nasty comments

[old_user45]

Just to reiterate what others have said really...

You shouldn't have to listen to this - perhaps if it happens again and begins to bother you, mention it to a member of staff.

We should all have the right to exercise, socialise, shop etc wherever we like, and not have to listen to the (flawed) views of people whose lives are so pathetic they have no excitement of their own to talk about so just comment on others' imperfections!!

As much as we are all unhappy with how we look etc (we wouldn't be here otherwise!!), doesnt mean we need to hear it confirmed by spiteful others. As everyone else says, hold your head up high, and concentrate on making the best of yourself, safe in the knowledge that even overweight you're 100 times more desirable then the both of them put together!!

Big Hugs!!

xxx

 

[NN89]

Can I just say, yes what those girls said was ignorant- but it was also a private conversation, and overhead by someone who doesn't know them.

In a way it's sort of bringing yourself down to their level calling them idiots, immature, bad personality, insecure, childish and *****es..

what they said wasn't nice, but it certainly doesn't make them any of the above by one comment- just as it was wrong of them to judge a person by their size. I'm really shocked, and surprise the amount of malicous name calling from women who are old enough to be my mum!

 

[old_user45]

I think perhaps perople are drawing more on personal experiences they have had in the past in their posts. I certainly was. It seems that far too many people (of all ages) feel they have a right to comment on how fat/ugly/unfit others are, without nay regard for teh consequences of such behaviour.

It can't have been nice to hear what those girls said, and perhaps they should have considered how loud they were saying it? Gyms are loud places with all the machines and music, so to be overheard they must have been very inconcsiderate with how loud they were having thier offensive private converation?

I also think it's unfair to mention about the age of those posting in here, I'm only early 20's myself, so remeber well the naive days when I thought I ws invincible, and could say what I wanted to who I wanted, but that doesn't make it right. Just because some ladies (and gents!) on here are older, does that mean they shouldn't get offeded at such comments, or that they should not be able to voice their unhappiness with it?

 

[NN89]

I think perhaps perople are drawing more on personal experiences they have had in the past in their posts. I certainly was. It seems that far too many people (of all ages) feel they have a right to comment on how fat/ugly/unfit others are, without nay regard for teh consequences of such behaviour.

It can't have been nice to hear what those girls said, and perhaps they should have considered how loud they were saying it? Gyms are loud places with all the machines and music, so to be overheard they must have been very inconcsiderate with how loud they were having thier offensive private converation?

I also think it's unfair to mention about the age of those posting in here, I'm only early 20's myself, so remeber well the naive days when I thought I ws invincible, and could say what I wanted to who I wanted, but that doesn't make it right. Just because some ladies (and gents!) on here are older, does that mean they shouldn't get offeded at such comments, or that they should not be able to voice their unhappiness with it?

Im not saying its not right to get offended, but i think it's rather petty to insult the girls as 'barbies and immature' and make nasty comments...when..the thread itself is about nasty comments

 

[KayMarie]

Tell 'em to do one or ignore it.

 

[old_user45]

I do understnd where you're coming from, but the comments made by those girls (and millions more before them - I don't think this is a character assassination aimed at just the two of them) made nasty uncalled-for comments about people who were just going about their business, comments about physical appearance. Whereas what is being aired on here is dissatisfaction with others behaviour, behaviour which has an impact on each and every one of us, whether intentional or otherwise. I think there is a distinction.

Perhaps some comments on here were a bit harsh, but I think they stem from overweight people as a whole having to face up to discrimination and in effect bullying that would be illegal were it to be about our race, age, gender, disabilities...

It's easy to get sick of it after a while...

 

[hayley morgan]

ive not only heard it but heard them talking about me. once i was waiting in the car for my oh and it was really hot so i had the door open and i heard 2 guys behind me saying omg look at the size on that. another time i had someone shout out of the car window hey fat a*se, another time walking back from sw meeting someone shouted out of his window go on a diet and the one that really peed me off was, me and my m8 went for lunch at a pub and i thought i heard the man opposite us say oi look at the size of that girl over there but wasnt sure untill i saw him nudge his wife and say the same thing again. she wasnt paying any attention to him so he did it again and then they both looked round at me i was so embarrassed but i thought no hang on im human too, so i said to the man if you got summit to say about me say it to me. he came up with a cock and bull story that they were talking about the womans neice i know damn well he was talking about me i heard him say it 3 times. but to be honest its like water off a ducks back it doesnt bother me as much i just think stuff em they dont know me as a person they just see the outside and make a judgment.