LL JULY STARTERS
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Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
AW, hon, its no trouble - having been through it, and knowing what you might be feeling, its just sometimes easier for an outsider to view it differently, and I recall things that made me feel better - so if I can share it and help - happy to do so.
This diet can be trying at the best of times, and you are going through a big transisiton with work, and not spending the day with your little one - its understandable you might have some ups and downs. Things will beging to look bright again as you settle into your new routine.
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peony
Silver Member
You do talk some sense BL. I have lost a couple of pounds since Tuesday (had a pop in) I am now 16 stone dead. Just one more measly pound to be in the 15's and then I can crack out my BEAUTIFUL new handbag. My little girl said to me this morning - you haven't used your new handbag yet! I just agreed that no I hadn't - I don't want her to know I am rewarding myself for losing weight, she just accepts that mummy likes milkshakes and soups lol. Still looking at my beautiful new bag is really encouraging me to stay on the straight and narrow - hopefully I will be able to use it within a few days!
Red Patent Leather Large Pollyanna From Accessory Designer Lulu Guinness Autumn / Winter 09
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Red Patent Leather Large Pollyanna From Accessory Designer Lulu Guinness Autumn / Winter 09
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milli
Full Member
That handbag is fantastic peony - a handbag is always a massive incentive isn't it!!
BL had the same logical advice for me when I lost only 0.7lb last week and certainly cheered me up no end - what would we do without her.
I can understand the upheaval of going back to work and leaving your little girl - I had to go back when my little girl was only 12 weeks old (own business and my assistant left with only 1 weeks warning)
and that is when my weight ballooned - 4 stone in 12 months!
It does get easier though and now I love spending time with my girls and having time to be myself.
Just try to enjoy it, it will get easier.
Milli x
BL had the same logical advice for me when I lost only 0.7lb last week and certainly cheered me up no end - what would we do without her.
I can understand the upheaval of going back to work and leaving your little girl - I had to go back when my little girl was only 12 weeks old (own business and my assistant left with only 1 weeks warning)
and that is when my weight ballooned - 4 stone in 12 months!
It does get easier though and now I love spending time with my girls and having time to be myself.
Just try to enjoy it, it will get easier.
Milli x
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Ahh, bless ya girls. What would we all do without each other! Its very much a two way street!! You lot help me to - seeing new starters succeed, reminds me of why I did this in the first place. Your struggles remind me of the hard work - and hte VALUE of the results....so you help me to you do!! I suppose the is why I have been unable to tear myself away from this site.
Peony - I love the bag!!! Isn't it wonderful to treat ourselves now and again to something so nice!! It really is lovely! WOuld go with muy new red shoes.... hehe
Have a good day ladies!!
ANd always remember the rule of averages - when you feel you are slowing down, or having bad losses etc., it is always helpful to step back and see what the average is - it wa always reassuring tio me that I was still ahead of the game.
Take care....
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Peony - I love the bag!!! Isn't it wonderful to treat ourselves now and again to something so nice!! It really is lovely! WOuld go with muy new red shoes....
heheHave a good day ladies!!
ANd always remember the rule of averages - when you feel you are slowing down, or having bad losses etc., it is always helpful to step back and see what the average is - it wa always reassuring tio me that I was still ahead of the game.
Take care....
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slendablenda
Gold Member
Lovely bag Peony
Rewards and treats are a necessity.
Bythe way - did Pollyanna have a mobile phone ?? !!
Rewards and treats are a necessity.
Bythe way - did Pollyanna have a mobile phone ?? !!
Jezebella
Playing the Angel
Hey Gals
Sorry I have been a bit absent of late, work has been hectic! Love love love the bag - it is absolutely gorgeous. You will be out and about with it in the next few days Peony hun.
So pleased to hear you are both doing so well. I have the morning off tomorrow so will spend some proper time reading your thread and catching up! Have a great abstinent weekend lovelies!
Jez
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Sorry I have been a bit absent of late, work has been hectic! Love love love the bag - it is absolutely gorgeous. You will be out and about with it in the next few days Peony hun.
So pleased to hear you are both doing so well. I have the morning off tomorrow so will spend some proper time reading your thread and catching up! Have a great abstinent weekend lovelies!
Jez
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Morning all!
Thank you goodness it is finally the weekend. The sun is shining which makes it all the better! I love this time of year, a cold, crisp bite in the air and the leaves falling off the trees.
I am definately feeling the cold though! I am sure that is a combination of abstinence/ketosis and the shift of 87lb! Need to wrap up more!
Are any of you July folks due to finish soon?
Kat xx
Thank you goodness it is finally the weekend. The sun is shining which makes it all the better! I love this time of year, a cold, crisp bite in the air and the leaves falling off the trees.
I am definately feeling the cold though! I am sure that is a combination of abstinence/ketosis and the shift of 87lb! Need to wrap up more!
Are any of you July folks due to finish soon?
Kat xx
melarnz
Silver Member
I know this probably isnt the place to put this, but I am just feeling so sad.
My best friends dad died this morning. He was such a lovely guy, and I'm hurting for my friend and for him. I want to be there for her, but I have thankfully never experianced loss of such a close loved one before so I dont know how to be or what to do.
