Lost & Found... Map Gone AWOL!

Katycakes said:
Son is in kitchen making a quorn goulash, wow!

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ooohhhh this sounds lush! Does he have a recipe?

sorry the builders ar going to be in for so long hun! Never had to have anything major done to the house before so that would be a culture shock! Its bad enough clearing up after DH after he changed the hob in the kitchen with all the dust etc! Dont think my OCD would cope! lol

Hope you have a good day today hun

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Hiya Katy, glad you had a good time in Bath, I went there a few years ago, loved the place..... sad about the suicide, that is such an awful and desperate thing to do, and my heart goes out to the poor train driver who hit them too. My ex's uncle drives London Underground Trains and once hit someone who jumped in front, affects them for the rest of their lives.
Glad you didn't put on weight, what excellent news, you may not have lost if you hadn't of eaten the chips either, so worth having and enjoying them, we can have nice things occasionally and it doesn't always affect us weight wise, we just need to be sensible which it seems like you were. Just an observation, when you go away with work, you tend to have no binges or cravings, maybe this is because you eat more varied food and also more of it when you are away, once you get back you are possibly too strict with yourself which leads to the binges, maybe you should be a bit more relaxed at home and treat yourself occasionally, also make sure you eat enough of food that is good for you... hope you have a good day today, and roll on the day the builders disappear.. (ps. if you fancy a biscuit I suggest you have a cup of tea and treat yourself to one, that way you wont feel like bingeing on a packets as they will be part of your life already)... anyway, just an observation.
 
Thanks Curly & Lizz! Lizz, son making the tea is the biggest shock we have ever had... he can seriously burn toast (in a toaster) and still has to ask for a recap on process when making a cup of tea for his dad. Think he likes his klutzy can't-cook image. Then started doing 'hospitality' at school - basic cook classes to help the kids put a meal together for when the leave home. He is so proud of himself!

Last night he wouldn't let any of us in kitchen & didn't have a recipe! He just did what he'd done that day at school, and we were impressed. The goulash was thickened & yummy, I am not the best cook ever & had to ask how he got it so thick & smooth, 'just flour' he said, proudly. I love that he just chopped up quorn fillets and added whatever veg we had, and came up with something fab. He didn't do rice, did spuds as they were easier, but nobody minded.

He then spent the evening watching 'masterchef', lol!

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awww hun thats so fabulous! I love nothing more than seeing kids cooking!
My 3 yr old is obsessed with cooking and baking! I am a keen cook though so she doesnt have a much of an option! lol. Just hope she keeps going!
and Masterchef ROCKS! lol

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Just an observation, when you go away with work, you tend to have no binges or cravings, maybe this is because you eat more varied food and also more of it when you are away, once you get back you are possibly too strict with yourself which leads to the binges, maybe you should be a bit more relaxed at home and treat yourself occasionally, also make sure you eat enough of food that is good for you... hope you have a good day today, and roll on the day the builders disappear.. (ps. if you fancy a biscuit I suggest you have a cup of tea and treat yourself to one, that way you wont feel like bingeing on a packets as they will be part of your life already)... anyway, just an observation.
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Greeneyes, this is something i have noticed too, to extent that now going away does not scare me but almost is a relief as it can put me back on track... very odd. I don't think it is exactly for reasons you have suggested, though not 100% sure why myself.

When away, am on the go a lot more... when at home, job is very sedentary. So, do burn more cals for certain. BUT... why, when I can order room service, or take a heap of goodies back to hotel room, do I stay on track? I LIKE picking out healthy choices and don't feel deprived.

Home is part of the problem then... why? Because my kitchen with its cupboards and fridge are so close by? Because stresses that get to me are also close by? Habit? Boredom of being stuck with laptop all day? Probably all of those. At home I do eat plenty of cals... I do eat less when away, in spite of odd business dinner.

