new mums & mums to be !!! Who`s baby is due next ???

[Sunflowers]

Well I'm now on daily clexane injections due to me being in bed so much... And my pethidine has been swapped over for liquid morphine instead so hope that makes a difference...

Only 4 days til pain clinic....

 

[sonkie]

Do you know if these drugs have any effects on the baby...???
I often wonder ...as when I was pregnant with Callum I had gallstone and pancreatitis and was given a lot of pethidine etc during my pregnancy. Surgeons even started giving me steroids for his lungs at 6 months when I had pancreatitis as they were seriously thinking about delivering if my symptoms didnt improve.
Now he has been diagnosed with ADHD I cant help but wonder if its as a result of the drugs I had !!!!!!

What are your thoughts ???????

 

[Sunflowers]

He'll certainly withdraw from them when he's born sadly which is something I'm really struggling to sit comfortably with and feel awful for taking them.. As for long term effects I dont know, I think I read somewhere theyre more predisposed to things like ADHD but if that's the case then it's a predisposition to soemthing they may well have got anyway.. Fish oils are super for this, maybe start him on those?

 

[Bea]

Sunflower......love the photos...you are really "all baby" arent you! I have been lucky on the stretch mark front however think its more to do with the fact that my belly as been so big over the years.....

Not long now till the pain clinic...really hope they are able to do something postiive for you....its just seems soooo unfair that you are in such pain...will you be back to normal after birth...will your recovery take longer!?

OH...I note you have said "he" in your posts.....have you found out or just guessing???


Me....just back after a week away from home with work....really really found it sooo hard...and am totally wrecked tried.....hubby went straight on night shifts so feeling a bit pissed off generally...and can feel a bad head cold coming on......On the postive side its my last work away trip till I come back from mat leave....

Hope you all are having a good weekend.....

 

[Sunflowers]

Ahh Bea, that's kind, I dont feel all baby!!!!!!!! :lol: No, we dont know - I think it's just a midwife thing saying "he" rather than "it"! I hope the painkillers can do something too, the morphine does seem to be more effective than the pethidine which is good.. I know my mw muted the consultants would be happy to induce me at 37 weeks, when she said that to me a week and a bit ago I didn't really want to go down that route but, with thinking about it, I think it's going to be the most sensible option.. That way in 8 weeks time I would be going in to start the process off, rather than waiting potentially 13 weeks to go in to labour naturally.. In terms of recovery Im looking at at least 3 months, the hope is that I might be able to at least walk out of the hospital on crutches (which would be amazing) but in terms of recovery it will be about 3 months before I will be able to think about walking the dog or anything.. In a way the extra (potential) 5 weeks would be good in terms of recovery time, it really is starting to look the most sensible option all round!

Hpoe your cold doesn't get too bad - especially with not being able to take much!! I know it's an old wives tale but slice an onion and pour honey over it, leave overnight.. Next day add the strained honey to boiling water and lots of lemon juice, works wonders... How long have you got til mat leave?

 

[Bea]

I am planning to take at least 9 months off work - would love to take a year off.. but depends on how our finances work out...mortgage repayments etc.....

You sound very up beat Sunflower.....really admire that....wow 8 weeks and you could be holding you little bundle!!

 

[Sunflowers]

Thanks Bea, I have good days and bad days - but then I tend not to post when I'm feeling really overwhelmed by the pain as I think all you guys must think I do is moan, so I try to balance it out a bit..

Have been nesting like crazy today - I can barely put one foot in front of the other now but am still having to work really hard to ignore the utter compulsion to carry on cleaning the house, the bathroom is really really really bugging me at the moment - and it's not even dirty!!! I've scrubbed the kitchen from top to bottom today, swept the stairs - it's taken me so long as I've only been able to do 10-20 minutes at a time and I've been soooooooo slow doing what I have, I'm even slower now..

Hubby has gone to work saying if he can smell flash when he gets home in the morning I'm in trouble!!!


Never known an urge like it!! Dont get me wrong, the house isn't untidy or dirty by a long way - but I really want to do a proper spring clean on it today!!! I literally can barely put on foot in front of the other now - getting to the loo resmembles something like a zombie on go slow - waddle/lurch one foot in front, stop for a few seconds while moaning, then lurch/waddle the next foot forwards, stop again and moan some more, etc etc etc... Morphine starting to kick in now though which is good - I must have been in more pain than I realised, the pain is easing but I've got none of the muzzy headedness people usually get with oramorph, pain receptors must have sucked it right up!!!!

