A couple of years ago, I used to buy clothes in a size 10 as motivation (I don't know, wishful thinking maybe? I was much smaller then, so a size 10 wasn't as far off as it is now)...not a whole wardrobe, just a few pieces here and there that I would pull out and look at from time to time, vowing that it would fit someday.
Anyway, my closest mate borrowed a skirt from me a couple of years back, and never returned it. When I asked, she said it's probably jumbled up somewhere in her humongous wardrobe. Fair enough.
Day before yesterday, she sent me a text saying that she'd found the skirt and asked if I still wanted it. I was having a really crap day as I'd gained a stupid amount of weight on a seemingly good week, so this news cheered me up a bit. I said yes.
She replied saying that she was NOT going to return it to me...she was going to give it away.
W....T......F....????
So, I said: "it's not yours to give away. Why would you even do that?" Her response?
"It's old and will never fit you (or me again)."
I was floored. She's normally a size 10/12, but she's pregnant right now with her second child. She's never had a weight problem, so I know that last part was probably an afterthought to lessen the blow. I explained to her how I use clothes like that for motivation.
She went on to tell me: "you probably don't remember how small the skirt really is", and that she now feels like burning the "stupid skirt" as she cannot see how a "silly skirt" could motivate me. After arguing over it for a while longer, she conceded that she'd return the skirt to me when "it fits".
This was all via text, but the last statement was definitely intended sarcasm.
The skirt is equivalent to a UK size 10. It is a one-of-a-kind designer piece I got from America, and it wasn't cheap.
So, in basic terms, my "friend" told me I'd "never" be a size 10, while giving away something that doesn't belong to her. I haven't spoken to her since then. It really upset me that someone I'd known for so long had absolutely no faith in me at all.
The weird part is she went on to say that she doesn't like that I always put myself down and am always concerned about what other people think....I do not even know what to say to that. I believe that she has in fact already given the skirt away....otherwise, why ask me if I still wanted it then refuse to send it back when I said yes?