OMG some people really need to think first

Discussion in 'Slimming World' started by pinktiger, 23 October 2009.

  1. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    I feel like I just seem to want to complain about people at the mo but since starting SW I've met some really nasty people, read comments from others on here who have encountered horrible degrading comments from others and even had comments that have upset me said to me.:mad:

    Why do some people think they have the right to put us down like this? So what if we're not a bloody size 0 (wouldn't want to be either) we're still human and have feelings.

    I know we're stronger than those making these horrible comments as we're doing something for ourselves to help but they can't can they? But why oh why do they feel the need to put us down when we're all doing so well?

    Last week one of the members of my class told the Consultant she was deluded as our leader is loosing weight whilst doing the job as no one else wanted to do the job. The consultant has a goal in mind that reminds her of a happy time in her life and the nasty member said "You're deluded, you've had 2 kids and theres no way you're going to get back to pre child weight" I thought this member had hit goal but found out she hasn't but has been lying to the group. Turns out the consultants goal is lower than hers so I'm thinking she's jealous:sigh:

    Sorry rant over now for the good bit. Any negative comments will only make us stronger in the end and make us more determined to get to our goals. We can do it, we will do it and I can't wait to get to goal to prove to all those negative people that I can change my problem, they can't.

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  2. DisneyMumma

    DisneyMumma Well-Known Member

    I know what you mean, and in the past, most of these comments have got me down and kept me down, hence piling on the pounds; and that's what they want I suppose. They want to keep us miserable so they can think there is someone feeling worse than themselves.

    But NO MORE! I am over it, and they can deal with their problems and I'll deal with mine WITHOUT feeling the need to make silly comments to them back. (and that even includes my mother).

    Whose with me?!!

  3. ilovelife

    ilovelife Wishing and hoping!

    everything starts with an idea :)
  4. Mrs V

    Mrs V Loves Life!

    Its definitely a case that people get jealous that we are suddenly getting all this attention for weight loss.
    Personally I applaud your Consultant, maybe her goal is a little unrealistic, but at least she is trying and that member should have been taken to one side and told that her comments were bang out of order.
    I've turned the negative comments around and they make me even more determined to reach my goal now...maybe my goal is unrealistic (coming from 21 stone 7lbs to 10 stone), but Im going to try! Lol
  5. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    My goal is to loose half my body weight, was 18st to start with and would love to get to 9st as it's smack in the middle of my weight range. If it takes me bloody 1 year or 5, I'm going to give it a good goal. Don't get me started on mums, not even told mine about this weeks 1.5lbs as no doubt it would get "Is that all, told you you'd never be slim". I'll show her

    It's not a race or a competition
  6. Sarah-Jayne

    Sarah-Jayne Well-Known Member

    Thanks for that post hun x
  7. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    That's ok, it just makes me angry when people put others down like that. More so as not all of them know what we are going through :p. Everyone thinks I'mthe size I am because I eat crap which isn't the case and it annoys me that they don't take feelings into consideration before they open their mouths.

    I've been on limited physical activity for 3 years now after seriously damaging my knee and also have PCOS so I struggle with my weight but people don't understand this not even my mum takes this in to consideration. I take the negatives and throw them away but keep the positive ones and smile:D I will not:giveup:no matter what xxx
  8. Sarah-Jayne

    Sarah-Jayne Well-Known Member

    Love your attitude :D lol
  9. Mrs V

    Mrs V Loves Life!

  10. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    Not always been this positive, had a very down time last year that was so bad I ended up on anti-depressants for 4 months and seeing a pyschciatrist(not sure on spelling) for the same length of time that changed the way I think and feel about things. Even considered going back to help me through this now but will see how I go
  11. Sarah-Jayne

    Sarah-Jayne Well-Known Member

    Psychiatrist, I work for three of them lol.
    Try to see how you go first babes, you know anti depressants are the last resort. They obviously thought you didnt need them anymore if you are off them now :)
  12. Vixxster

    Vixxster Nojo on the YoYo

    Mrs V!! Don't say that! I'm 3 stone 10lbs from there - down from 23 stone. Don't tell me it can't be done, cos i'm going to DO it!!!

    AND I have PCOS too. It sucks, but I WILL get there.
  13. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    I never want to go back on those again but wouldn't mind speaking to my CPN (that's what they're called over here) again if needs be. It was funny as after a week of taking the tablets I started feeling better, it was a joint desicion to come off them, they did help but I think just talking to the CPN would of helped but they said I needed them to get through the day as was crying all the time and unfortunately I was alone at the time as OH was away and he was part of the problem.

    As they say "It's good to talk", never beleived in it before but now I know it works:D
  14. Sarah-Jayne

    Sarah-Jayne Well-Known Member

    Ah yes, if you have a CPN then speak babes :) Is your OH back now then? x
  15. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    Yeah he's back since May. I'd have been lost without him since my op but I know next year he'll be away most of it training and then away the following year for 7 months.
  16. charlottegrace1

    charlottegrace1 Well-Known Member

    Selfish and jealous is what I think these people are. We have something to aim for to make our lives better and ourselves better too, what do they have, nothing apart from angry feelings over something in there lives that they vent at us. They are not to be blamed but pitied that they are so angry and shallow. Rise above it and look to the positive in your life babes. xx
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  17. Donnie46

    Donnie46 Slow but sure....

    Good luck Vixx, I know you will do, well done. X
  18. Donnie46

    Donnie46 Slow but sure....

    It makes people feel big to have a downer on us - it gives them enjoyment to goad us and hurt our feelings, I've had it since the first day in the playground when I started school.

    We are better than they are and we are doing something about it.....good luck on your weight loss, you sound so determined so I am sure you will get to your target.....then they will have something to shout about.

    Good post, pinktiger and CG, thank you both. X
  19. pinktiger

    pinktiger Well-Known Member

    Well done and I'm sure you will do it, you've done fantastic so far and it obviously works for you :D

    Do you find that any part of SW affects your PCOS in a negative way?
  20. avisk

    avisk xx

    Unfortunately there will always be people who cannot feel good about themselves unless they can put someone else down. We can do three things about this.

    The first is to ignore them, the second is to feel sorry for them, and the third is to use the experience to remind ourselves that we should always be nice to others, even if they can't be nice to us.

    Yes, I know that all sounds a bit saintly (short pause while I polish my halo!! :innocent0002: ), but we can but try!

    And remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent".

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