Colmarnock
Full Member
The obvious answer is "myself".
But when you feel down about your weight and your partner says "I love you just the way you are!" does it help? Do you then reach for a biscuit and think alls well with life again?
Or do you think that no matter what people say, if you know how unhappy you feel about yourself then they should respect and support that feeling and although they aren't knocking your confidence, they are unwittingly knocking your motivation.
As we lose weight, we feel great, we feel confident in clothes shops and the buzz of standing on the scales is matched only by people saying how great we look.
I actually love the feeling of being told I'm doing great more than how I'm actually looking which made me ponder on .......
"Am I doing this solely for me?
Or am I doing it to get rid of the person I think my friends/family/workmates see?" and that's the self loathing, fat, unfit, over-extrovert that I see myself as.
People have called me fat in my life, say "jeez, you've put on weight!". I don't like that feeling. I want to lose that so the comments stop. So am I changing for me? Am I changing for them?
In reality I think that overall we will lose weight for ourselves and feel confident, I also think we want to lose weight not just for medical reasons but also because we loathe our self perception of how we think others see us and want to look good in society and even walk into clothes shops without feeling like a leper with a huge bell!!
But I also think a part of us loves praise and we lose weight too so that we are complimented and feel better so in a way aren't we also losing weight for others?
I'm sure there is no one answer. For 1000 of us, I'm sure there will be 1000 emotive reasons as we lose weight but I just wanted to gauge how others feel.
But when you feel down about your weight and your partner says "I love you just the way you are!" does it help? Do you then reach for a biscuit and think alls well with life again?
Or do you think that no matter what people say, if you know how unhappy you feel about yourself then they should respect and support that feeling and although they aren't knocking your confidence, they are unwittingly knocking your motivation.
As we lose weight, we feel great, we feel confident in clothes shops and the buzz of standing on the scales is matched only by people saying how great we look.
I actually love the feeling of being told I'm doing great more than how I'm actually looking which made me ponder on .......
"Am I doing this solely for me?
Or am I doing it to get rid of the person I think my friends/family/workmates see?" and that's the self loathing, fat, unfit, over-extrovert that I see myself as.
People have called me fat in my life, say "jeez, you've put on weight!". I don't like that feeling. I want to lose that so the comments stop. So am I changing for me? Am I changing for them?
In reality I think that overall we will lose weight for ourselves and feel confident, I also think we want to lose weight not just for medical reasons but also because we loathe our self perception of how we think others see us and want to look good in society and even walk into clothes shops without feeling like a leper with a huge bell!!
But I also think a part of us loves praise and we lose weight too so that we are complimented and feel better so in a way aren't we also losing weight for others?
I'm sure there is no one answer. For 1000 of us, I'm sure there will be 1000 emotive reasons as we lose weight but I just wanted to gauge how others feel.