Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
My OH half has been in America the past 2 weeks working on our land.
On his way to the property on his second day in town, he had a flat tire. 20 miles from the nearest telephone or area that would get a mobile signal. He had to hitch a ride, convince the recovery truck to pick him up away from his vehicle and deal with this, the second day there. It cost $500 for the ordeal.
Reason being - the spare tire that was in the back of the truck, which is stored in my mothers driveway, was gone. Someone has taken it.
Sadly - all leads and beliefs point to my brother.
I am gutted and shocked and saddened and sickened to think he would steal from us. He is very flaky, at a very low point in his life, and anything is possible....but I would have hoped he had decency in his boundaries.
My OH is convinced of it, and he arrives at my moms today, in order for my friend to take him to the airport.
I am so worried what is going to happen. My husband is steaming mad. His family have been victims of family-theft several years ago at a level much much more serious then a tire. But he is very raw about it all. And I am so terrified he is going to beat my brother up. (I say this, because my brother is a hot-head and will take the first punch. My OH is not the type not to defend himself, and hi is bigger then my bro. And he is very VERY angry.
If my mom sees any of this, or hears any of this, she will never sleep again. For example, If a cloud blows to the left in stead of the right she has sleepless nights for months wndering and worrying abuot why the cloud went that way. (Daft example - but just the point that EVERYTHING causes her to lay in bed worrying. She has not really slept at all since my dad died in 1993. )
I am so worried right now. I am sad right now. I am anxious right now. I am just - well - I really want to scream and cry and kick.
The relationship with my brother is crumbling. My OH is writing him off today and if he is there he is tellinghim that he is dead to him, that he no longer has a brother in law and maybe no sister now too, and for him to never ever come to us for help again. (We are the last two who have tried to sstay on his side in life and help him - but we are through. He is 50, an dhe is such a f*ck up its not even funny, and we just cannot do it anymore). But I know, or fear, this will now create HUGE trauma for my mom, who will then feel she no longer has a son in law, and I will be well and truly piggy-in-the middle!!!
I have been so stressed and unsettled for so long now, I am at my wits end! I really am.
I love all my family, their good and their bad. And I feel it crumbling away slowly. And I am so far away from mom. She is 90 and this all knocks her for such a loop, it could make her quite ill.
And I just feel so so helpless, 6000 miles away - and there is nothing I can do.
I should be bubbling over with excitement today - i got confirmation I am getting the good local job I wanted, my husband is returning home, and all I can do is fight back tears.
My neck is like a rod of steel - I can barely move.
My tooth is killing me.
My other health (TMI Stuff) is bothering me.
It just does not end.
:cry::cry::cry:
OK. I lost the fight.
I just needed to vent.
On his way to the property on his second day in town, he had a flat tire. 20 miles from the nearest telephone or area that would get a mobile signal. He had to hitch a ride, convince the recovery truck to pick him up away from his vehicle and deal with this, the second day there. It cost $500 for the ordeal.
Reason being - the spare tire that was in the back of the truck, which is stored in my mothers driveway, was gone. Someone has taken it.
Sadly - all leads and beliefs point to my brother.
I am gutted and shocked and saddened and sickened to think he would steal from us. He is very flaky, at a very low point in his life, and anything is possible....but I would have hoped he had decency in his boundaries.
My OH is convinced of it, and he arrives at my moms today, in order for my friend to take him to the airport.
I am so worried what is going to happen. My husband is steaming mad. His family have been victims of family-theft several years ago at a level much much more serious then a tire. But he is very raw about it all. And I am so terrified he is going to beat my brother up. (I say this, because my brother is a hot-head and will take the first punch. My OH is not the type not to defend himself, and hi is bigger then my bro. And he is very VERY angry.
If my mom sees any of this, or hears any of this, she will never sleep again. For example, If a cloud blows to the left in stead of the right she has sleepless nights for months wndering and worrying abuot why the cloud went that way. (Daft example - but just the point that EVERYTHING causes her to lay in bed worrying. She has not really slept at all since my dad died in 1993. )
I am so worried right now. I am sad right now. I am anxious right now. I am just - well - I really want to scream and cry and kick.
The relationship with my brother is crumbling. My OH is writing him off today and if he is there he is tellinghim that he is dead to him, that he no longer has a brother in law and maybe no sister now too, and for him to never ever come to us for help again. (We are the last two who have tried to sstay on his side in life and help him - but we are through. He is 50, an dhe is such a f*ck up its not even funny, and we just cannot do it anymore). But I know, or fear, this will now create HUGE trauma for my mom, who will then feel she no longer has a son in law, and I will be well and truly piggy-in-the middle!!!
I have been so stressed and unsettled for so long now, I am at my wits end! I really am.
I love all my family, their good and their bad. And I feel it crumbling away slowly. And I am so far away from mom. She is 90 and this all knocks her for such a loop, it could make her quite ill.
And I just feel so so helpless, 6000 miles away - and there is nothing I can do.
I should be bubbling over with excitement today - i got confirmation I am getting the good local job I wanted, my husband is returning home, and all I can do is fight back tears.
My neck is like a rod of steel - I can barely move.
My tooth is killing me.
My other health (TMI Stuff) is bothering me.
It just does not end.
:cry::cry::cry:
OK. I lost the fight.
I just needed to vent.
