advice required xxxxxx please :)

[jenesabby]

Whenever you are on a weight maintenance diet, you should only stick to foods that are of low carbohydrates. This definitely means that you will have to keep off those pastries and anything with white flour and sugar.If you are on a weight loss diet, you should avoid foods that contain wheat or grain. Therefore, you cannot have bread because it is forbidden unless your diet is a weight maintenance diet and not a weight loss diet.You can eat sugar added foods or settle for starch vegetable diets like potatoes and maize. Just remember that starch and sugar have many carbohydrates in them.Work closely with your dietitian. He should give you clear instructions on how to balance your diet in meats, fish, poultry and other products like butter and eggs. Be careful with processed foods because these generally have high carbohydrates.Mustard greens, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, green beans, broccoli and lettuce are just some of the vegetables that are most suitable for you at this period of your diet. This is because they are of low starch content.

 

[kered]

Oh good, glad you have got it all working now. Happy mobile(ing)........lol

 

[harriet2]

Whenever you are on a weight maintenance diet, you should only stick to foods that are of low carbohydrates. This definitely means that you will have to keep off those pastries and anything with white flour and sugar.If you are on a weight loss diet, you should avoid foods that contain wheat or grain. Therefore, you cannot have bread because it is forbidden unless your diet is a weight maintenance diet and not a weight loss diet.You can eat sugar added foods or settle for starch vegetable diets like potatoes and maize. Just remember that starch and sugar have many carbohydrates in them.Work closely with your dietitian. He should give you clear instructions on how to balance your diet in meats, fish, poultry and other products like butter and eggs. Be careful with processed foods because these generally have high carbohydrates.Mustard greens, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, green beans, broccoli and lettuce are just some of the vegetables that are most suitable for you at this period of your diet. This is because they are of low starch content.

lol what? im doing my own diet thanks!!!!

 

[harriet2]

k today had
b - main summer fruits shake 180?
l - power bar 200
d- veggie burger, half a wm bun, mango chutney, salad
s - biscuits

3 1/2 hrs heavy digging

reason i had biscuits today was i went up the allotment and guess who was there...$hithead, thats who..whistling away...i muttered a few swearwords under my breath and was shaking. steve said take no notice, you can do what you like, so i calmed down and stayed up there but it was hell i hate that man, i really do. on a good note i heard back about my first appointment for councelling which they do over the phone to assess if you really need help? well yes i do i think next monday lunchtime

h x

 

[SandraB]

Whenever you are on a weight maintenance diet, you should only stick to foods that are of low carbohydrates. This definitely means that you will have to keep off those pastries and anything with white flour and sugar.If you are on a weight loss diet, you should avoid foods that contain wheat or grain. Therefore, you cannot have bread because it is forbidden unless your diet is a weight maintenance diet and not a weight loss diet.You can eat sugar added foods or settle for starch vegetable diets like potatoes and maize. Just remember that starch and sugar have many carbohydrates in them.Work closely with your dietitian. He should give you clear instructions on how to balance your diet in meats, fish, poultry and other products like butter and eggs. Be careful with processed foods because these generally have high carbohydrates.Mustard greens, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, green beans,
broccoli and lettuce are just some of the vegetables that are most suitable for you at this period of your diet. This is because they are of low starch content.

What?? The words, grandmother, suck and eggs spring to mind, like, hello!!!

 

[summergurl]

I'm glad yous have responded to that I wasn't quite sure what to say without sounding a complete b*tch lol

 

[SandraB]

Mmmmm most weird and totally random! Odd, odd, odd

 

[kered]

Good luck for the phone appointment on Monday chick xx

 

[Zebs07]

Good luck for the phone appointment on Monday chick xx

Yeah ditto to that! And also Big Up to facing fears at ur allotment!! Way to go ... Ur doing AMAZING x

Ps ... What crisps are they with those cals???????

