Well Claire if it does do you in, I have the new skirt and waistcoat I bought in case Caroline did not survive her gym excursion (or should I exertion)? So, as long as your funeral service is on a Friday, I should be able to attend.
Seriously, you pay your taxes -- so, do not feel that you are not entitled to an out-of-hours visit if you are very unwell. I suspect that you are like a lot of mothers and are so used to putting yourself last that you do not think you are "worthy". Please take care, if you feel worse go to casualty.
MM