MrsDannyDyer's now proud Mummy to baby Jessica :)

lol I'm the same Kirsty.. put on another lb and refuse to be down about it.. will sort it out later.

Also get about 4 emails a week - Erin loves going through them with me, has done from the start. :)

Off for curry and poppadoms now! lol (at home not takeaway as not many veggie options). lol
 
Hiya im doing fine. Looking forward to my scan tonite. fingers x the baby is lying in a good podition so we can see clearly!!

hows u?
 
ooh tonight! Wow thats come quickly.
Hope it goes well and you get some wonderful views and images ((hugs)).
How exciting finding out if you are having a boy or a girl! :D
 
Sickness is back :( Being sick at the sight of horrible things or horrible smells. But got d sick feeling hanging around all day. Its horrible. But as its my last baby just got to get through it! (well said the last was my last lol)

Going away the weekend to the Dunoon cowal games. We got every year. Stay in the tent as u can never get enough space for the caravan as the place is so busy. But we get up so early and head into town until late and then up early d next d day and home on d ferry. so should be ok. Will prob b shattered this year, but just gonna take it at my own pace. Looking forward to meeting the red hot chilli pipers again. Got my pic taken with a few off them last year, asked OH to take d pic, his face was a picture lol But they were great in the gig. so that will be d highlight again this year. Just a shame i cant have a drink. But may have a couple to get into d swing of things!!
 
hope your having a fab time sounds like fun x
 
Had a great weekend. Slept in the back of OH's car all weekend. Just as well he has a 7 seater lol Cant believe thats me 20 weeks now. Same again now to go or less until the babies here.

Went to asda today and thot about starting to buy clothes to put away. Then ended up seeing nice clothes for Rhiannon, so she ended up getting new clothes. Then we went to another shop and she saw a electronic toy and a toy thats like an amusement. I said to her she had to wait until xmas. Then OH said if mummy pays for one ill buy u the other. so she ended up with them as well. Cant imagine what it will be like with 2 little girls. We will be bankrupt lol

APart from that feel like the size of a house ust now. Not feeling baby move everyday yet. Just now and then.

When we were away the weekend there were loads of drunk ppl. and when we were sitting Rhiannon said whats that on the ground and someone had been sick!! im busy saying to my OH its disgusting why do ppl have to do that. Anyway we walked to a wee takeaway for brekkie and sat down to eat it and as i was eating my bacon roll i felt sick and b4 i new it i was sick at the side of the chair. This couple were staring at me in disgust. Probably thinking id been up all nite drinkin the nite b4 lol i wish.... so next time im going to keep my mouth shut!!!
 
oooh you are a total softy!!! with xmas around the corner I'll smack your hand and hubbies! lol no more toys now till xmas day! make yourselves stick to it! lol

Hope your sickness eases off too - and CONGRATS on 20 weeks.. wow it seems like yesterday you arrived on this board! lol and now you and Kirsty are both at the halfway point. :) I know it feels great and I'm sure you are feeling fab.
((Hugs))
 
Hadnt felt d baby move for a while so called the mw this morning, who suggested i go in. so we did and everything was fine. did have low blood pressure and protein in my urine tho. end of the month i have my next visit with the mw so will have it checked again then. just relieved its ok.

started ss today. went to class yday. am 1lb heavier than when i 1st found out i was pregnant which is not bad. tho i have put on the 7lb i lost in d early weeks. but happy with that. so hopefully i can keep an eye on it and not go over bored. I hate when ppl say i dont no why ur bothering ur pregnant. but im already very overweight and dont wanna be 3 st more after this baby is born, so if i can watch what im doin now its better for both of us
 
Well done on the weight ((Hugs))

Sorry to hear about the protein, fingers x'd it passes and doesn't lead to anything. Also about hte low BP.. welcome to the club! lol be careful though when you're standing for too long etc as that is when I get dizzy etc.
 
Feeling ok. Just get tired very easy. But i read in one of my emails that could be about to disapear so will be glad to see it goine
 
I find it comes and goes at the moment lol am heading into the 3rd trimester in the next few weeks so will be interesting to see how I cope! lol Have really 'increased' in size the last 2 weeks. lol
 
Im devestated. My oh has left and i dont think he'll be back. After almost 9 years together he said he doesnt want another baby and said he was going. He said its going to be awkward when he comes to collect our DD cause she will ask why the baby isnt coming. And he said he doesnt no how its going to work and thats it hes gone. I have no idea what im goin to do. How can i have a baby on my own.
 
:hug99: blummin heck Mrs DD, what a lot to have to cope with right now! I don't have any sage words for you sorry, just maybe he needs some time, and at 22 weeks now, you've got a fair while to see if things change before the baby comes.

If the worse comes to the worse, then you will cope. I was a single parent to my son for 2 years, and coped because I had to. We are all a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for.

