Support and resistance from friends/family fascinates me! When I started this I had a colleague who was really unimpressed and unsupportive about it, and now she's more support than most people! ..and, like you, I suspect that once I get near target, it'll change again, and I'll have to deal with withdrawn support and unhelpful attitudes/responses
Possible scenarios that come to my mind:
-unnecessary concern/worry
-lack of understanding, knowledge
-envy/jealousy
-finding change hard to cope with
-being insecure about what this change might mean for your relationships
-not realising that you have a very clear and healthy/safe plan that you are sticking to.
-or, being supportive at first, but now that you seem confident and stronger in what you're doing, going back to their 'normal' role of taking the mick and winding you up, cause it's what they know, and how they normally function (like they're bored or unable to sustain that more supportive side of themselves!)
I'm sure there's lots of other possible reasons.. they're just a few off the top of my head...
..and solutions? hmm...
-teaching them exactly what your goal is and how much you'd like support for this final 'sprint to the finish line'
-lovingly and caringly finding out whether they have worries and concerns about what you're doing, so that you can alleviate their fears.
-joking with them (if you can't beat em join em), my thoughtful OH really enjoyed putting his amazing meals right under my nose when I was first on the diet, and instead of being annoyed, I played along, talked about the food with enthusiasm (secretly knowing that just cause he was being a git - I was REALLY GENUINELY RELIEVED with what I was doing, so he could s*d off! Haha! - but instead of saying that, I did the exact opposite, and enjoyed the conversation! He soon stopped cause he wasn't getting a rise out of me!! Hahaha! I won (and he doesn't even know I was beating him at his own game!! Hahaha
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-simply, assertively, saying something like:
"I am completing what I set out to complete. I will complete this without your support if you don't want to give it, but it would be more enjoyable to complete this with your support"
If you choose one short, honest, loving, assertive, caring sentence like this - which respects yourself and respects them - and then you say it EVERY TIME they are unsupportive.. phrased in exactly the same way.. they'll soon ACTUALLY HEAR YOU!
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Do any of those ideas help?? Hope so
Glad you have good support with your CDC
Vx
(ps My understanding of the BMI 25 rule is about when you can START CD, with the aim of being a healthy BMI at the end of stepping back up through the programmes... and if thats right, you're doing fine, danielparty! ..Im going to go and ask on a new thread)