Why is it unacceptable and why must she be jealous?
Like some of us have said, those of us who do the weighing would be mortified if we upset someone like that, and I bet none of us would do it intentionally!
I'm sure I've said something along the lines of "here comes our star pupil" or similar in the past and I am never jealous of anyone!
I appreciate none of you mean it intentionally/are jealous etc but I think you've got to realise that for a lot of people who are overweight, or who lose a lot each week/dont lose a lot each week or whatever else it may well have a massive effect on them emotionally and psychologically.
I know it must be really hard to know what to say/what not to say but to be quite honest I would just stick to polite friendly smiles, "hellos" and chats about the weather or whatever is 'everyday' to all of us - once you start asking questions or highlighting *in any way* something as personal as weight to someone for whom it might be a seriously, seriously raw issue (which is ALL of us, as thats why we're here at all) you're taking a big risk of really... ohh I dont know the right word, kind of the 'the straw that broke the camel's back'?
I dont know, its very hard to explain. Weight loss can be such massive, MASSIVE pressure and living up to the expectations put on you by the consultant, the team etc saying this kind of thing can be just too much to live up to and its a reason people just give up. Just think of the ways you can put great pressure on people by imposing an expectation (of any kind) on them by what you say, however unintentional. And when it happens week after week after week it can just get too much.
tbh Im surprised SW lets the team do it with no guidance whatsoever. Do the C's even get trained on the sort of thing that is/isn't necessarily constructive conversation? If not Im pretty shocked tbh. There's a lot of very deep psychological issues in weight loss and body image in general, and I think general guidance is absolutely key if you're going to be in any position of responsibility.
I know you're all volunteers but you are still in a pretty high position from the point of view of any of the members, especially newbies and people who might not be all that well emotionally and psychologically, (which is a big percentage in the overweight - you only have to read some of the threads on this board to see how people who look just fine on the surface are really really not very well underneath).
Anyway, dont think Im having a go, just really trying to help you see how even the most seemingly inocuous comment about something that's very, very personal to someone (weight/body image etc) can really hurt and be damaging so its probably best to leave the personal stuff alone in public when you can x