Lost all this weight
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Bunnylush
Gold Member
Men are weird creatures,some criticise weight gain,then feel all insecure when it's gone! I'm sorry you're feeling unhappy. But you should be very proud of losing your weight for yourself ,only you can change your living situation if you continue to be unhappy. You never know who is round the corner. Let Mr sit miserable alone if that's the life he choses xx
Funky_Munky
Put the kettle on
Well done on the weight loss!!
Tell your fella how youre feeling, some men just dont get the subtle hints.
Tell your fella how youre feeling, some men just dont get the subtle hints.
Maximus
Gold Member
Stop being so mean you lot. We're not all the same
Now be a good girl and get him some lager to watch Match of The Day later, and massage his feet before getting his slippers, there's a love
I can only agree with the ladies really, especially BuzzyBee! it shouldn't matter how you look.
I hope you can work it out, but first, as instructed, do this for you and your wellbeing. The rest can be dealt with later.
Good luck and don't let it stop the great job you're doing!
Steve
Now be a good girl and get him some lager to watch Match of The Day later, and massage his feet before getting his slippers, there's a love
I can only agree with the ladies really, especially BuzzyBee! it shouldn't matter how you look.
I hope you can work it out, but first, as instructed, do this for you and your wellbeing. The rest can be dealt with later.
Good luck and don't let it stop the great job you're doing!
Steve
CurvyKaren
Silver Member
Congratulations on your weight loss
I can only put myself in your shoes by thinking of my hubby... as I got bigger I wasn't really in the mood to be touched, etc as I didnt particularly like myself. Hubby is a softie and doesn't pester or anything like that. Once i've lost my weight its likely i'll be more in the mood for but he might not have realised that yet.
Could this be the case?
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I can only put myself in your shoes by thinking of my hubby... as I got bigger I wasn't really in the mood to be touched, etc as I didnt particularly like myself. Hubby is a softie and doesn't pester or anything like that. Once i've lost my weight its likely i'll be more in the mood for
but he might not have realised that yet.Could this be the case?
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mrs big b
Gold Member
Maximus said:Stop being so mean you lot. We're not all the same
Now be a good girl and get him some lager to watch Match of The Day later, and massage his feet before getting his slippers, there's a love
I can only agree with the ladies really, especially BuzzyBee! it shouldn't matter how you look.
I hope you can work it out, but first, as instructed, do this for you and your wellbeing. The rest can be dealt with later.
Good luck and don't let it stop the great job you're doing!
Steve
Pmsl he wouldn't appreciate the lager anyway . I think maybe that's it . He always said my weight didn't bother him
mrs big b
Gold Member
Thanks all . I suppose I'm just a bit disappointed . We've been married 19 years and with 4 autistic boys aged 10 & under there is a lot of stress in the house maybe that's why because he just wants to relax once they're in bed . Maybe one day when theyre at school / nursery I'll let him know how I feel and take it from there
GrannieAnnie
Silver Member
You are truly an inspiration!! You find time in your challenging life to lose weight.
My OH needs more than a few hints!! If I don`t spell things out IN VERY LARGE LETTERS!! he just doesn`t get it!! I`ve been with him 34 years and he`s not likely to change now!! lol.
I know that I found my three a handful when they were small. I`m sure you feel that you don`t have any time for yourself. Chin-up old thing!! You really need to talk to him about how you feel.
My OH needs more than a few hints!! If I don`t spell things out IN VERY LARGE LETTERS!! he just doesn`t get it!! I`ve been with him 34 years and he`s not likely to change now!! lol.
I know that I found my three a handful when they were small. I`m sure you feel that you don`t have any time for yourself. Chin-up old thing!! You really need to talk to him about how you feel.
mrs big b
Gold Member
GrannieAnnie said:
Lol I'm going to and thanks . For a long time I've finally found something I can control and take charge of in my life and I will succeed in reaching my targets . It's hard at times but in a way the kids help . I'm determined to be around for a long time for them
Shirleen
Gold Member
Ok I'll apologise first if this is a bit TMI...sorry!
Men usually get a bit more stirred in the morning, so you may have better luck then.
They're very visual creatures so grab a catalogue and treat yourself to something lovely,slinky or slutty, you need to feel good in it! If stockings float his boat, go for it!
Men tend to give what they receive so you need to become a bit more tactile yourself, no need to go nuts (well not immediately), a hug,a pat or a squeeze of the bum, a kiss goodbye/hello.
Start telling yourself you're sexy, I'm a great believer in positive affirmation and visualisation, as you think it you will move more sensuously.
Offer him a massage, get a nice massage oil, do his back then ask him to flip over!
Failing all that ask for a Rabbit for Christmas, not the furry kind!
Men usually get a bit more stirred in the morning, so you may have better luck then.
They're very visual creatures so grab a catalogue and treat yourself to something lovely,slinky or slutty, you need to feel good in it! If stockings float his boat, go for it!
Men tend to give what they receive so you need to become a bit more tactile yourself, no need to go nuts (well not immediately), a hug,a pat or a squeeze of the bum, a kiss goodbye/hello.
Start telling yourself you're sexy, I'm a great believer in positive affirmation and visualisation, as you think it you will move more sensuously.
Offer him a massage, get a nice massage oil, do his back then ask him to flip over!
Failing all that ask for a Rabbit for Christmas, not the furry kind!
Sassia
Silver Member
Mine went off me when I put on a lot of weight. He just didn't want to be near me and didn't find me attractive at all. He's ok-ish now because he said he 'got used to it'!!!
Of course when we met 10 years ago he had lots of floppy blond hair and now has only a bit more than captain Picard himself! I wonder how he'd feel if I stopped being interested and said I only liked men with hair.....
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Of course when we met 10 years ago he had lots of floppy blond hair and now has only a bit more than captain Picard himself! I wonder how he'd feel if I stopped being interested and said I only liked men with hair.....
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mrs big b
Gold Member
Shirleen said:
Pmsl so I need to get myself to Ann summers for one reason or another !!!
Well I'll try . Think that's part of my problem low confidence think he wouldn't be interested so I don't really try . Well I'm gonna try & change that !! I've lost a lot of weight loads of people are telling me how good I'm looking so I'm gonna start believing
mrs big b
Gold Member
Sassia said:
Aw bless you hun ((((())))) mines lost over 2 stone and at 6th he was only 12 stone then . He's now around 9st 10 hasnt tried it's just come off . He's had tests but all ok . He is really skinny but that hasn't put me off him . You marry for better or worse don't you and that means accepting any changes .
