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A note to my hungry/anxious/tired/sad/frustrated self...

1. It's not anyone else's fault you're feeling this way. You're not stuffing your emotions and finding solace with food. This isn't easy. Don't take it out on those who love you and whom you love. They don't deserve it.

2. You are not an evil/bad/unmitigated disaster of a person for having food issues. It's not surprising having grown up with addiction and inappropriate emotional circumstances in your childhood that you'd have some of these character flaws.

3. Life will not be perfect when you...
  1. settle the case/have fewer money worries
  2. lose weight
  3. get a boob lift
  4. finally get some self esteem
4. Life will get better when you learn how to deal with stress/anxiety/pressure better. You can learn how to do that.

Now, self, keep a steady view on the horizon without losing sight of where your feet are firmly on the ground of reality.

Also, learn to take off your make up!
  1. do consistent exercise
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Thanks, toots. I might have to print and hang around me!
You could probably get it copywrited and put on a coaster - I'm sure it will speak to a lot of people ;)

It's all in my crazy-head! All the time.

One thing I'm going to do is stop fantasizing about tomorrow, next week, when I lose weight...and focus on today. Not wasting today.
Fantastic post!!! And so so very neccessary to hear/say.
Mainly the fantasising thing..imagining scenarios where I'm totally hot and have the world at my feet. It's a bit disturbing, but I think elements of this apply to me:

Narcissistic personality disorder - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

In order for a person to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) they must meet five or more of the following symptoms:
  • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
  • Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
  • Rarely acknowledges mistakes and/or imperfections
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
  • Lacks empathy: is unwilling or unable to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
  • Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
  • Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitude.
some of these, not all, apply.
We did this in work a few months back (as a lot of my case work is mental health) where a specialist came in and took us through the less common disorders.

Personality disorders affect about 10% of the population but are really hard to diagnose (usually need specialist assessment by 2 specialist).

However we all have personality traits that fit within certain disorder spectrums so we'll all recognise aspects of ourselves in the "lists".
Well my ideas of my own gradiosity when I'm thin/boobs done/etc are a major issue. I can't feel comfortable in my own skin, no matter what size. I'm doing a bit of body/relationship/sexual counselling. Had to stop because of cost but will pick back up in the new year, I'm hoping.

It's not easy--- it's so easy to idealise people/situations/lifestyles/body images and think of ourselves in a fantastic idealised way...however, in my case, it's led me seriously astray from finding my 'true self' so it's something I hope to work on.

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