It's very strange. Yesterday had a mini binge towards end of day... no reason, 'just because I could'. Today feels better, but for me I can't eat one biscuit because I fancy it - I'd rather have none, because one will lead to more. (Unless I am in a hotel room, bizarrely). I don't quite know why, but I do know I am not strong enough right now to test the theory.

I really do envy you your 'rational' approach to food hon, more than I can say. For me, anything linked to food is a big tangle in my head right now.

Determined today will be a better day. Have eaten, so no more food until 12 or later. And exercise. Hope everone else is having a great day...

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Katy, I could have written this post. Strange isn't it? I am on holiday from work this week and sadly not enjoying it. Feeling very low and confused. I normally love being able to please myself, but just now everything is grey.
Our house is also upside down - decorating. But everything depends on something else being done first and so the mess continues.......
I also leave lots - far too much - to be done 'when I have a week off'. And of course it can't all be done, so none of it gets started either- well it hasn't this week. Although I did do some gardening yesterday, but this just precipitated a crisis because it made me so hungry.
Oh dear, I'll be depressing everyone, think I'd better go and do something...sorry.
 
Big hugs Bess, never feel bad about saying what you want to say on my thread, it's OK! I think we have similar patterns and I take on too much too, and then feel panicked that I will never get it done. The prospect of place overrun with workmen for months is not good! Have just arranged to go for dog walk with friend while the sun lasts, but your post is just where I was a week a ago... that grey feeling. Didn't know where it came from or how to shift it. I do know that FOOD didn't help... be strong Bess, just keep on keeping on.

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Its strange but I have the grey feeling this week too, I am also very very tired all the time which is strange as I am eating more healthy than I used to. I so nearly binged on Monday when I dropped my iphone down the toilet, I just wanted to go to the kitchen and stuff everything into my face, so sat in the bedroom until I had calmed down enough, and all I ended up doing was adding cream to my coffee.... I also think I take on too much and like Bess nothing ever gets started, I made myself a list on Monday on what to start and what to achieve this week, only one thing has been marked off so far even though there are loads of short things on the list. Just cannot get motivated and cannot stop thinking of food, once I have finished one, I am thinking what I can have for the next one.... bad week, hope it improves.... for you too Bess and Katy.
 
Well, sun is not shining today in Galloway... bah. But, our hot water is back on (yay!) and plumber is fitting a filter this morning to stop problem from recurring. Roof work goes on as usual! (Hmmm, think I am living in a building site!)

Taking mum out later to meet her cousins who are visiting area, will involve lunch, so aiming for soup. Then a big shop.

Yesterday was a bit wobbly, cravings, but not binge-ish. Hoping the cravings will finally subside as totm has finally begun properly after 3 days of false starts! Phew. Work is going Ok, for a change... better get back to it & get something done before I have to go fetch mum.

Hope everyone has a good day.

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Ha, we've got the sun here in Shropshire today! I'll send you a bit. xx
 
Katy this is just a thought for your maintenance (and by no means am I an expert, given I lost then failed to maintain, so back at start again!) But could you take an Atkins type approach and only allows yourself carbs once a week initially, then see how you do? And increase it to two carb meals a week to be what level of carbs you need to maintain and also to help combat the hunger inbetween? Not sure whether I am making sense? I guess I am forward planning in my head for maintenance -ok I am having a postive moment given anothr day on SS is drawing to a close!
 
Thanks Kira for the suggestion.

I don't think it suits me to eat lots of carbs, especially refined carbs... but mainly it is cals that are the problem! Because I have been off the steps since May and eating 'normally' (with occasional CD products) it would be quite hard to cut the carbs out again - and cos I am veggie I'd never be able to do Atkins. So really it would mean going back to 810, and last time I tried that it triggered a weeklong binge... sigh.

The challenge for me is to keep eating the way I did in May & June, which was healthily and calmly... without the panics, binges and subsequent starve-days. I need to keep steady. My weight has crept up to 2lbs above goal and seems settled there... I am not happy about that, but getting settled about my food is more important right now than losing the weight. I know what I have to do, but doing it is not as easy as you'd think... but I CAN do it.

Thanks Kira, I appreciate the input but not sure that going back is the answer. Does that make sense?

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Yep makes perfect sense to me. Steady and consistent is definately the way to go. Try to avoid letting yourself get too hungry and equally eating until you are stuffed. It avoids that see-saw effect and consequent binge starve.

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Hey Katy, hope you are well and finding a balance in your choices. Sun was shining here today, but I was stuck behind my desk apart from a quick dash to the post office, feels like such a waste.

Fingers crossed for a great day tomorrow x
 
Thanks everyone for ideas and words of encouragement... still no sun here but no rain either, so will settle for that! Got a busy day ahead, yikes... working, then 2x sofas arriving later... so have room to dust & brush & mop etc before then. And then assembling them & endless re-arranging that will go on all weekend... we are basically swapping two rooms over. Old & slightly wrecked bed settee has gone into son's room (only place it would fit!) as an extra bed for emergencies, which means a big long desk/shelvey thing has to go... it's like a jigsaw. I foresee a trip to the tip!

Yesterday did not end well, but trying to stay calm and not jump into a binge. I can do it.

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Mine neither Katy, we joined a choir last night, great fun, but my memory definately needs some attention. So trying to remember the words will be good in more ways than one!
On the way home my daughters stopped for chips. hmm... I had a few, a little roe and some fish. All small amounts but....... No matter, it's just a bit scary isn't it? It's experimentation for me at this stage and I'm trying to see it as a challenge/learning thing and not panic. I'm going to try to bookmark that post KD put up on 'normal eating.' I've been thinking a lot about that.
You'll be fine, we all will. When you come through this bit (and you will,) you'll be so much stronger and better equipped to continue with normal eating too. For me, now, this is the thing to be concentrating on, not so much the weight loss bit. I think they should probably be seperate things for a while. Might this be the way for you too?
Because we are 'grown up' (ha!) and intelligent, we are supposed to know about healthy food/and act on our knowledge. But if it was that easy, if life was that easy none of us would need any help in any form - little medical help, psychiatric, mood altering medication, therapy and so on. It's not. Knowing and understanding and being able to act on that understanding are all seperate things.
Just remember the 'be gentle with yourself'. It's so important to do this. I'd rather be a flawed human being who asks for help to find my way and hopes to give it sometimes in return, than someone who can always cope, (or thinks they can.)
I've always found that women support each other through life, that support has been invaluable to me and I know on a few occasions I've been helpful to other women too. It's ok not to cope sometimes, let it go. All shall be well.
 
Hugs Bess... all shall be well. It sounds so comforting. I hope so... really, really, hope so.

Have just googled Harcombe Diet after reading something somebody posted on main thread, very interesting... all about quelling cravings. There are three phases, one, maintenance, which is a way of eating for life. I can't help being seduced by this... it could be the way of maintaining Kira was trying to find for me in her post. But a part of me thinks that I am clutching at straws and should be able to do this bit alone... confusing.

I would love to know if KD, Porgeous or anyone really has views on Harcombe?

I am not looking for a way to lose weight with this, but to stop the cravings.

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Katycakes said:
Hugs Bess... all shall be well. It sounds so comforting. I hope so... really, really, hope so.

Have just googled Harcombe Diet after reading something somebody posted on main thread, very interesting... all about quelling cravings. There are three phases, one, maintenance, which is a way of eating for life. I can't help being seduced by this... it could be the way of maintaining Kira was trying to find for me in her post. But a part of me thinks that I am clutching at straws and should be able to do this bit alone... confusing.

I would love to know if KD, Porgeous or anyone really has views on Harcombe?

I am not looking for a way to lose weight with this, but to stop the cravings.

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See I don't think having the cravings is a bad thing. It's how we deal with them that's the issue. The hardest hardest thing for me is not acting on the cravings. I'm getting so much better at it with my little mantra below. x
 
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