daisycharlie
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Just went to an art show that I was invited to and I took along a friend.
This friend I have known for years, she knows that I hate being overweight, and having known me probably for 15 or 20 years she must have seen me bigger and smaller over time.
She once made a comment when I was very slim, that she didn't like her friends being thinner than her.
This evening she said that she really shouldn't be with me (I am now about mid-range in my weight scale so not my biggest by about 3 stone), because she had heard on the radio today that being with overweight people makes you become overweight too.
I KNOW that she doesn't mean all this, she is Dutch and has always been very blunt about stuff, and calls a spade a spade with no hesitation. BUT she knows just how fragile I am at the moment, she has seen me in tears and knows that I am starting some counselling for stuff. I couldn't quite believe she'd said it, and my off the cuff remark as we parted was that I would go home and get over her overweight comment. She replied that she didn't mean it, just that she heard it on the radio.
But it really rankled, and spoiled the fun of the show.
Think I might not be seeing her for a while!
This friend I have known for years, she knows that I hate being overweight, and having known me probably for 15 or 20 years she must have seen me bigger and smaller over time.
She once made a comment when I was very slim, that she didn't like her friends being thinner than her.
This evening she said that she really shouldn't be with me (I am now about mid-range in my weight scale so not my biggest by about 3 stone), because she had heard on the radio today that being with overweight people makes you become overweight too.
I KNOW that she doesn't mean all this, she is Dutch and has always been very blunt about stuff, and calls a spade a spade with no hesitation. BUT she knows just how fragile I am at the moment, she has seen me in tears and knows that I am starting some counselling for stuff. I couldn't quite believe she'd said it, and my off the cuff remark as we parted was that I would go home and get over her overweight comment. She replied that she didn't mean it, just that she heard it on the radio.
But it really rankled, and spoiled the fun of the show.
Think I might not be seeing her for a while!