General WeMitt Thread w/c 16 April

[bakerfa]

Hi everyone,

Well 1 week down & 7lbs down which I am very pleased with HOWEVER for this week I'm going to try NOT to pick since I ate something extra (& naughty) nearly every day & I still have 16lbs to go until I weigh the same as last September. So 3 milkshakes only today. (Besides which, since I'm not in ketosis, I'm more likely to be malnourished as I keep forgetting my vitamin supplements on Slimfast!)

Well done Ann for sticking with it too! These restarts are sooooo much harder than the 1st time. Irene congrats on restarting too!

Ann - your Cats idea is lovely but I still can't afford it for Birmingham but will e-mail you anyway.

Hope everyone is having a great week!

Love xxx

 

[bakerfa]

Grrrrrrrrrr!

Have just been checking out my weight loss tracker with all my measurements on! No wonder some of my smaller trousers won't fit! My bust, waist & hips measurements are only about an inch different but I've gained 4 inches on my bum!

Also since 20/01/06 I have LOST 105.5 lbs BUT I have GAINED (gradually) 69.5 lbs. My weight loss chart looks the Alps!

 

[mrs tweedy]

Aaaw Anja, don't fret too much, now you have assessed the damage you can get set on doing something about it (you have already made a good start) and those extra pesky lbs will disappear soon enough!

Well its finally happened as of this morning I have lost a full 15 stone!!!

I dont know how i feel about that statement, happy of course to have lost so much (but frustrated that i still have a fair way to go).
I feel sick when I think what I had done to my body over the last 10 years!
And I feel sick when I look at the state my body is in now, my skin is already in a bad way around my stomach and boobs and the tops of my legs

*mind you its not as if I have to worry about anyone seeing it now anyway do I?!
Thats another thing that is bugging me, how could Peter say he loved me when I weighed 30st 10lbs but now I weigh 15st 10lbs he hates me?!?!?!
Its not as if he is attracted to larger ladies, I met him when I weighed 9.5st and the girl he is with now is very slim :jelous: :sigh:
So what changed? I know I havent changed (I am still the same old Mrs T) I am so confused, and today I should be jumping for joy, cos I only have 5st left to lose but to be honest I am not at all happy, I am bluddy miserable

Some more things have come to light over the past few days and I am very depressed about all that I am finding out reeter :sigh: ... :cry:

Sorry guys, I shouldn't be bringing all this cr*p to the lovely wemitts thread, I promise to start behaving myself soon .

Hope all you lovely guys have a great weekend xx

 

[westhills]

You need to stop looking for "reasons why" Mrs T - you're not going to find them. I want you at the Birmingham meet in September Mrs T - if I have to come to Liverpool and drive you down there myself!!!!
Ann x
PS Agoraphobia not a problem - I was a psychiatric nirse for 25 years don't forget!!!

 

[mrs tweedy]

Lol Ann, I do hope to beat this agoraphobia, and I so much want to meet all you guys, I will make the september meet a goal to aim for!

I know I know I have to stop looking for reasons why, but atm thats what I seem to be stuck on.

Hows your ss'ing going? I bet you're really looking forward to your hols to Italy? ...*jealous, moi...no, not at all* LOL xx

 

[bakerfa]

When I was unceremoniously dumped after 3.5 years by e-mail (actually I wasn't dumped - He was studying abroad for 1 month & informed me he had a new girlfriend which was even more charming!)

I asked loads of questions about why etc. The only answer I ended up with long term that was true was that he was an a**eh**e & didn't deserve me. All of the other answers are based solely on how you feel in that moment. You know he may have been lying to you about loving you, you know he has been lying to you about affairs so anything he could tell you now would also be a lie.

You have to put your chin up, look at the world with new brave eyes, see how much you have achieved, what a wonderful person you are. You don't need him, you are strong and you will be fine without him. You'll hurt for a long time but you have to think "he's not worth it" and try to stop loving him. I have to admit to hating my ex now for behaving so childishly and cruelly but even that will fade eventually to indifference & that's fine too.

 

[bakerfa]

The worst thing about my loss/gain was the fact that I only had 60 odd lbs to lose in the first place. If I'd stuck to it they'd all have been gone by now. Some of these lbs I've lost over and over again as I teeter each week between losing a few lbs/gaining a few lbs. I found that I'd lose 2lbs, gain 2lbs, lose 2lbs, gain 3lbs etc. and just steadily creep up by the odd lb here & there apart from Christmas & holidays when I put 8lb & 5lbs on respectively. Usually it's just 1 or 2 BUT I'm very aware that if I didn't keep an eye on it I might not know. I had managed to put 21lbs on while still wearing size 12s ('cos it's all clustering round my bum rather than my waist!) & if I'd waited until I'd gone up a size how much would it have been then?

 

[Mich]

I don't very often post on the WeMitts site but I have just had to pop on and say to Mrs T I am so sorry that things are so tough for you in your personal life..... (((hugs))) but also a fantastic well done on loosing 15 stone - that is just incredible (especially as things have been tough for you).... that is truly remarkable and you should be extremely proud of yourself.... you say you've still got a 'fair' way to go - think of how far you've come.... you have no where near as much left to loose and you are now on the homeward stretch.....