I feel a bit lost...
My best friends dad died this morning. He was such a lovely guy, and I'm hurting for my friend and for him. I want to be there for her, but I have thankfully never experianced loss of such a close loved one before so I dont know how to be or what to do.
I feel a bit lost...
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Oh Mel, what sad news.
I lost my dad in 1993 - and it may as well have been this morning. There is not enough time to take the pain away - you just get better at hiding it. My dad he was my hero, and he probably was hers too. If your friend adored her father, she is in an unimaginable amount of pain right now, and all you can do is be there for her, for whatever she needs. Nothing you can say or do, will really make her feel any better - but just being there for her will help.
I feel for her. It was just the worst thing that has ever happened to me, and I am sure she feels completely and utterly lost.
Just hugs, and cuddles, and someone to help wipe the tears - and listen - stuff like that will comfort her. But it is the worst thing to ever go through. The worst. It change my life, completely.
Sorry to sound grim. I just know - for me - a father-daughter bond was something powerful and wonderful - and when its gone - well, not much anyone says or does can help. At least thats how it was for me.
Just be there by her side, and let her know you will help her however you can.
I am so sorry. It really is a life altering thing, what she is going through.
xxx
I lost my dad in 1993 - and it may as well have been this morning. There is not enough time to take the pain away - you just get better at hiding it.
My dad he was my hero, and he probably was hers too. If your friend adored her father, she is in an unimaginable amount of pain right now, and all you can do is be there for her, for whatever she needs. Nothing you can say or do, will really make her feel any better - but just being there for her will help. I feel for her. It was just the worst thing that has ever happened to me, and I am sure she feels completely and utterly lost.
Just hugs, and cuddles, and someone to help wipe the tears - and listen - stuff like that will comfort her. But it is the worst thing to ever go through. The worst. It change my life, completely.
Sorry to sound grim. I just know - for me - a father-daughter bond was something powerful and wonderful - and when its gone - well, not much anyone says or does can help. At least thats how it was for me.
Just be there by her side, and let her know you will help her however you can.
I am so sorry. It really is a life altering thing, what she is going through.
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peony
Silver Member
Mel, just wanted to echo what BL has said really. Like you I haven't suffered a close loss but have close friends that have.
About 10 years ago one of my best friend's dad died. I didn't want to intrude on her or her family's grief and she is a very stiff upper lip type of girl and seemed to me at the time to prefer it this way.
A few years later another close friend lost her mum. She wasn't stiff upper lip and turned to me utterly for support. I just did all the things that BL has said to do above. And I realised that stiff upper lip or no, I had misread my other friend's need for closer support when she lost her dad. The next time I saw her I told her that I was so sorry that I was not there for her more those years earlier when her dad died. I explained why I thought she wanted to grieve privately and she told me that she understood but that she had needed me as my other friend did.
It was a hard lesson, I try too much sometimes to second guess what people want. It is sometimes better to just to wade in and if they don't want the support you are giving, let them tell you.
Not a lesson learned in vain. My husband's best friend lost his dad a couple of months ago. We were all close. My husband didn't know whether to leave his friend to come to him or go to him. I told him about my experiences with my friends and he went to him, let him talk, in turn talked about his memories of his friend's dad which turned out to be exactly the right thing to do.
Much love to you & your friend sweets.
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About 10 years ago one of my best friend's dad died. I didn't want to intrude on her or her family's grief and she is a very stiff upper lip type of girl and seemed to me at the time to prefer it this way.
A few years later another close friend lost her mum. She wasn't stiff upper lip and turned to me utterly for support. I just did all the things that BL has said to do above. And I realised that stiff upper lip or no, I had misread my other friend's need for closer support when she lost her dad. The next time I saw her I told her that I was so sorry that I was not there for her more those years earlier when her dad died. I explained why I thought she wanted to grieve privately and she told me that she understood but that she had needed me as my other friend did.
It was a hard lesson, I try too much sometimes to second guess what people want. It is sometimes better to just to wade in and if they don't want the support you are giving, let them tell you.
Not a lesson learned in vain. My husband's best friend lost his dad a couple of months ago. We were all close. My husband didn't know whether to leave his friend to come to him or go to him. I told him about my experiences with my friends and he went to him, let him talk, in turn talked about his memories of his friend's dad which turned out to be exactly the right thing to do.
Much love to you & your friend sweets.
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Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
I might add, it takes an awful, AWFUL long time to come to grips with a loss like this for some people, despite a brave face and a seemingly normal behaviour after a time....she may need support for many months to come. I did. Unfortunately, my OH gave me none, so I went it alone....and very very poorly.
Greiving is essential. It MUST be done, and the sooner and more complete the better. I speak from experience. SO just know, she will be very fragile, no matter what you see on the outside, she is suffering on the inside I would imagine.
Peony - you did your best for your friend - you did hwat you thought she woudl want., You can't blame yourself - you are not a mind reader, and I do believe, until someone experiences the loss of a parent - well - they might think they have an idea what they are going through, but trust me- you won;t. It is the worst, most awful painful part of life.
