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  1. ellanvannin

    ellanvannin Member

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    Thats how I feel today..
    My lovely, wonderful, gorgeous husband left for Iraq yesterday and I miss him already, it's like losing your partner and your best friend all at once...i'm feeling very low and so glad im on CD as it gives me a goal and something to think about instead of worrying and missing Steve all the time.
    He looked so sad when he left and I can't get the picture of it out of my head, to make matters worse the girl who has my horse (me beloved Jack) on loan called to say he had torn a lot of ligaments in his leg and now I am faced with the decision as to whether or not to have him put to sleep (he is 21 yrs old and suffered a tendon injury in the same leg less than a yr ago which made his arthritis worse).
    So all in all a really crappy time and I am all alone on this bloomin RAF camp in the arse end of nowhere and I feel particularly hard done by today, i'm sorry for moaning but if I moan to friends and family they either get upset or trot out the same old cliches.."you knew what you were doing when you married him" "it's his job, he has to go" etc etc which I understand but until they have been separated for months on end and worried themselves sick they can take a running jump! ARGHHH:cry:
    Sorry to all who had to read this but I feel a wee bit better for getting it off my chest...kinda:sigh:
     
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  3. sazzle1718

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    Awww, I really feel for you. Sounds like a crappy time. I hate it when people say things like you knew what you were doing when you marries him and all that crap, it doesn't make it any easier so it's a pointless thing to say. Just keep an image of yourself being much slimmer when he gets back and the surprise on his face when he sees you.

    Keep going hun and we're all here for you to talk to/rant at whenever you need .xx
     
  4. biltsy

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    so sorry he had to go on duty..... and i really hope your horse gets better... moan to us all you like, cos thats what we are here for....
     
  5. ellanvannin

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    Awww thanx ladies, it does help to have a sounding board.
     
  6. (Land of) Maz

    (Land of) Maz Full Member

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    Yeah, you should totally play down the diet when you write and speak to him, and when he comes home he will get the bestest surprise ever! a brand new Mrs!!!

    Sorry to hear about the horse, that's a tough decision to make at the best of times, let alone when you are already down in the dumps....

    (((hugs)))
     
  7. Lexie_dog

    Lexie_dog UNLEASHING THE BEAST!

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    I second the above post, don't mention it and think of the suprise he will get when home.

    I hate that "you knew what you were getting into...." its one step away from "You've made your bed so you can lie in it" tripe that my mum was given when she married my dad who hit her.

    Sorry about your horse.

    Keep your head up and just try to concentrate on the things you can change.
     
  8. eyeontheprize

    eyeontheprize can see the end in sight!

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    is this the first time you have been apart for a long period? i really feel for you, i know it's a completely different situation but i am going back home to australia at the end of the year and i will be apart from my OH for a year or so while he sells the house and finds work over there etc... i am dreading it and dont know how to cope! i am really sorry to hear about your horsey... take care of yourself and ignore all those people who say that stuff to you! x
     
  9. ellanvannin

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    Ha ha he knows about the diet, i've been doing it since the beginning of Feb so no surprise there and to be totally honest he won't care what I look like, he has never once in ten yrs made me feel unattractive at whatever weight I was and we have known each other since school so he's seen me all shapes and sizes!
    If there's one thing in life i've never doubted its his love for me, which is ace coz he's a fittie! haha
     
  10. Tazzi

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    Awesome. I thought all military men were the same till i met my one :p Hes just as sweet.

    He puts me to shame.....Oh im just going for a run............right well you do that Lol.

    Taz xx
     
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    I think people who will tell you, "you knew what you were getting into when you married him," are completely full of baloney! Just because you knew he was in the military and might be deployed overseas doesn't make it any easier if/when that day finally comes.

    People can be so insensitive sometimes.

    As for your horse, is there any possibility of recovery? What does the vet say? It's a hard decision, being faced with putting a horse down, especially if he has been a long time companion. Good luck with everything, you'll be in my thoughts.
     
  12. IreneH

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    Hope the days go fast for you.

    Irene xx
     
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    I felt quite choked when I read your post. I'm lucky in that I have never been in that situation and i really feel for you ((((hugs))). I agree with the other lovely ladies though, keep yourself focused, send him lots of letters, and count down the days til your beloved comes back home. In the meantime, keep coming on these forums, we can do our best to cheer you up! (((hugs))) for your poor horse too, I'm sure you'll decide what is the right route for you to take there. xx
     
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    I agree with whats already been said, hope your horse makes a recovery, ive got a dog & cat & im a animal lover it can be awful making these decisions.Keep busy & you know you have friends online.
     
  15. ellanvannin

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    aww thanks so much for all your kind words, someone asked if this is the first time we had been apart, I wish it was but this is his 7th (I think) detachment to a war zone in 7 yrs so you would think i'd be used to it by now but for some reason it doesn't get any easier.
    As for my horse I have made the decision to let him have one last summer in the sunshine and then I will do what I need to do, I would hate to think I left him to get worse and be in pain but I can keep him pain free for the summer with daily meds and let him kick about with his mates for one last season, he is an ex-hunting horse who has had a job to do all his life and at 21 still hates not working and can get quite naughty with breaking fences and kicking other horses when he's bored so he won't go on indefinitely as the sweet natured boy I adore now that he can no longer be ridden.
     
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    I have been there as well, it doesnt matter if it is the 1st or 10th tour away it is the same you still miss them soo much.
    We were overseas when hubby was away and I have never felt so alone but I soon made friends with other ladies on the camp.
    Where in the UK are you?
    Xx
     
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    Im feeling just the same, I said goodbye to my hubbi yesterday as he went off to Afghan!, I started the diet on Monday so he would not of really noticed, hoping to give him a big surprise when he comes back on R&R at the end of July. Im hoping for once to run into his arms and for him to lift me (like in the movies) instead of it being the other way round Ha Ha!
     
  18. ellanvannin

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    Ha ha ha thats funny, It looks like there will be a merry band of forces wives here battling the bulge whilst the men battle the baddies eh!
     
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    Yes and that will keep the Welfare Officer happy!
     
  20. ellanvannin

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    Well I thought i'd update as to todays mood, I am feeling a lot brighter today, last night my dog started bleeding from his thing and I got very worried and called the vet coz there was blood in his urine and I thought it might be a prostrate thing but by this morning the bleeding has stopped and he is happily bouncing round in the sunshine so that cheered me up (and saved me a ton of cash haha) and then Steve called..WHOO HOO he was on the phone for about 4 mins which as some of you will know when they are away is a huge amount of time, I had already emailed him about everything that was happening so we didn't need to talk about that so we had 4 whole minutes of just chatting about nothing...bliss.
    He is boarding a plane in 2hrs to an unspecified (to me anyway) location so i'm not sure when I will hear from him again but i'm over the moon to have heard his lovely voice before he finally reaches the bad place and is all tired and stressed.
    I know i'm not the only one who has a partner on operations so I thought maybe we could keep this thread going and support each other through the ups and downs of service life??
     
  21. Lexie_dog

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    Why not make a thread for the forces wives? (not sure of that the correct term?)

    That way it won't get lost in the other posting?

    I'll leave it to your imagination to make a more suitable title than "Forces Wives" which sounds like a specialist version of Readers Wives....
     
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