Mis- behave I had a similar experience. I'm actually a curvy hourglass shape. My sister is a straight up and down stick. I spent my teenage years bring told by my parents , dad inparticular, that I was fat and that I had his family's genes so I would always be big.!
When I had kids I did start to put weight on because I thought I may as well be what I was going to be regardless.
It took me years to realise that actually I wasn't fat but had a much better figure than my sister and my parents didn't understand different body shapes.
It's something I've always stressed to my 2 girls that my eldest has my shape but a much skinnier metabolism whereas my youngest is overall narrower and rounder and will be very curvy and sexy but has my predisposition to put weight on.
It can cause issues with my youngest who thinks she's fat simply because my elder daughter is naturally skinny.
We really need to be aware of what we say and do in front of our kids. Psycological damage can go on for years. It's why I refuse to do a tfr diet. I want them to see me have a healthy relationship with food where I may only lose weight slowly but sensibly. No offence to anyone on a tfr it's just my choice.
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