I remember your first post on DH all that time ago and how upset you were about the scales at your CDC..... now look at you.... at the time I was only around 3 stone from goal...... now I've been a silly girl, messed around and am now 6 stone from goal.... you actually weigh well over a stone less than me now Mrs T......

I think it is an incredable achievement and I really hope that you will be able to overcome your agoraphobia and make it to BHam in September..... if that's too much however perhaps we will have to organise a Liverpool meet - I know there are quite a few ladies on here from that 'neck of the woods'.....

Once again, well done Mrs T you truly are .....:superwoman:

Love

 

[mrs tweedy]

Thanks Anja and Mich, I know I should be happy but it just seems like too much effort these days to even crack a smile! :tear_drop:

I will definitely get over the cheating git, I am already feeling real hatred towards him - more and more with each passing day (the more things that surface the more I lose a little bit of love for him)!
I really do feel that I am mourning the loss of what I "thought" I had rather than what I now know that I had.

I don't like hating anyone, it's not really "me" but atm it's preferable to feel this anger than to lie in bed crying into my pillow or getting so sloshed on voddy that I no longer care (which is what I have spent the past two months doing - in equal measure)!

I will definitely have to pull myself together, and start living again!

Anja, I wish I could feel indifferent towards him but that is definitely a LONG way off!!
I am sorry about what your Ex did to you, why do they think they can treat people so badly?
It makes you wonder how they were brought up doesn't it! (in my Ex's case ... well thats a whole other story!!!)

Lol Mich, I too remember my very first post on DH (only too well) I never want to feel as bad as I did that day!
I am happy to have lost so much, but I had thought that I would be sharing this joy with him too so it has kind of tarnished my celebration just another disappointment that he has caused me to go along with the many others!!! GRRRR He is a useless t*sser and I hope in the future he truly realises just what he has thrown away!

Anyhoo, enough about me, (kind of sick of hearing myself complain LOL)
Hope you wemitts are having a good day. xx

 

[Barb]

Hi Mrs T, Anya and all you other lovely Wemitts. I have been a very absent Barb now for several weeks. Popping in but not contributing, then today I saw what Mrs T said and I had to join in, even though at the moment I am not dieting or being even slightly good. I just feel so cross that Mrs T has had this phenomenal success and it is being spoilt for her by that no good so and so... Trouble is, when you feel how Mrs T feels, there really is bugger all you can do about it other than know IT WILL pass. And when it does, the full understanding of what losing 15 STONE really means will become clear. Then a whole new future stretches out and the sky is the limit. Anyone who can commit to and lose that amount of weight has a character to reckon with, it is not something that everyone could do. I am struggling to lose 5 stone, never mind 15! Anya's comments rang a real bell too - crikey if every lb i had lost had stayed off, I would be about 3 stone now!
I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you and hoping that the clouds lift and the sun comes out, very soon.

Love Barb xx

 

[mrs tweedy]

Thanks for your lovely words Barb,
I have missed your posts, I only read a handfull of diary threads and yours was one of them (even though I didn't contribute often) I really miss reading your diary, hope you feel more like posting soon xx
How are you doing anyhow? Hope your son is ok too xx

Probably wont be back online later cos I've got my good friend coming down for the evening, so I will wish you all a very good night, xx

 

[Russiandoll]

Hi everyone
Mrs T .... quite often there isn't a clear 'why' to any situation - it just 'is'. We can theorise but that's about it. Maybe in the case of Peter, he likes controlling (something he could easily do when you were 30st +) but now you're breaking free of your debilitating weight, perhaps he just didn't like it. Once at goal, you'd be a new person, in control and not so dependant on him. Some men thrive on dependant women of any size.

Just a theory.

My diet isn't going well. I'm way too stressed right now and am finding myself 'self-medicating' on cottage cheese and rice cakes. Apart from my Uni assigments (now alarmingly piled up to be done this week) and an impending exam, my dad is very ill with cancer (he's very much in the latter stages) plus Steve (hubby) has had a dodgy blood test result and is waiting to see a consultant.

The cherry on the cup-cake is that he was made redundant last week and so we officially have NO income. He's desperately going to various interviews and I have no doubt he'll get a job soon but the wages gap will have to be plugged with my student loan. Bang goes the course I wanted to do this Summer.

We're being backed into a corner and have decided to sell the family vehicle so if you know anyone who is after a huge 8 seater people mover, let me know

Anyway, hope my wemitt buddies are well and staying strong (unlike me - weak willed wimp!) It's all i can do to hold back the tide and stay under 15st - let alone lose anything!

Hugs to all xx

 

[Summerskye]

Hi everyone
Mrs T .... quite often there isn't a clear 'why' to any situation - it just 'is'. We can theorise but that's about it. Maybe in the case of Peter, he likes controlling (something he could easily do when you were 30st +) but now you're breaking free of your debilitating weight, perhaps he just didn't like it. Once at goal, you'd be a new person, in control and not so dependant on him. Some men thrive on dependant women of any size.