 

[Bea]

LOL.....oh I remember that feeling soooo well...hubby used to be so cross with me and was trying to get me to rest...I'd wait till he left the house and then start srubbing skirting boards and clearing out cupboards....

Sort of have a bit of it at the moment but not as compulsive.....expect that will come soon too....LOL.

Do try to rest as much as you can....is there someone who you could "direct" around the house to clean for you?

Enjoy the pain relief the drugs are giving you!!

 

[Sunflowers]

Trust me, directing hubby to do it would be more painful than doing it myself, cleaning is NOT his strong point!!!!!

I think I've done far too much today, am going to try and limit it to one room a day as otherwise I really wont be able to walk by monday.. Mind you, considering I'm seeing the Pain clinic on monday, being at my worst might actually be no bad thing, not that I'd deliberately try and make it worse but it would be sods law that I'd be having a really good day or something!

Annoyingly, I can't remember whether I took the tablet painkillers at half 8, I really really cant remember.. So I daren't take them, just incase, so may well have a bit of a rough night if I haven't..

 

[Sunflowers]

ok, just worked it out, I hadn't - at least not from the amount of tablets left in the tab..

Fingers crossed I'll get a good nights sleep tonight..

 

[nina]

hey ladies...

sunflower, sounds like i may need a bit of what you are having! care to share ur meds??? joking! i know its not a funny issue to be dealing with this pain...i can only begin to feel the edge of what you're feeling, as sometimes i feel like my c-section scar is going to drop out of my birth canal -- i know TMi!

i have felt the nesting urge for the past two weeks...and i agree...take it day by day...and dont over-exert yourself -- or you will be in more pain -- on the other hand, good thing your pain meds are kicking in, cuz it will allow you to do more than you had, right?

btw, am happy that you will decide to bring baby in 8 weeks -- it will give you more recuperating time...will you still be on the pain meds while breastfeeding? (or do they expect for the pain to be instantly relieved upon delivery?)

finally, how early were you diagnosed with your disorder -- and how did you first become aware that you had a physiological problem?

once again, wishing all the best this week ladies!

 

[Sunflowers]

hey ladies...

sunflower, sounds like i may need a bit of what you are having! care to share ur meds??? joking! i know its not a funny issue to be dealing with this pain...i can only begin to feel the edge of what you're feeling, as sometimes i feel like my c-section scar is going to drop out of my birth canal -- i know TMi!

Nope, now I've found something that really takes the edge off the pain I'm not sharing at all!!!! No, it's not funny as you say, it's worse than any fracture I've ever had and it's not getting better for a while yet either - but at least it's for a wonderful reason.. Sorry that your scar is causing you problems, hope it doesn't get too much worse..


i have felt the nesting urge for the past two weeks...and i agree...take it day by day...and dont over-exert yourself -- or you will be in more pain -- on the other hand, good thing your pain meds are kicking in, cuz it will allow you to do more than you had, right?

I think I'll have to take it day by day, I've really done too much today and need to step it back - but it's hard when I want to turn the house upside down!! I will try not to do too much more actually - just being able to do what I was doing relatively pain free would be lovely..


btw, am happy that you will decide to bring baby in 8 weeks -- it will give you more recuperating time...will you still be on the pain meds while breastfeeding? (or do they expect for the pain to be instantly relieved upon delivery?)

Thank you.. Yeah, it will.. Bean is definitely big enough to cope on the outside at that gestation.. Yes, I will be still on the meds, which is a good thing as it will pass through to bean and help wean him off the medication.. The hope is that I'll be able to at least walk out of the hospital on crutches but they're thinking it will be at least 3 months before I can walk the dog or something..


finally, how early were you diagnosed with your disorder -- and how did you first become aware that you had a physiological problem?

Do you know I first read this as a psychological problem, I was starting to get all offended!!!!! I started getting problems at 9 weeks, recognised it because I'm a midwife and was referred in to the physio shortly afterwards.. By 12 weeks I was in physio but, sadly, I was off work at 14 weeks after a fall..

once again, wishing all the best this week ladies!

xxx

 

[Bea]

Hope you had a good nights sleep Sunflower....and try to keep your feet up today. Best of luck at the pain clinic tommorow.


