donna88
Gold Member
Im quite surprised & a bit shocked by your post Donna.......why did the hospital discharge him after a fall, knowing he was going back to an empty house?
Were they told he had someone to look after him when he got home, as Im sure they wouldn't have discharged him otherwise? i.e. his son
Why hasn't Social Services become involved & set up a care package for him as he isn't safe to be on his own?
What is your ex playing at knowing that his father is vulnerable & leaving him on his own for 2 days?!
Your ex is possibly using his fathers poor condition as an excuse not to have your son overnight tomorrow as it doesn't take all night to visit someone in hospital & as you say why cant he take your son to visit his Grandfather?
No, it doesn't add up & is shocking about that poor man being on the floor for 2 days! I am feeling rather disgusted about all of this, as it makes me so mad how the vulnerable/elderly/lonely people are mistreated!
I really hope it all gets sorted for this gentleman & SS get involved & initiate some form of care package for him x
I know I feel exactly the same as you to be honest and I've got no idea what's going on as obviously I only hear what little ones dad tells me. Last I heard he wasn't going to be going home, he was either on his death bed or going straight into a home, but then last weekend he said his dad was coming home.
I don't know if things aren't as bad as he makes out and he just uses it as an excuse to not have little one when he doesn't feel like it or what!?
But I hate to say it, when we were together his mum and dad weren't in the best of places, his mum is now in a home, unfortunately she has mental problems and they can't be put in a home together... but despite not being able to look after them himself little ones dad really didn't want to put her in a home, its probably the same now.... but I don't understand why again for a number of reasons, personally I'd much prefer knowing someone I cared for was being looked after in a home then being left vunerable on their own, but on top of that, he does begrudge looking after them... he uses it as an excuse to get drunk and be....well an arse is the politest way of putting it.
It's probably a mixture of the two as like you say, having to drop clothes off is no excuse not to have little one and wouldn't take all day...in fact the hospital his dad is being transferred to is the one I went to today and our house is on the way, literally on the bus route! Plus if it were my mum who was in hospital and needed something I would be there within a few hours, never mind saying well if I can't put off having little one for a day I'll leave her over the weekend.
I don't know if there's anything I can do about it though, I mean he's been in and out of hospital so the authorities are obviously aware of his situation, he has mentioned meetings with social services and like I say, I'd been told he had a career coming round 4 times a day!