Wardrobe sorting - Not as delighted as I thought I would be

[Lemai]

So a previous post of mine, I said I had gone down a size.
IT FEELS GREAT!

But, I've just been sorting out clothes and I'm hanging onto stuff that I KNOW is too big for me... And I don't want to hold onto them. But I am
And its really bugging me.
I don't want to be a size 18/20 EVER again!

Anyone else having this problem?
I normally don't hold onto clothes. Selling online or giving to charity shops is my usual (depending my karma status )
But for some reason, my good old reliable's, some not even old.
I just can't do it?!

 

[1978Emma]

oh change is such a huge thing to get your head around and well done on getting down in size. I recently ended up in a size 26 at my biggest, I was horrified, anyway have been eating healthily for the last 5 weeks and am down 1 stone 8 lbs and now my size 26's and size 24's are way too big for me and I'm in a size 22 still big I know but its an improvement, on one level I am so excited as I can fit into clothes I haven't been able to fit into for yonks plus I now have more choice of what to wear so its mega positive right now. Yet on some level even though I never want to be a size 24 or 26 again and never want to need those sizes and can't wear them now as they are way too baggy I can't seem to part with them and I don't know why, is it that I think on some level I might need them again, I hope not but I just can't seem to throw the damn things away. Em x

 

[Lemai]

Oh Em! I hear ya! I dunno if its the "I spent A LOT of money on those clothes" or that I'm thinking I will need them again one day...
I sucked it up and have started to put some stuff up online.
But it would have been nice to have an oomph of THIS IS GREAT!!!

We should never look back, no matter how bummed out we feel about it...
16 is the new me and 22 is the new you

 

[lisajade]

So a previous post of mine, I said I had gone down a size.
IT FEELS GREAT!

But, I've just been sorting out clothes and I'm hanging onto stuff that I KNOW is too big for me... And I don't want to hold onto them. But I am
And its really bugging me.
I don't want to be a size 18/20 EVER again!

Anyone else having this problem?
I normally don't hold onto clothes. Selling online or giving to charity shops is my usual (depending my karma status )
But for some reason, my good old reliable's, some not even old.
I just can't do it?!

If I were you, I would put them in a bag out of sight on top of the wardrobe. Don't keep anything in your wardrobe that you are not currently wearing, it just takes up space and reminds us of the past. It can be hard letting go, so just put them away until you are ready. I bet they will be easy to get rid of as you move further and further away from the size they are.

 

[Lemai]

If I were you, I would put them in a bag out of sight on top of the wardrobe. Don't keep anything in your wardrobe that you are not currently wearing, it just takes up space and reminds us of the past. It can be hard letting go, so just put them away until you are ready. I bet they will be easy to get rid of as you move further and further away from the size they are.

Thanks lisajade. Good advice!

And you know what? Thats exactly what i did, bagged and outta sight!

 

[1978Emma]

yeah that is such a good idea, I will bag up the sizes that are too big now and put them out of sight until I decide what to do with them, oh and Lemai, getting back into the size 16's must be brilliant, you are on your way down! It does feel great at least saying goodbye to each bigger size in turn, just wish there wasn't this weird mix of feelings which I get re keeping the clothes or not, like you said, is it money spent on them? worried I might need the damn things again? or just that I am not good at coping with change?, for some reason for me weight loss is exciting but scary at the same time as I have always hidden behind my extra weight so its like removing my body shield which I think is why sometimes I don't always react to weight loss as someone else would expect me to, its always a mixture of positive and negative emotions. Em xx

 

[Lemai]

yeah that is such a good idea, I will bag up the sizes that are too big now and put them out of sight until I decide what to do with them, oh and Lemai, getting back into the size 16's must be brilliant, you are on your way down! It does feel great at least saying goodbye to each bigger size in turn, just wish there wasn't this weird mix of feelings which I get re keeping the clothes or not, like you said, is it money spent on them? worried I might need the damn things again? or just that I am not good at coping with change?, for some reason for me weight loss is exciting but scary at the same time as I have always hidden behind my extra weight so its like removing my body shield which I think is why sometimes I don't always react to weight loss as someone else would expect me to, its always a mixture of positive and negative emotions. Em xx

I totally understand where you're coming from.
Everyone says wow you must be delighted etc and there is a little something niggling in the back of your mind saying "what the fudge are you gonna do when you reach your goal weight" BUT at the same time, being delighted, most of the time! overrides any doubt (and I wouldn't even call it doubt) or as you said the shield that protected us, the baggy black clothes.
But I have to say, I do feel better having stuff out of my wardrobe that I never want to see again, stuff that I actually hated wearing because it was one of the only things that fit me.
Catch 22 or what??!?!

Weight loss isn't as straight forward as losing weight. It is a serious rollercoaster of emotions (and baggage evidently!!)

 

[Lemai]

And get this! I went to my GP yesterday. I was feeling a lil woozy (low BP) and he said ah you don't want to lose that much weight... I was like? Really?!? 10 stone I don't think is drastic?