You will, and do know now, what to do in future instances, so a very good lesson was learned for you. I am glad you were able to talk to your friend, and that she understood.
It is such a raw time in life. The deepest cut ever.
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Greiving is essential. It MUST be done, and the sooner and more complete the better. I speak from experience. SO just know, she will be very fragile, no matter what you see on the outside, she is suffering on the inside I would imagine.
Peony - you did your best for your friend - you did hwat you thought she woudl want., You can't blame yourself - you are not a mind reader, and I do believe, until someone experiences the loss of a parent - well - they might think they have an idea what they are going through, but trust me- you won;t. It is the worst, most awful painful part of life.
You will, and do know now, what to do in future instances, so a very good lesson was learned for you. I am glad you were able to talk to your friend, and that she understood.
It is such a raw time in life. The deepest cut ever.
xxx
melarnz
Silver Member
Thanks Guys - She is being ultra strong at the moment. However, I know there will be a fall out. Probably after the funeral, she is busy organising and sorting things out, she hasnt let herself think about it.
I dont really want to bring the thread on a downer, so I will stop talking about it now.
Peony - Its your turn tomorrow, how have you think you have done?
BL - Great before and after pictures!! I keep trying top get my shopping pics on her, but the day I actually got someone over to my house to take the pics, the battery ran out on my camera!! But ill get them on eventually!!!
Everyone else - Have a fantastic week!!!!
I dont really want to bring the thread on a downer, so I will stop talking about it now.
Peony - Its your turn tomorrow, how have you think you have done?
BL - Great before and after pictures!! I keep trying top get my shopping pics on her, but the day I actually got someone over to my house to take the pics, the battery ran out on my camera!! But ill get them on eventually!!!
Everyone else - Have a fantastic week!!!!
Blonde Logic
Yes. You can.
Thanks Hon.
Mel, I don;t think anyone here would feel you are bringing the thread down - if it si something that you need to speak of, then do so - if it helps you. Never feel you can;t get off your mind, what you need to. Not here.
Mel, I don;t think anyone here would feel you are bringing the thread down - if it si something that you need to speak of, then do so - if it helps you. Never feel you can;t get off your mind, what you need to. Not here.
peony
Silver Member
Hi ladies
I am delighted to say that today I am using my new bag, yippee!
To be honest I need a bit of a telling off -
I know I know it is better not to jump on and off the scales, I usually only do it on weigh day when I get up, but I sooo wanted to get into the 15's to use my new bag and have been a pound off for days. Yesterday I got on them to see and was just really really fed up with lack of scale movement. I just felt a bit hopeless - 1 on my scale the previous week, sts on the LL scale and was looking like next to nothing this week too.
I know we have been through this before on this thread but it is so hard when all you can see is your end date stretching endlessly before you, getting further and further away, my husband even asked if I had cheated - well now one of my most important values is justice and fairness and to be falsely accused of ANYTHING makes my blood boil. LL counsellor implied this last week too, I am so going to have words with her this week. So yes anyway, I just spent the day feeling really fed up about it all, you can just hear the internal voices I am sure - 'It's not fair, 2 lbs in 2 weeks, what is the point of starving myself.....costing me a bloody fortune....etc. etc.' Never got so bad that I felt anywhere near close packing it in tho.
So anyway, sorry to go on and on. The upshot is that I thought blow it this morning, I am going on the scales again... and I am one eighth of a pound from losing 5 lbs this week. When will I learn? I am only 3 lbs from 5 stone. I really need to work on my inner voices, they are an absolute pain. Spent the whole of yesterday in such a foul mood what a waste of time huh?
Well, that's me - official weigh in tomorrow, love to all.
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I am delighted to say that today I am using my new bag, yippee!
To be honest I need a bit of a telling off -
I know I know it is better not to jump on and off the scales, I usually only do it on weigh day when I get up, but I sooo wanted to get into the 15's to use my new bag and have been a pound off for days. Yesterday I got on them to see and was just really really fed up with lack of scale movement. I just felt a bit hopeless - 1 on my scale the previous week, sts on the LL scale and was looking like next to nothing this week too.
I know we have been through this before on this thread but it is so hard when all you can see is your end date stretching endlessly before you, getting further and further away, my husband even asked if I had cheated - well now one of my most important values is justice and fairness and to be falsely accused of ANYTHING makes my blood boil. LL counsellor implied this last week too, I am so going to have words with her this week. So yes anyway, I just spent the day feeling really fed up about it all, you can just hear the internal voices I am sure - 'It's not fair, 2 lbs in 2 weeks, what is the point of starving myself.....costing me a bloody fortune....etc. etc.' Never got so bad that I felt anywhere near close packing it in tho.
So anyway, sorry to go on and on. The upshot is that I thought blow it this morning, I am going on the scales again... and I am one eighth of a pound from losing 5 lbs this week. When will I learn? I am only 3 lbs from 5 stone. I really need to work on my inner voices, they are an absolute pain. Spent the whole of yesterday in such a foul mood what a waste of time huh?
Well, that's me - official weigh in tomorrow, love to all.
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