Miss_Bettany
Full Member
I went out into town today,, on the train, and met up with a friend I haven't seen for a few months. When I spoke to her on the phone to arrange it, I told her about LL and what i'm doing (she had already been told I'd lost a lot of weight by another friend, so wasn't overly surprised).
Anyway, when we met up her eyebrows went right up when she saw me, though she made no comment. She then spent all morning telling me that I mustn't loose too much weight, that I must eat something, did I want a cake with my coffee, etc etc etc.
I deflected all the comments, justified (quietly) my decision and carried on with my coffee and water, and then we ended up going for lunch. She got herself a sandwich and crisps and told me all the way through that I would regain the weight when I hit the menopause etc, THEN asked me if I wanted a cake (AGAIN). Erm, NO THANKYOU!
So off she trotted to the counter while I rang my hubby for a silent scream (had texted him so he was aware!)
She returned with TWO CAKES and told me to choose one! I could, at this point, have slapped her. So I eyeballed her, and said very clearly that if she continued to bully me into eating, she would not see me again until I had finished losing my weight. That this is MY life and MY journey and she would NOT undermine me and make me eat. That it had nothing to do with her or anyone else, and to make her choice. She held my gaze until I said "I mean it. I will NOT be forced to eat by you". She then looked away, changed the subject and ate both cakes!!!!!!!
I was shaking, but we parted on good terms and nothing more was mentioned about me eating for the rest of the day.
Oh, did I mention that despite still needing to lose 5 stones, I'm THINNER than her now???
Anyway, when we met up her eyebrows went right up when she saw me, though she made no comment. She then spent all morning telling me that I mustn't loose too much weight, that I must eat something, did I want a cake with my coffee, etc etc etc.
I deflected all the comments, justified (quietly) my decision and carried on with my coffee and water, and then we ended up going for lunch. She got herself a sandwich and crisps and told me all the way through that I would regain the weight when I hit the menopause etc, THEN asked me if I wanted a cake (AGAIN). Erm, NO THANKYOU!
So off she trotted to the counter while I rang my hubby for a silent scream (had texted him so he was aware!)
She returned with TWO CAKES and told me to choose one! I could, at this point, have slapped her. So I eyeballed her, and said very clearly that if she continued to bully me into eating, she would not see me again until I had finished losing my weight. That this is MY life and MY journey and she would NOT undermine me and make me eat. That it had nothing to do with her or anyone else, and to make her choice. She held my gaze until I said "I mean it. I will NOT be forced to eat by you". She then looked away, changed the subject and ate both cakes!!!!!!!
I was shaking, but we parted on good terms and nothing more was mentioned about me eating for the rest of the day.
Oh, did I mention that despite still needing to lose 5 stones, I'm THINNER than her now???