Nina...good to hear from you....funny you should say that about your csection scar....I am more "concious" of mine as my bump is getting bigger...going to mention to the docs on Friday when we go for our scan....

 

[Sunflowers]

Thanks Bea, not too bad actually - dozed intermittently for 10 minutes at a time until 3ish and then managed to sleep until 7, so got 4 good hours and the odd few mintes before that..

Happy Mothering Sunday everyone!

Well Bean must have been writing a card after all last night when he was kicking, wrigging and stretching like mad at about 2ish as there was one for me this morning!! It was a really personal one for hubby and I - we have a constant "little bit or a lot" "little lot or a lot lot" running joke about something - and hubby managed to find a card that said that sort of thing, was very funny and very very cute!!

So I was feeling all contented with that until there was a really loud knock at the door, to save hubby getting up I waddled downstairs to find a man with the BIGGEST bunch of flowers I've ever seen.. Just when I was getting all excited they were for me he said "I'm looking for number 26, is this it?"

NO, IT'S NUMBER 27 - JUST LIKE IT SAYS ON THE GATE AND NUMBER 26 IS NEXT DOOR.....

I thought hubby had ordered some from bean for me as a surprise, ah well!!!

Humph!!

Hope everyone else is having a lovely day - I think I'm the only one who hasn't had a baby already aren't I?? Hope you're being spoilt by your LOs!

 

[Bea]

Ah well...least you got a card...I got a lovely one from my son which he wrote himself and coloured a picture on I was chuffed.

Hubby has lots of great qualities but present buying and surprises isnt one of them...used to bother but not anymore......suffice to say the above was the limit of my mother's day surprises!! He's on nights this weekend - came home and went to bed!!

A few years ago when our son was little....I arrived home to find a huge bunch of flowers at the front door behind our glass porch (he was on nights and there was no note)....we had a row about him never buying presents....so I was trilled...and took them inside to arrange them in three vases dotted around the house as there were so many flowers....bout an hour later our neighbour dropped around saying the florist has left a note saying she had left her flowers in my porch as they didnt want the flowers getting damaged by rain etc....!!!

So I know how you feel Sunflower!!!

Hugs to all us Mums - expectant ones also fully included....

 

[Sunflowers]

OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bet you must have died on the spot!!!!!!!!

Yeah, my hubby is on nights too so he's fast asleep at the moment, as I have been this morning actually, slept for about 3 hours in total so am feeling A LOT better for it!

 

[Bea]

I did but thankfully she agreed the florist should have made it clearer!! I was even more annoyed with DH! LOL

Great you got some more sleep....I a little nap myself this afternoon trying to shake off this head cold off...and also feel so much better!

Best of luck tomorrow - post when you can to let us know how you get on at the clinic....

 

[nina]

Hope you had a good nights sleep Sunflower....and try to keep your feet up today. Best of luck at the pain clinic tommorow.


Nina...good to hear from you....funny you should say that about your csection scar....I am more "concious" of mine as my bump is getting bigger...going to mention to the docs on Friday when we go for our scan....

bea -- i think its a good idea to speak to the doc about any of your concerns -- let me know what they say about it...i am going to see a the physio on friday (cuz of the pain i had a few weeks ago emanating from the scar, plus groin and hip pain when i sit for long periods of time...

sunflower -- join the club of expectant mothers on mothers day -- awaiting the birth of their (first child)...we have mothers day may 11th in the states...I wonder why its different??

 

[sonkie]

Hi guys....hope you are all as well as possible.....sorry I have not been on much but they boys were at there dads at the weekend and all I did was sleep.
My hips and groin are also playing up, mostly at night when turning over but it has now crept into daytime too if I sit for long stretches......but I am coping with the pain.......I so feel for Helen, hope you take it easy though I know how hard it is to ignore the urges to get the place just right to bring your little one home into.
I am trying to get Marks cat out of the very bad habit of jumping on the kitchen sides......I have never allowed any of my cats too as its so unhygienic, so when she jumps up she gets a shower.......lol. She is not jumping up as much but still occassionally does.

I told midwife about my hips/groin and she said if it gets worse she will refer me to physio.

 

[sonkie]

Hey Bea is it this month you get another scan .....?????
Hope you get to find out what you are having.....!