Hi hun, I don't have any trouble orgasming as such, but pretty much always orgasm once aroused. As in I'm either very on, or completly off, there's no middle ground. The sex has been better since LT since my bf n I have lost 3st between us. I do find it harder to get in the mood tho. I am a bit (understatment of the century) preoccupied with LT and my weight, and thinking about my fat puts me off. I know some of my friends, get a tiny bit aroused, the sex happens, and then they may or may not get aroused enought to orgasm. Honestly I think thinking about it will make it worse. Relax and enjoy the pleasure of sex without an orgasm. If you enjoy it your husband will to. If an orgasm happens it happens