Just a theory.

Mrs T - I was thinking exactly the same thing as Debbie. I actually gasped in amazement and awe when I read that you were now in the 15s . I can't even begin to tell you how much admiration I have for you - there just aren't enough words in the English language to express it. I'm absolutely convinced that when you were twice the size/weight you are now, and were completely dependant on him, he secretly loved it. As you began to lose weight and developed a more independant lifestyle he began to feel he was losing that element of control that he'd had previously - and didn't like it one bit. That, to me, makes him a weak person who can only feel like a 'real' man if someone else is in his thrall. In fact, I'm wondering if going out with a much younger person is much the same thing - someone who can look up to him and who he can feel 'superior' too again. Like Debbie said, it's only a theory - but not an uncommon story (sadly) just the same. However, if that is the case, he could be 'mourning the loss' of something too - and that's the person who depended on him totally for everything .. but his loss is most definitely your gain. Or, rather is that your loss is your gain? Hmmm .. ah well, I know what I mean anyway *lol*

Debbie - I can't really say anything which will make the blindest bit of difference to the way you feel right now - but I just want to send you lots of love and hugs and to tell you that (just like Mrs T) you are SO not a weak-willed wimp. In fact, Wemitts are the strongest women I've probably ever had the privilege to meet/know in my life!

Anja and Barb - it really doesn't matter which route you take to get to 'journey's end' or how convoluted the path, the important thing is that you remain convinced you'll get there some day. Just stick with it and you WILL achieve your goals .. whatever they might be!

Ann - many many congratulations on almost getting back to your 'fighting weight' again and, once again, it was a true pleasure having supper with you at the last meet. I also echo everything you've said about Mrs T coming to Birmingham and add my own pleas to that too - which Mrs T had better listen to as I've got real bony knees these days and it ain't comfortable staying in this begging position!! Mind you, the idea of having a Wemitt meet in Liverpool sounds like a brill idea to me. I love the place!!

Love to all Wemitts, past and present. Hope you all have a brill weekend!

 

[Barb]

Thanks Mrs T - you make me WANT to write a diary again, so perhaps I will! Debbie, so sorry to hear that life persists in throwing bad stuff at you. I know that you have a lot of worries right now and to be at all positive about anything must be almost impossible. Yet, here you are, trying to cheer Mrs T up and come up with a very sensible theory.

Take my hat off to you friend - you are one in a million!

As for you (and your bony knees!) Sharon, thank you for your comments, I think you are so right. I am not working at a 'diet' but I can kind of feel my brain getting back in the zone. Trouble is I am really enjoying socialising at the moment and just cannot get into the whole cal counting/ point counting etc.. I just want to eat and drink what I like and lose weight! Thats not unreasonable, is it?

Love Barb xxxx

 

[Russiandoll]

I just want to eat and drink what I like and lose weight! Thats not unreasonable, is it?

PMSL!! Barb, if you manage to crack that nut, write a book about it and you'll be a billionaire in no time!

 

[PowderedJourney]

Hi All
I'm new to the WeMITTS. I was on LL last year and lost just under 3 stone, since october things have slipped (greatly) and now that I am rapidly growing out of my size 16s (grew out of my 14s months ago ) I have decided to give it another go.
I went to see a CDC today and have everything ready to start SS.
I am feeling really nervous (dunno if that's the right word) and unsure if I can do this again. BUT I really HAVE to!!!
My question is, should I go straight into SS (as my CDC suggests) or try stepping down?
After reading WeMITT posts previously, I know that you guys are the experts, please help.
Yvonne xxx
:break_diet:

 

[westhills]

I'd say set a date that you are going to start, and stick to it. If you have a few days before, cut down on carbs & caffeine, and drink the water. GO FOR IT!! Speaking from experience, "starting again" is more difficult than the first time, but NOT impossible. I am on day 11, on my first ss ing since last August. (apart from two stints of 3 days each)
I am "in the zone" now, and although I only intend to SS until a week on Tuesday, when I go on holiday, I feel I could keep it up for longer if I had to. Stick with it, you CAN do it - and it's much nicer on CD than on LL - I've done both.
Ann xxx

 

[PowderedJourney]

Thanks Ann
I was hoping to start tomorrow, is it too soon?

 

[IreneH]

I don't think so. Remember to take measurements, some pics and note your starting weight and you are away. Take it one day at a time and think small steps
Irene xx

 

[Anne-Marie]

Hi all - what a hard time many of you are having !!!! Chin(s) up - THINGS CAN ONLY GET BETTER!!!!!
You are amazing people and have nothing to prove cos you are really STRONG! Things always wor out in the end!
Mrs T - been there years ago when my ex left me out of the blue (with 2 kids age 6&7yrs). I remember how much I struggled. BUT now I really belive that he did me a BIG favour .. time is the best healer ever discovered. He probably realises that he isn't worthy of you just now! wait and see....