:
    20
    Likes Received:
    0
    Start Weight:
    16st2lb
    Current Weight:
    15st7lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st0lb
    Lost(%):
    0st9lb(3.98%)
    I would love to say that is not a factor but I would lying to you and to myself.

    My most important reasons (honestly) are, health (I'm paranoid I'll have a heart attack) and fashion. I know weight loss won't magically make my confidence go up because I've never been confident and I haven't always been fat.

    I definitely want to meet someone! I have been single for 3 years now ( I met my ex when I was 17, a child when I was 21 and we split when I was 22), I think it's time! ;)
     
  9. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    His loss!
    If he's gone for a slimmer version of you I wonder what he will do when you're a slimmer version of you.
    I hope he grovels back to you and you're happy with someone who loves you for you.
    xoxo
     
    Goin'down likes this.
  10. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    I agree with what you're saying but from my experience I got more attention when I was slimmer. I think the confidence I would gain with losing weight will make me more comfortable talking to the opposite sex therefore help me find someone - if that makes sense.
    xoxo
     
  11. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    I couldn't agree with you more. I am totally fed up of feeling too fat to find love. Its such a shame that we are made to feel that way isn't it? :(
    xoxo
     
  12. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    i'm also doing it for fashion, I can't wait to wear the clothes I want to wear.
    I hope you do find confidence hun!
    It sooooo is your time.
    I've never had a serious relationship so i think its my time too!
    xoxo
     
  13. kittykandy

    kittykandy Member

    Posts:
    20
    Likes Received:
    0
    Start Weight:
    16st2lb
    Current Weight:
    15st7lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st0lb
    Lost(%):
    0st9lb(3.98%)
    Girllllll :D

    Have you ever gone in a shop and think - '' damn imagine how this would look".

    Or 'daydream' about clothes - I have a wicked fashion sense that I'm ready to explore! :p
     
  14. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    Yes!!! I think that every time I go shopping.

    I was going to say the same but i felt big headed haha... my friends commend me on my fashion sense even at this weight but I'm gonna blow them away when i'm a size 14. <3
    xoxo
     
  15. LVLLM

    LVLLM Gold Member

    Posts:
    21,060
    Likes Received:
    65
    Current Weight:
    11st3lb
    Goal Weight:
    10st0lb
    Diet:
    Carb Cycling
    im doing it for love - of myself!!!!! i want to look amazing and people to think - phwaor!!!!
     
  16. syren

    syren from FAT to FIT

    Posts:
    364
    Likes Received:
    7
    Start Weight:
    20st7lb
    Current Weight:
    16st10lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st11lb
    Lost(%):
    3st11lb(18.47%)
    Diet:
    vlcd (own) / CC
    My husband and I separated one month ago.. we still live in the same home right now (which is another story) We've had our ups and downs the past year or so ( for various reasons) and he had been complaining that I'm not happy and that makes him unhappy blah blah .. Now, according to my therapist he's having a midlife crisis, and he's blaming me and I know I can't take full blame..BUT I do take partial responsibility because he's right, I'm not happy.. Every time we would go out for a nice dinner I'd have a meltdown because I hated what I looked like or couldn't find the right outfit to wear, we never did any active hobbies together because I couldn't keep up. I lost my confidence and started hiding in more nights and became less social. Who wants a wife like that ?

    Am I doing it this for love ? of course, I don't want to lose my husband and I want him to have a wife he can be proud of and a wife he willingly wants to do stuff with. But I'm also on a mission to find myself and be truly happy again. I do not want to feel this way anymore and I'm not naive, I know that my next step in life could very well be without my husband, if so then I need to make sure I am strong enough to handle that and be confident in myself to be single again and I don't think I'll be able to accomplish that if I don't feel good about myself.

    For whatever our reasons.. love, health, happiness or to look good in our clothes, the main thing is that we're here.. and we're doing it ! :D
     
  17. Ryster

    Ryster Member

    Posts:
    48
    Likes Received:
    0
    Start Weight:
    15st10lb
    Current Weight:
    14st10lb
    Goal Weight:
    9st4lb
    Lost(%):
    1st0lb(6.36%)
    Diet:
    Counting Calories
    Well I'm definitely doing it to boost my self confidence, which is extremely low. I'm nearly 19, and I've never had a girlfriend due to the low self confidence - just feeling so fat and ugly in all honesty.
     
  18. Avatar

    MiniMins.com Advert

  19. Goin'down

    Goin'down Full Member

    Posts:
    122
    Likes Received:
    0
    Start Weight:
    15st13lb
    Current Weight:
    14st11lb
    Goal Weight:
    11st0lb
    Lost(%):
    1st2lb(7.17%)
    Diet:
    Three sensible meals a day
    Aw thanx chaplin..that made me feel a lot better!
    xo
     
  20. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    They will!
    Best of Luck.
    xoxo
     
  21. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    It could be worse, you could be 22 :p
    Hope you get that confidence asap so you can make one lucky girl very happy.
    oxox
     
  22. thechaplingirl

    thechaplingirl Full Member

    Posts:
    136
    Likes Received:
    3
    Start Weight:
    24st0lb
    Current Weight:
    23st11lb
    Lost(%):
    0st3lb(0.89%)
    Diet:
    Healthy Eating
    Thank you so much for sharing your story!
    I'm so sorry to hear that your low self esteem is affecting your marriage. I really hope that you guys can save your marriage and I hope you can find confidence and get your sparkle back... I'm sure you're beautiful inside and out.
    Hopefully loosing weight will make you feel happier about yourself and make you want to go out more and do stuff... hopefully you're husband will appreciate all you're doing and find the woman he married.

    Best of luck with everything hun.
    xoxo
     
Popular Forums
  1. MiniMins.com is a weight loss support community helping each other on their weight loss journey. We have a multitude of forums, from Slimming World and Exante, to Success Stories. Click the logo at the top right to return to the forum home page at any time.
Loading...