I totally agree. Your head has to be in the right place. For so long now I have been trying to get my hubby to join S W as he needs to lose about 3st. He dabbled quite a while ago, he didnt need to understand it as I provided meals etc and he just ate what I put in front of him. He then decided to start eating rubbish again, the rest is history. He is diabetic and did his bloods the other day and they were raised and it frightenend him so much that he said, "thats it I need to lose weigh" I asked him what he wanted me to do, I said I was only too willing to help him and I would plan his meals etc but that he would have to meet me half way, no more denial, no more secret eating and not being honest about it! He agreed, he started Monday and has lost 3 lbs so for, and said he is really enjoying his meals, doesnt feel hungry, and is feeling very positive and motivated. He still doesnt understand plan, doesnt really want to understand it, he just says you give me what I should have! His head is now in the right place, so he will succeed if he keeps on like he is. safc whatever you decide to do I hope it goes well for you