unfortunatly this is how the world works....we do everything with our eyes...even eat (we see nice food and then we want to eat)...
so if we see an attractive person, we would much rather talk and interact with them.
and about the obese man vs obese woman. firstly we should consider males are already more successful than womem in jobs, this bbc program said that 94% of the higher positions in central london is held by men.
and larger man being succesful is not really a new thing. in our history class, my teacher said that in victorian or henry times, men used to stuff clothing in their bellies to appear bigger. this showed signs of wealth and success aparently.
ive not had a propper job yet, but i can understand how people open up to me more when i was in better shape.
i think maybe people dont like the idea of a larger unattractive woman?...woman are naturally pretty, have nice eyes, hair etc, and if we see a unattractive one, maybe it dont suit. where as men can be unattractive and large because theyre roles in history have been more as providers and workers? i dunno...interesting though...