Maximus said:Stop being so mean you lot. We're not all the same
Now be a good girl and get him some lager to watch Match of The Day later, and massage his feet before getting his slippers, there's a love
I can only agree with the ladies really, especially BuzzyBee! it shouldn't matter how you look.
I hope you can work it out, but first, as instructed, do this for you and your wellbeing. The rest can be dealt with later.
Good luck and don't let it stop the great job you're doing!
Steve
mrs big b said:Thanks all . I suppose I'm just a bit disappointed . We've been married 19 years and with 4 autistic boys aged 10 & under there is a lot of stress in the house maybe that's why because he just wants to relax once they're in bed . Maybe one day when theyre at school / nursery I'll let him know how I feel and take it from there
Bunnylush said:Maybe he's waiting for you to make the first move?
GrannieAnnie said:You are truly an inspiration!! You find time in your challenging life to lose weight.
My OH needs more than a few hints!! If I don`t spell things out IN VERY LARGE LETTERS!! he just doesn`t get it!! I`ve been with him 34 years and he`s not likely to change now!! lol.
I know that I found my three a handful when they were small. I`m sure you feel that you don`t have any time for yourself. Chin-up old thing!! You really need to talk to him about how you feel.
Shirleen said:Ok I'll apologise first if this is a bit TMI...sorry!
Men usually get a bit more stirred in the morning, so you may have better luck then.
They're very visual creatures so grab a catalogue and treat yourself to something lovely,slinky or slutty, you need to feel good in it! If stockings float his boat, go for it!
Men tend to give what they receive so you need to become a bit more tactile yourself, no need to go nuts (well not immediately), a hug,a pat or a squeeze of the bum, a kiss goodbye/hello.
Start telling yourself you're sexy, I'm a great believer in positive affirmation and visualisation, as you think it you will move more sensuously.
Offer him a massage, get a nice massage oil, do his back then ask him to flip over!
Failing all that ask for a Rabbit for Christmas, not the furry kind!
Sassia said:Mine went off me when I put on a lot of weight. He just didn't want to be near me and didn't find me attractive at all. He's ok-ish now because he said he 'got used to it'!!!
Of course when we met 10 years ago he had lots of floppy blond hair and now has only a bit more than captain Picard himself! I wonder how he'd feel if I stopped being interested and said I only liked men with hair.....
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mrs big b said:He is really skinny but that hasn't put me off him . You marry for better or worse don't you and that means accepting any changes .
Sassia said:Exactly. I presumed wrongly that he loved me for me regardless....
I am a bit worried that he might be all over me if I lose the weight. That will prove how shallow he is and I'm not sure I can deal with that!
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