"11 - 11 1/2 would be perfect"

may be it was an attempt at a vote of confidence but I just left with a question mark over my head

 

[1978Emma]

totally agree Lemai, I always think we tend to see weight loss as this straightforward thing but in reality it brings about a real roller coaster of emotions like you said, like you most of my emotions are positive about losing weight as well I basically hate the clothes I have had to wear, mainly baggy and black ha ha and I want to wear nice fitted clothes yet there is still this weird scared part of me that almost at times wants to sabotage my own progress and is something I have become very aware of over the years and have to battle each day. I just like to focus on not only the weight loss but the weight I am stopping myself putting on as I know if I hadn't started when I did I would have just carried on gaining at such a rate and that was more scary a thought for me than losing weight thats for sure! Em xx

 

[Lemai]

totally agree Lemai, I always think we tend to see weight loss as this straightforward thing but in reality it brings about a real roller coaster of emotions like you said, like you most of my emotions are positive about losing weight as well I basically hate the clothes I have had to wear, mainly baggy and black ha ha and I want to wear nice fitted clothes yet there is still this weird scared part of me that almost at times wants to sabotage my own progress and is something I have become very aware of over the years and have to battle each day. I just like to focus on not only the weight loss but the weight I am stopping myself putting on as I know if I hadn't started when I did I would have just carried on gaining at such a rate and that was more scary a thought for me than losing weight thats for sure! Em xx

Oh i feel the same. I lived in America, and when I was there i lost 30lbs (didnt like the bread over there). And cutting out one thing... Worked wonders for me. And i didnt really notice myself losing weight, and didnt have a scales so i wasnt monitoring myself till i went to see my doctor. I was shocked!

Ive been back in Ireland just over a year, and in that time i put on 23lbs in about Ten weeks. (and then the rest)
Its actually terrifying how quickly weight can go on, without even noticing. All i did was eat bread again!

Im going out tonight and my partner was like "dont wear the black maxi dress... Wear the red dress" and already Im like... Oh god! I so dont want to.... Because the black dress is the good ol reliable!
it does look good, but black is the lump hider

Need a brain transplant! Lol

 

[1978Emma]

oh yeah the good old black clothes, safe as anything aren't they, go on wear the red one, I bet you will look fab in it, one of the reasons I want to lose weight is so I can wear a bit more colour as I get fed up of the black clothes, saying that I have recently got some new tops in different colours and whilst I don't feel as safe in them as they aren't as forgiving at the trusty black ones everyone has commented on how nice it is to see me out of my constant black outfits! ha ha

I find bread is the same for me, it seems to make me gain or at least stall my weight loss, I have to have it in smaller quantities, I used to eat loads of bread and stuff like that. I am watching my carb intake now, not low carb or anything like that but more moderate carb 100g-150g a day and that is really helping me as I used to eat god knows how many hundreds of carbs before the plan I am now doing!

Em xx

 

[Lemai]

Omg your weight loss so far is outstanding 1978Emma

Well done!!!

 

[Lemai]

Don't feel so bad giving THESE away!!

 

[1978Emma]

thanks Lemai, I can hardly believe that I have lost 2 stone 5 lbs now in 9 weeks, especially since I have been doing it through healthy eating / calorie counting, I have found as well I am often on a higher calorie allowance than most people I know but it seems to suit me that said I do at least two 45 min - 1 hour walks each day, today fitted in a third, my young Border Collie dog is like a personal trainer! ha ha

I have been sorting out my clothes again, I have now said goodbye to those dire size 26's and 24's and am almost ready to say goodbye to the size 22's as they are getting too big for me now and my size 20's actually fit me now hurrah! I have a long way to go as I want to be a size 14 but every size down is a mega step in the right direction hey!

Oh Lemai you are doing so well hun, you look great in your pic, well done on the weight loss, Em xx

 

[Lemai]

thanks Lemai, I can hardly believe that I have lost 2 stone 5 lbs now in 9 weeks, especially since I have been doing it through healthy eating / calorie counting, I have found as well I am often on a higher calorie allowance than most people I know but it seems to suit me that said I do at least two 45 min - 1 hour walks each day, today fitted in a third, my young Border Collie dog is like a personal trainer! ha ha

I have been sorting out my clothes again, I have now said goodbye to those dire size 26's and 24's and am almost ready to say goodbye to the size 22's as they are getting too big for me now and my size 20's actually fit me now hurrah! I have a long way to go as I want to be a size 14 but every size down is a mega step in the right direction hey!

Oh Lemai you are doing so well hun, you look great in your pic, well done on the weight loss, Em xx

I couldn't be happier for you! It really is something to be super proud of
Size 20 from a 26. You'll be a 14 in no time! WOOHOO!!!!

Oh I have two dogs as well... Those little "WALK?!?!?!?! eyes" Even if you say squawk or something they are like OMG WALK?!?!?!
So I'm with you on that one. Love it though! Especially when its nice out


And thanks very much!! I still don't really see it in myself, except my clothes now look a bit drastic on me... They'll have to do, can't afford new ones right now lol!!!

