natpot
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Letter to me
When I did Lighterlife last year the counsellor asked us to write a letter to ourselves in our first week. Decided to put mine here - I haven't read this since last year and I balled my eyes out then so here goes
Dear Natalie
You started LL yesterday because your entire self-worth is tied up in your size and appearance. However flippant this sounds it is true. As you have got larger over the years the confidence you once had has gradually slipped away, leaving you as someone who craves the acceptance and approval of both family and friends, those who really love and care for you but also those that don't.
You feel like a failure who never succeeds in anything, is never able to complete a task. You still have a 'niggle' that you might fail in your LL plans because all your other plans have ultimately failed. Other people close to you will also have similar doubts. HOWEVER, your determination to succeed in this, the desperate nature of your NEED to be slim and the support and therapy offered by the group sessions are all evidence that your life will start to change from today.
Your goals for the future are to be slim (obviously) but also to work on your confidence and believe that others value your opinions - being the shrinking violet at the back of the room is a habit which will require some work to change.
You want to become a healthy role model for A,B & L particularly A(daughter). You want all of your children to have a strong positive sense of self and high self-esteem and also a healthy relationship with food, which since early teens you have not had yourself.
Your husband has supported you through good and bad times, has witnessed and known about morefailed plans than anyone else in your life. Yet still he supports you 100% in this plan both financially (which is very difficult) and emotionally, all of which proves just how much he loves and believes in you and also the depth of his understanding just how much you need to do this as a person.
You need to know that there may be times ahead when you will want to give up and go back to the security and ease of being fat and eating badly. However, security and ease are just perceived states - they are not really how you felt prior to starting this journey. You were unhappy with so much in your life that YOU made the decision to do this for YOURSELF, your family and all of your futures. Love yourself so that others might be able to do the same. X
When I did Lighterlife last year the counsellor asked us to write a letter to ourselves in our first week. Decided to put mine here - I haven't read this since last year and I balled my eyes out then so here goes
Dear Natalie
You started LL yesterday because your entire self-worth is tied up in your size and appearance. However flippant this sounds it is true. As you have got larger over the years the confidence you once had has gradually slipped away, leaving you as someone who craves the acceptance and approval of both family and friends, those who really love and care for you but also those that don't.
You feel like a failure who never succeeds in anything, is never able to complete a task. You still have a 'niggle' that you might fail in your LL plans because all your other plans have ultimately failed. Other people close to you will also have similar doubts. HOWEVER, your determination to succeed in this, the desperate nature of your NEED to be slim and the support and therapy offered by the group sessions are all evidence that your life will start to change from today.
Your goals for the future are to be slim (obviously) but also to work on your confidence and believe that others value your opinions - being the shrinking violet at the back of the room is a habit which will require some work to change.
You want to become a healthy role model for A,B & L particularly A(daughter). You want all of your children to have a strong positive sense of self and high self-esteem and also a healthy relationship with food, which since early teens you have not had yourself.
Your husband has supported you through good and bad times, has witnessed and known about morefailed plans than anyone else in your life. Yet still he supports you 100% in this plan both financially (which is very difficult) and emotionally, all of which proves just how much he loves and believes in you and also the depth of his understanding just how much you need to do this as a person.
You need to know that there may be times ahead when you will want to give up and go back to the security and ease of being fat and eating badly. However, security and ease are just perceived states - they are not really how you felt prior to starting this journey. You were unhappy with so much in your life that YOU made the decision to do this for YOURSELF, your family and all of your futures. Love yourself so that others might be able to do the same. X
