Samiyah said:My husband doesn't know I'm starting this tomorrow. I'm not going to tell him either as I know he won't like it.
He works late every day so I can get away with it during the week and I'm going to do the one meal version of the diet on the weekends and just tell him I'm low carbing.
It's not like I want to keep it a secret in particular and of course he will support me when he realises I'm serious about it but I feel like I'm doing this for myself and don't want to explain myself to anyone.
Does that make sense?
kay80 said:Tripple whopper i think its unfair for ur 2 mke such accusations without full knowledge.
Some things are easier said than dne so. Every1 deals with things in different ways so
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TripleWhopper said:Accusations of what?
I'm not here to make accusations, but I am indeed giving an advice for the best course of actions.
Life is much simpler than we make it to be!
Hiding things from your own husband is never the way to go.
Let me ask you this. How would you feel if your husband started saying he's going to be late from work all the time, avoiding spending time with you by skipping meals or dinner, etc?
Knowing women, they would start thinking he's having an affair!
While all along he was going to gym after work and avoiding dinners to resist temptation of food.
Now imagine this little secret and it's implications put that little seed of doubt in your mind...
You would start seeing and thinking things which are not...
Next thing you know, your having rows, problems, stress and all because you did not make an effort to explain to the person who chose YOU amongst so many other people to love and spend their lives with.
Don't you think it's unfair?
But then again, different people, different attitude.
It's just like Confucius said:
"Men's nature are alike, it is their habit that carry them far apart."
PS: "I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live."
Don't let the above just be words.
Personally i do not wish to continue this conversation as i feel it eventually may escalate & end up2 be very detrimental... However i would like to add in my OPINION i feel u have may have some issues of your own which u need to deal with other than just your health.
Good luck in ur journey.
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I think that it's not about trust as such. Mainly it's about the worry and anxiety I suspect our partners experience when they think we are hurting ourselves (or most likely they think starving ourselves when you go on a VLCD). Its not about you, it's about having your partner hovering over you and worrying about you which is the difficult bit. My boyfriend hasalways been the kinda person who just ditches the beers for a bit and then loses weight so from his perspective this may seem a little drastic. I just don't want my partner sitting around worrying about me.
This is how I feel too, my husband grew up in a family with an eating disorder, although he has no food hang-ups the only hang up would be concern for me as I know he would think I was heading down the wrong path. I just think I'm protecting his feeling preventing him from worrying unnecessarily over my well being.