Well, a word of warning this is going to be abit of a moan. Infact as I begin to type I'm literally suffering with virtual diorahhea(SP?) and I'm thinking I may not submit afterall!
OK...so...I'm married to a chef (for fellow chef's wives I probably don't need to say much more and you probably know the flavours that are to follow!) For the past 4 years I have spent almost every night, especially Fri/Sat home alone with my son, aged 8. OK so Ive had some nights out but not many...the feeling of fat just wasn't worth it! His current job is about a 45mins drive from home and his hours are basically dusk til dawn!
He's been off for 8 weeks due to an op and has just returned this week. I know that it isnt realistic to think that he could be a house husband, I wouldnt want that but I would prefer him to work more sociable hours. He knows exactly how I feel as its the ONLY aspect of our relationship we niggle over! Quite sad but even after 4 years and getting married Ive found it tricky working out who he is!! After a ropey start (I was very insecure and he was very out there-weird combination I guess?) I'm pretty convinced he loves me, he's very affectionate etc but I'm just SICK OF WAITING FOR MY LIFE TO BEGIN!
I try to be thankful for what I have...a healthy, gorgeous boy, a nice house, decent job (No family but thats a whole different story!) BUT BIG BUT I just can't help feeling that I'm somehow missing out. His phone goes constantly morning/noon/night, we hardly speak when he's at work and if we do its only a decent conversation if Im moaning about something!!!! maybe thats why I whinge so much!
I just feel that he hasn't found the balance between work/home...and while Im waiting for him to find it life's passing me by! If I try to talk to him about it it's like a major de ja vu as we've been there a million times before and the outcomes always the same. We carry on regardless! Nothing changes! He gets MAD with me and when I say chef I mean Gordon Ramsey! He swears alot, smokes too much and lives off stella and diet coke. He never has any energy left for me and son and even his mum thinks he puts his job first!ARGHHH!!!!!!!
We have a business opportunity arising, which TBH is my idea/baby/project but he's even started to dictate about that! he says that when that takes off he will walk away from his current job but Im not convinced....its in his blood
WHAT CAN I DO?
OK...so...I'm married to a chef (for fellow chef's wives I probably don't need to say much more and you probably know the flavours that are to follow!) For the past 4 years I have spent almost every night, especially Fri/Sat home alone with my son, aged 8. OK so Ive had some nights out but not many...the feeling of fat just wasn't worth it! His current job is about a 45mins drive from home and his hours are basically dusk til dawn!
He's been off for 8 weeks due to an op and has just returned this week. I know that it isnt realistic to think that he could be a house husband, I wouldnt want that but I would prefer him to work more sociable hours. He knows exactly how I feel as its the ONLY aspect of our relationship we niggle over! Quite sad but even after 4 years and getting married Ive found it tricky working out who he is!! After a ropey start (I was very insecure and he was very out there-weird combination I guess?) I'm pretty convinced he loves me, he's very affectionate etc but I'm just SICK OF WAITING FOR MY LIFE TO BEGIN!
I try to be thankful for what I have...a healthy, gorgeous boy, a nice house, decent job (No family but thats a whole different story!) BUT BIG BUT I just can't help feeling that I'm somehow missing out. His phone goes constantly morning/noon/night, we hardly speak when he's at work and if we do its only a decent conversation if Im moaning about something!!!! maybe thats why I whinge so much!
I just feel that he hasn't found the balance between work/home...and while Im waiting for him to find it life's passing me by! If I try to talk to him about it it's like a major de ja vu as we've been there a million times before and the outcomes always the same. We carry on regardless! Nothing changes! He gets MAD with me and when I say chef I mean Gordon Ramsey! He swears alot, smokes too much and lives off stella and diet coke. He never has any energy left for me and son and even his mum thinks he puts his job first!ARGHHH!!!!!!!
We have a business opportunity arising, which TBH is my idea/baby/project but he's even started to dictate about that! he says that when that takes off he will walk away from his current job but Im not convinced....its in his blood
WHAT CAN I DO?
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