Keep talking, we're all here for you x
 
((Hugs)) hope you have support to talk to, cry and scream to when you need it.

One thing a friend of mine helped me with when Erin was a baby and Graham and I were splitting up - we worked things out in the end - was that 'we are women, we are STRONG'! Honestly I was in pieces, and she kicked my butt, made me get advice financially to ensure I could carry on working, pay rent, nursery etc and 'cope' practically if not emotionally.

I'm sorry that he is feeling this way, but he has TWO children not one anymore whether he likes it or not. I'd be telling him he can't have contact with one and not the other - how on earth will baby feel? I'd recommend legal advice on that one if things continue. There are contact centres etc that will oversee contact if you need to as well, the schedule and a safe environment if needed.

I'm also so sorry that you are facing everything on your own, but hope that the 'own your own' really isn't true and that you have help at hand from family and friends.

Fingers x'd he settles and it's just a spook like Kirsty's hubby went through ((Hugs)) Please know we are here for you - rant away hun. x x
 
Thanks. I havent told anyone yet. Just hoping that he will be back b i need to say anything. Have spoken to him on the fone and from the sounds of it he wont be back. If i wasnt pregnant then he'd be back wtf?

Im goin to have to find sumwhere else to stay. I cant afford the mortgage on this place. I havent been to work in ages. Even tho officially im still employed. I live miles away from all my friends and family, and really dont want anyone to know anything unless i really need to. SO for now im plannin on saying hes away on business.

I just dont no how i will cope. Ive never brought a baby up on my own. Managed when OH was away on business but always handed her over as soon as he got back and went on strike for d rest of d day. Hes just so hands on and a great dad, thats what doesnt add up. The things hes saying just makes me think this has been brewin for a while. Now things like him saying have a drink etc adds up. He was never like that when i was pregnant with Rhiannon.

Sorry for burdening u all with this :(
 
Thanks Kirsty. Just dont think this is goin to be sorted in a few days. I foned him last nite and we were talking. And from what he was saying the kids hold us back etc. And then he started blaming me for putting another one on us. I thought maybe its because hes not got his boy. But hes just not like that.

The weird thing is i was always asking him for us to go out more and he was like who will watch d wean. My parents would jump at d chance to have her more. As they live so far away weekends would be d only time they could take her as she has nursery.

|I just dont no whats goin to happen. Im just so scared im goin to have to do this alone. I just wanna go to bed and cry and never get up again.
 
oh god hunni, your so so brave. I cant imagine what you are going through, but i would be in pieces, i know you must feel terrible but you do sound strong, and certainly the sort of person who would cope with what ever is thrown at them...

If you bring the baby up on your own, i honestly doubt either of your children would have a better upbringing, you sound like a fantastic mummy, and thats all that matters, men just tend to get in the way, and honestly, i doubt the children would miss out on anything at all...

Hope you can see the light at the end of the tunnel soon sweetie... stay in touch on here,

xxxxxxx
 
Just a quick note - wanted to reply earlier but am in and out today.. will respond later hun.
PLEASE don't think you are burdening us. You need someone to vent to, and believe me I can fully understand how you must be feeling. ((hugs)) But you also MUST believe that you CAN do this, even if the worst happens you are your LO's mum and we are built strong enough to take a lot of crap dust ourselves off in time and grow stronger from it. ((Hugs)) I'll be back later hun. x x
 
Had my app with the mw today. SO had a shower put my makeup on to make me feel better and its amazing how it works!

Heard the heart beat and all was fine. urine fine, bp fine (which supprised me)

Will see my own mw at 28 weeks at the health centre in town as due to get my anti d then, and routine bloods. She gave me the form for my hip grant too but did say my mw will sign it at next app which will be 28 weeks. Its cutting it a bit fine, especially if im going solo. But anyway glad everythings goin well with the baby

Thanks everyone for all ur support, u have no idea how much it means to me xx
 
Well done getting to your appointment, and you are right about getting up showered and out the door. Hang onto that joy over baby too ((hugs)) no matter what your OH chooses you are a great mum and can be alone or with an other half.

A friend of mine once said to me that it's easy to move in with someone but not easy to move out.. and it's very very true. I lived with a bloke before Graham and things were a nightmare when it ended - even without kids - just finding accomodation, sorting out joint posessions, money he owed me etc.

From what you've said It sounds like if his gripes are about being 'held back' that the horse has bolted on that one, he'll still be a dad whether he lives with you or not. It shouldn't be that he can't cope unless you go out all the time and by the sound of what you've said HE didn't want to go out.

There really is little difference between 1 or 2 children when it comes to commitment as the first is the life changer. I won't pretend they don't change your life because they do. But honestly there is little difference between 1 and 2.
I truly hope he just needs a little time - for your sake if you want him back. But if not then don't leave things too long hun, you need to get yourself sorted financially and emotionally.
((hugs))
 
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