Update.
Ok, I did go back on to the site, and chatted some more to him. (yes, that was wrong and bad of me!).
It went along the lines of talking about sites and how some people were very decietful, so I cut to the chase and told him I was looking for dates and didnt want to waste time chatting on line for ages. He said ok, but if you decide you want a friend please feel free.
OK, a good sign, but why the hell did he not say he was already dating someone!!
Then he called me (the real me), and we chatted. I told him I had decided to take my profile off the site we met on, completely. He asked why., and I said I just thought it was wrong as I was seeing him and even though our profiles said friendship, I just thought it was time to stop altogether. He said ok, so I asked him what he thought about it. His reply was "I have never thought about it, but will". He then mentioned that I have friends on the site I chat too, and I said yes, but the friends have my email and can talk to me that way or on msn. I also said he could do the same with the friends he has made. I am fully aware he has some friends he has never met, but chats to and that does not bother me at all.
I asked him was he on other sites, and he said yes, but never went on them (lie one). I asked what ones, he stammered (always a sign), and said he couldnt remember, he would have a look (lie two). I then just restated that I would like him to think about the site and let me know what he thought.
Anyway, later on, (as you can imagine I was not happy), so I had to call him up and let him know I had spotted him on another site stating he was looking for long term, and had new pics up on it, plus he was on it today! As you can imagine the conversation was not a good one. I got accused of spying (to which I admitted). But isnt it funny how the tables get turned when someone knows they are in trouble. It went along the lines of;
I said your on another site stating your looking for long term.
He said, its an old profile.
I said, you have new pictures up.
He said, I updated it recently, but never go on it.
I says, you were on it today.
Then I got accused of spying. haha
I then told him its wrong what he is doing and he should be telling people the truth (I almost admitted to chatting to him as someone else, I was that mad, but held back). I also told him that if he is in a relationship with someone then it should be exclusive, and if he is not happy in our relationship then finish it, and he can chat to whom he likes.
The upshot of it all is he texted me later to tell me "profile amended and up to date pic deleted". It left me feeling a bit cold to be honest. I never replied, but was very tempted to say, what about the other one, but will let his conscience sort that one out.
Now my head tells me this one is clearly over. The trust issue has been broken (by both of us), and I should finish it. But the stupid side of me is saying, give it a chance have the face to face talk and tell him how I feel and ask him how he feels.
I need some outside views on this one please?
Also I did notice while snooping that soooo many men are not just on the one site. How the hell do you weed out the genuines?
Thanks for letting me rant a little too x