Selling my old stuff on ebay though, so might get a bitta cash

Hope you had a great day today. And again, well done!! Its amazing what watching what you eat and exercising can do!
xx

 

[1978Emma]

thanks Lemai, yeah I had never been up to a size 26 until recently, it horrified me if I am honest, plus I suddenly developed various health issues worst being mild sleep apnea and had to go to the hospital sleep clinic and was given this ruddy horrible breathing mask to wear at night, now I'm 34 yrs old yet I felt like 84 wearing that ruddy awful mask. I think actually it was a blessing in disguise though as it really made me sit up and take notice and gave me the very big kick up the backside I needed to make the necessary changes. I went back to the hospital the other day and the nurse was mega happy about the fact I had lost over 2 stone and to boot we found I no longer have sleep apnea so I could hand that damn awful mask back - hurrah!! it wasn't a very sexy look!

For me its not just going from a size 26 to almost a comfortable size 20 in the last 9 weeks its that I have started to reverse some of the health issues and in such a short space of time, thats what is keeping me going. I'm single at the moment and there was no way I wanted to get into a relationship and have to explain to a partner that I had to wear a flipping horrible mask at night, I looked like the man in the iron mask ha ha I also was pre-diabetic and had signs of it on my body and the marks that showed that I was pre-diabetic are fading so my gp will be happy as well!

Oh yes those good old walk eyes, ha ha, saying that like you I do love the walks, especially when the weather is nice, today luckily where I am whilst it was grey it didn't rain so walking wasn't as bad, saying that with a collie come rain or shine you are out!

That is a great idea about selling your old stuff, I have some lovely larger coats etc and like new clothes which are now too big so might do the same, like you money is tight and I don't want to spend much on clothes until I am down nearer to the size I want to be.

It amazes me just how much we can change and how quickly just through a change in diet and upping the exercise, I still have treats but not binges at the moment and thats such progress for me. I know everyone is different but for me I personally think this is the best way to do it, healthy eating and exercise with built in treats is sustainable, I don't feel as if I'm on a typical diet and I think for me thats the key. I have done those VLCD in the past but I just couldn't hack it, I like my food too much! plus I turned into a really miserable cow! ha ha Em xx

 

[Lemai]

Oh sleep apnea is not good. BUT ITS GONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yeow!!
Amazing! really really amazing!
Ive seen the masks, never mind the sexiness. Must have been uncomfortable?!?!?! Pillow snuggling dribbling loveliness without it now I'm sure! haha

I have asthma, and I was getting to a point where I was having an attack every night, so I was on the road to... well not a good one. It really freaked me out and my other half, he was terrified. I know I'm being a bit narcissistic but just relating to your breathing problems. Its not a nice feeling

Im off steroids THANKFULLY... so down to a gagillion puffs of a preventer

if I lived in Devon we could have gone doggy walking together!!
Its an amazing day here where I am. been stuck in work though till TWENTY FIVE MINS TO GO!!!!!!!!

Off to celebrate for the night (well 2 drinks wonder here lol)

Any plans yourself?

 

[1978Emma]

oh the masks are dire, never did I think it would get to the point where I would have to wear one of those, at first I got major panic attacks at night wearing them as I felt so closed in, oh they are horrible plus looking in the mirror after I had put it on was a shock to the system!! I was starting to fall asleep all the time, during the day, even at night I would get up to go to the loo and wake up 40 mins later still on the ruddy toilet due to the sleep apnea, it was frightening me so much but like I said maybe it took something that dire to motivate me sadly. Oh it did feel good handing the mask back, oh and sleeping now is so much easier and I can move more freely as that ruddy mask had to be plugged into the wall at night, was so bad!

Oh the asthma thing must have been worrying, I haven't got that but my dad has and it can be scary by the look of it, will the weight loss help with that? sorry to sound dumb, just wondered, I know my friend is as skinny as anything yet has asthma so didn't know if asthma would get better or not with weight loss.

Oh enjoy your night out, I have a very boring night planned of going to do a late night shop at Tescos and watch a dvd! I am looking forward to my two nights out next week though, one with my sis and one with my best mate, I always allow myself treats on my nights out!

Em xx

 

[Lemai]

Weight loss will help greatly with it! Not only will it be brilliant to reduce the severity, but also the cost!!! For the sake of a snickers/pizza etc I was spending €40 a month on being able to breathe and be fat at the same time. Madness!!!

Last night was good. I was bold though, so Im kicking myself

What dvd did you watch?
Im going to watch some more true blood

 

[1978Emma]

Oh I love True Blood, Eric is hot!! I watched this weird film called "The Divide" was ok, not the best, I tend to be a horror or thriller lover!

Its great to know the asthma will be helped by the weight loss, thats such great news, I think its amazing just how quickly we can reverse some health issues with weight loss, I am just kicking myself that things had to get so bad before I really got motivated!

I hope you are well, I managed to fit in three long dog walks today and so I am going to have a lazy evening catching up on episodes of "Criminal Minds".

Em x