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I'm just wondering the best, kindest, way to handle my colleague. She seems to be finding it difficult that I'm losing weight, and I don't think she realises yet because I think she thinks she's being supportive with all of her over-interest and enthusiasm and frequent comments, and reading the side of my lunch pots, and asking me about how much I'm planning to lose and thinking that aiming for 10 stone (at 5'4") is too much.
I'm going to have to find a gentle way to explain that I'm not finding it helpful. Today I just said that at 15 stone, it's a while until my goal weight is of any relevance anyway, and that naturally helped us move on to get on with our work.
I'm usually fine with assertiveness, but this is too sensitive an issue for me, and I started feeling cross and vulnerable, so healthy conversation felt a bit too much to attempt.
Advice very welcome
I'm just wondering the best, kindest, way to handle my colleague. She seems to be finding it difficult that I'm losing weight, and I don't think she realises yet because I think she thinks she's being supportive with all of her over-interest and enthusiasm and frequent comments, and reading the side of my lunch pots, and asking me about how much I'm planning to lose and thinking that aiming for 10 stone (at 5'4") is too much.
I'm going to have to find a gentle way to explain that I'm not finding it helpful. Today I just said that at 15 stone, it's a while until my goal weight is of any relevance anyway, and that naturally helped us move on to get on with our work.
I'm usually fine with assertiveness, but this is too sensitive an issue for me, and I started feeling cross and vulnerable, so healthy conversation felt a bit too much to attempt.
Advice very welcome