 

[harriet2]

Yeah ditto to that! And also Big Up to facing fears at ur allotment!! Way to go ... Ur doing AMAZING x

Ps ... What crisps are they with those cals???????

oh dear they are ones id never seen before from morrisons with a jacket potato on the outside in tomato flavour..the kids hated them but they were fine i thought! esp with those calories lol

the allotment thing, well ive been eating crappily today, i knew id go backwards after and i have, i always do still tomorrow is another day. i did run 1 mile today so thats something

h x

 

[harriet2]

Mmmmm most weird and totally random! Odd, odd, odd

telling me, i thought what on earth is she going on about lol dont even know you and your going off on one! hullo to you too! lol

 

[summergurl]

Crisps?!!! I'm lost where is the crips mention?! lol

 

[SandraB]

I'm glad yous have responded to that I wasn't quite sure what to say without sounding a complete b*tch lol

As if! Just had a look at this odd person's profile but there wasn't much to see......

 

[harriet2]

ok. food for the last couple of days has been rubbish as ive been unwell but hopefully tomorrow will be better. hoping for a nice day tomorrow so we can go up the allotment again and heres to burning off a few more calories. oh and lost 1 lb this week

h x

 

[harriet2]

this morning i had a lightbulb moment. ive allowed myself to finally think about why i eat the way i do and ive linked it the 'plumber' and also the fact i was abused when i was a lot younger (about 9 i think) by an older boy (about 15) and made to do a lot of sexual stuff otherwise he would hurt me..his words for a few months. i know exactly what im doing. i blame myself for not standing up for myself and doing what i was told. i was weak. i lack control over my food as well. the only time ive had control was when i was on a strict diet. control. what i didnt have when i was made to do stuff or felt weak and helpless cause i didnt stick up for myself. why the hell havent i thought about this before? cause ive buried it for bloody years thats why. this is like a revelation to me!!!!! i want to shout it from the rooftops lol

god. now ive just got to sort out how to get over that bit. ive got to wait for about 4 months for counselling on the nhs. by that time i might have sorted it out for myself lol

h xx

n.b did i make myself more susceptible to people like that somehow cause it happened twice or was i just unlucky????

you know what really makes me scared is the thought you all might think i was asking for it and was tarty or something ???

 

[JanD]

Oh Harriet why on earth would you think we might think that?? You were 9 for goodness' sake! And even if you'd been older it wouldn't have been anything to do with you. It was the perpetrator's sick actions.
But well done you for allowing yourself to recall this and finally be able to start to do something to come to terms with it. Just the awareness will help but you're doing the right thing in seeking counselling to help you work through it. Four months seems like a long time but it will soon pass and if you're not in a position to go privately it's your best option. In the meantime don't allow it to all get buried again or you may feel you don't want to go for the counselling when the time comes. Is there anyone you can talk to in terms of friends or family? If someone else is aware you won't feel so alone and you're less likely to 'chicken out' of the counselling.

I think you're very brave to acknowledge this, even braver to share it and there must be some light at the end of the tunnel for you - even if the tunnel is a bit longer than you'd like it to be.

Keep talking - it really is your best option.

And well done on the lb off!

****hugs**** xxxx

 

[harriet2]

you definately think its a good think ive said though? im feeling a bit dirty right this moment if im honest. im just waiting for bad stuff to come out of peoples mouths and say i asked for it...i know its silly and if i were to hear this tale from someone else id ask why but i cant help it xx

 

[JanD]

I think it's vital that you've said it ... awareness followed by sharing are the first steps in coming to terms and I'm speaking as a qualified counsellor.
It's not unusual for the victim to feel that it was their fault and 'dirty' but that doesn't mean it's true. It most certainly isn't and over time you will come to realise and accept that. Keep talking ........ xx

 

[harriet2]

is talking about it going to make me come out the other end think differently about it all ...? thats all i want to be able to move on and not shake everytime some man comes into my home lol

h x

 

[JanD]

Yes it will. Talking with friends and family will reassure you that it's not YOU and talking with a good cousellor will help you to feel much better about yourself and the whole situation allowing you to put it behind you and move on. xx