I can't believe I'm going to ask this question, but here it is. I don't know whether I'm technically allowed to ask this here, if I shouldn't have because the topic is against rules, then I apologise.
So I've recently started seeing a guy, and it's going pretty well, we both seem to really like each other. Anyway, so I've never had a proper relationship before really, and I've never had sex. He has. We're getting to the point where sex is something that we both want and both feel ready for.
The thing is though, I'm pretty shy, and my confidence levels aren't that great. I love the idea of having sex with him, but the idea of him seeing me naked... not so good!! I just feel really self conscious because of my weight. I could do with losing about 5 stone, and am an 18-20 with a big ugly tummy.
He's not rushing me, at all. He's amazing, he knew from the outset that I hadn't had sex or a relationship before, and he's totally cool with that. He's said he doesn't care if in a years time we still haven't had sex, it's about when I'm happy and ready. Even then I think I'd be nervous about actually getting naked in front of him. It's not that I don't want to, I'm just nervous about it, and if there's anyone that I've ever wanted to let see me naked, it's him.
So I don't really know what to do, I don't want to not take things further with him because of it, but I don't know how to make myself feel less self conscious. I know there's the option of keeping a tshirt on or something, but I can't imagine that's all that sexy to a guy. I just don't know really. Any advice?
So I've recently started seeing a guy, and it's going pretty well, we both seem to really like each other. Anyway, so I've never had a proper relationship before really, and I've never had sex. He has. We're getting to the point where sex is something that we both want and both feel ready for.
The thing is though, I'm pretty shy, and my confidence levels aren't that great. I love the idea of having sex with him, but the idea of him seeing me naked... not so good!! I just feel really self conscious because of my weight. I could do with losing about 5 stone, and am an 18-20 with a big ugly tummy.
He's not rushing me, at all. He's amazing, he knew from the outset that I hadn't had sex or a relationship before, and he's totally cool with that. He's said he doesn't care if in a years time we still haven't had sex, it's about when I'm happy and ready. Even then I think I'd be nervous about actually getting naked in front of him. It's not that I don't want to, I'm just nervous about it, and if there's anyone that I've ever wanted to let see me naked, it's him.
So I don't really know what to do, I don't want to not take things further with him because of it, but I don't know how to make myself feel less self conscious. I know there's the option of keeping a tshirt on or something, but I can't imagine that's all that sexy to a guy. I just don't know really. Any advice?