losingit
Silver Member
Thought i'd start a diary too... since i'm really stressed out and need to write somewhere i thought this may be the ideal place to blabber and hopefully NOT reach out for the chocolate/crisps/chips/biscuits/*insert any foodstuffs here*
So, i'm meant to be doing Total Solutions, but it seems likely that this will end up being Working Solutions on some days. Today for instance, was day 3 of TS for me and i feel quite ill, and wrote on the forum earlier about heart palpitations which i feel are from drinking a lot of water/electrolyte imbalance. Well i felt so rotten at lunchtime that i ate some plain tuna with a little salt on it, plus a slice of cheese, i think around 150 to 200 calories in total. I feel a lot better now, which leads me to believe it was an electrolyte issue since the salty tuna made me feel fantastic. Zero carbs too.
Anyway, this afternoon i thought i'd tackle my Solicitor. And this is where the stress is. I split up from my ex when i was 6 months pregnant because he turned into a nutter and got very scary and i feared for my safety. I had only known him a few months when i got pregnant. Anyway, he is now in prison as around a year after we split up he walked onto a bus and stabbed someone in the neck, making reference to demons and the like. This was a respectable guy who worked in the NHS as a dr!
Well, he has only seen my daughter a couple of times when she was a few weeks old. Since then nothing and i managed to get an Order from the courts which stops him trying to remove her from the country (he had threatened to take her to Africa).
Fast forward 3 years, and there is a chance he could get out of prison in the next 12 months (although not likely). I instruct the solicitor again this time with the goal of attempting to get his parental responsibility removed. I need to do this because i want to change my daughters surname as i'm scared for our safety when he gets released. And right now i cannot change her name without his permission which defeats the object of doing it. I'm told that the removal of parental responsibility will be a very tough case and is not likely to succeed even in our situation, but we want to go for it anyway.
Well, if all this isn't stressful enough, my old Solicitor goes totally AWOL. I write her an email asking what's going on and get an email back from the secretary telling me that she has been off sick for weeks and weeks! Nice of them to tell me, eh. So, nothing was being done on my case at all (bearing in mind he could be running free at the end of the year). I got given the name of the replacement solicitor taking it over and was told he'd call me back. Two weeks later and still nothing.
So, i phone today feeling really grumpy. Finally got through to someone dealing with my case. He admitted nothing had been done, said something about how he wanted to call me (wtf, why didn't he then!) to talk about having to instruct counsel, to which i agreed and said OK do it. Then he said bye and i forget to ask the most important thing which i wanted/needed to know and that is 'when exactly is the work going to get done?'
Now i'm feeling really emotional and lost. I want to go to McDonalds and eat two bigmacs with extra cheese, a large portion of chips, and ice cream. Then i want to buy a KFC on the way home. All in the comfort of my car, in the drive thru, listening to my favourite music. Then i want to go home, rest for a few hours and consider ordering a Domino's pizza, or a chinese, or if i've got no room i'll settle for a sandwich or two. But alas, i'm on a diet, so i gotta deal with it. And deal with it i will, i'm not gonna let this stupid ex screw up my head today and make me another few pounds fatter, it solves nothing.
So, i had my can of tuna and a piece of cheese, and will have my shake later (which i guess means today is a WS day rather than TS day, but i'm still on the diet that's what counts), and will sit down to a new cross-stitch kit i bought, which i haven't done since before i was pregnant (4 year ago). Hopefully that will keep me busy. And when i finally do get my chance to go to court, it will be obvious what a great, HEALTHY and fit mom i am for my little girl and the judge will rule everything in our favour even despite the bad odds.
So, i'm meant to be doing Total Solutions, but it seems likely that this will end up being Working Solutions on some days. Today for instance, was day 3 of TS for me and i feel quite ill, and wrote on the forum earlier about heart palpitations which i feel are from drinking a lot of water/electrolyte imbalance. Well i felt so rotten at lunchtime that i ate some plain tuna with a little salt on it, plus a slice of cheese, i think around 150 to 200 calories in total. I feel a lot better now, which leads me to believe it was an electrolyte issue since the salty tuna made me feel fantastic. Zero carbs too.
Anyway, this afternoon i thought i'd tackle my Solicitor. And this is where the stress is. I split up from my ex when i was 6 months pregnant because he turned into a nutter and got very scary and i feared for my safety. I had only known him a few months when i got pregnant. Anyway, he is now in prison as around a year after we split up he walked onto a bus and stabbed someone in the neck, making reference to demons and the like. This was a respectable guy who worked in the NHS as a dr!
Well, he has only seen my daughter a couple of times when she was a few weeks old. Since then nothing and i managed to get an Order from the courts which stops him trying to remove her from the country (he had threatened to take her to Africa).
Fast forward 3 years, and there is a chance he could get out of prison in the next 12 months (although not likely). I instruct the solicitor again this time with the goal of attempting to get his parental responsibility removed. I need to do this because i want to change my daughters surname as i'm scared for our safety when he gets released. And right now i cannot change her name without his permission which defeats the object of doing it. I'm told that the removal of parental responsibility will be a very tough case and is not likely to succeed even in our situation, but we want to go for it anyway.
Well, if all this isn't stressful enough, my old Solicitor goes totally AWOL. I write her an email asking what's going on and get an email back from the secretary telling me that she has been off sick for weeks and weeks! Nice of them to tell me, eh. So, nothing was being done on my case at all (bearing in mind he could be running free at the end of the year). I got given the name of the replacement solicitor taking it over and was told he'd call me back. Two weeks later and still nothing.
So, i phone today feeling really grumpy. Finally got through to someone dealing with my case. He admitted nothing had been done, said something about how he wanted to call me (wtf, why didn't he then!) to talk about having to instruct counsel, to which i agreed and said OK do it. Then he said bye and i forget to ask the most important thing which i wanted/needed to know and that is 'when exactly is the work going to get done?'
Now i'm feeling really emotional and lost. I want to go to McDonalds and eat two bigmacs with extra cheese, a large portion of chips, and ice cream. Then i want to buy a KFC on the way home. All in the comfort of my car, in the drive thru, listening to my favourite music. Then i want to go home, rest for a few hours and consider ordering a Domino's pizza, or a chinese, or if i've got no room i'll settle for a sandwich or two. But alas, i'm on a diet, so i gotta deal with it. And deal with it i will, i'm not gonna let this stupid ex screw up my head today and make me another few pounds fatter, it solves nothing.
So, i had my can of tuna and a piece of cheese, and will have my shake later (which i guess means today is a WS day rather than TS day, but i'm still on the diet that's what counts), and will sit down to a new cross-stitch kit i bought, which i haven't done since before i was pregnant (4 year ago). Hopefully that will keep me busy. And when i finally do get my chance to go to court, it will be obvious what a great, HEALTHY and fit mom i am for my little girl and the judge will rule everything in our favour even despite the bad odds.