You know what, I have just sat and read your last post, I think what you have paid/ are paying for other people is ridiculious!!! Since when did the bride and groom pay for travel arrangements for ANY guest?? Ok it might be good manners, but if you are getting married and invite people, you pay for their meal, entertainment etc not the rest, if they are coming to your wedding let them pay, this is 2009 after all, and as for the respect issue, when did money ever buy real respect???
Forget all of it, the only people that matter are you and your OH, if you let this go on, on your wedding day you will be running round buy them drinks, wiping their chin, and dare I say wiping their bums!!
This is your big day, the only cost should be the ones you want to make, and if its extravagance you want doves, fireworks, balloons etc are better than paying for where some selfish ignornant people are going to put their heads down!
Sorry if thats a bit harsh :sigh: