The word 'FAT'

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  1. Cherryade

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    Having been overweight since I was about 8, I used to get taunted and called fat by other kids. I was never bullied (maybe cos I was always really tall) but would still get the occassional name calling.

    I call myself fat and it doesnt hurt/bother me at all anymore. Almost like Ive reclaimed the word that used to hurt me.

    Last year I crossed the road in front of a motorbike that was v far away from the crossing and because he had to slow down (he was one of them show off revving types with his mate on the back)) he was not happy with me for crossing the road (!) and shouted at me 'TYPICAL FAT BIRD' - clearly showing off to his mate.

    I felt a bit weird being abused in the street as you would I guess! but 'that word' didnt hurt me. It was the first time I realised this.

    Do you use the word fat? Do other people seem to think you are being mean and cruel about yourself? (as they think I am) where I just think Im stating a fact like, Im tall, Ive got black hair etc.
     
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    I use the word fat, and even say I'm going to "fat club" I dont see it as an insult cos it's a fact lol

    Should someone call me a fat cow or fat b*tch or something, then I would take it as an insult I think though!
     
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    Like skinny moo I say I'm going to Fat Club, usually to colleagues and friends. I dunno, I feel like I'm poking fun at myself but it doesn't bother me now I'm doing something about it.
     
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    judimac Mad old Bat with Attitude

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    I have no hangups about calling myself fat, I too use "fat club" and call our leader the "Fat Controller". Now obese! (which is what I am) is a different matter :eek:
     
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    i use the word fat, due to being overweight for most of my life and probably on and off been ona 'diet' since i was 8 i am the first to poke fun at myself. its better now as i keep getting told off at work by boss and colleagues if i put myself down but is hard habit to break
     
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    Indieflower I have my mojo

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    I too say I'm going to "Fat club". I also agree that to us we are stating a fact, however, I can see how others can feel uncomfortable with us saying it, cos whatever they say to follow could backfire! lol
     
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    OMG obese is an awful word - i think cos it's "clinical" so more official!!
     
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    I actually have a problem with the word 'fat' and it pains me to use it even about myself but I think this stems from growing up with unhappy parents and my dad used to call my mum fat all the time.

    I would never call anyone fat. I have cringed when I've used that word about myself. I would never call anyone else fat and certainly wouldn't say I was going to a 'Fat Club'.

    I don't want my son to grow up with that word ringing in his ears and becoming worried about his weight (he is only 19 months now but he is like a sponge!) unless there was an obvious problem. I know of 8 year olds who hear their mum say they are off to fat club and they end up refusing to eat incase they become 'fat'.



     
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    I don't like the word fat if it is used against me but I do say I am going to fat club when I go to weigh in. I do though have a problem with the word obese - I hate it with a passion, it makes me feel such a failure & a person in society which needs singling out & needs 'special' measures. I also think that people who don't have or have ever had a weight issue have no idea of what we put ourselves through to make us feel better & be more healthy. I am losing weight for me, I want to be more healthy than I was when I was at my heaviest & I also don't want to feel ashamed when I have to go to the docs or family planning & be weighed & told my BMI is too high (normally by a thin person).
     
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    not always by a thin person i went to the local nurse once who proceeded to tell me i was very overweight bla bla and she was no slinky herself
     
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    I hate obese too, I know what you mean about the failure association. 'You are in the morbidly obese catagory' - always made me feel like I was going to drop dead any second!
     
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    I'm obese on the wii fit so my mii is dumpy lol quite funny but when other people are around embarrasing!
     
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    I've always been a sensitive person; and being called fat, obese etc- has always stung me a bit. I was bullied when at school for being fat, i remember in year 6, we were doing sports- and i'd developed breasts early, and this little girl (who now lives on a council estate, is obese and has 2 kids) put her hands up her top like she had breasts and went 'boing boing' as i ran- and everyone joined in. I'd never forget it; i just brushed it off- went straight to the toilet and cried. The bit that annoys me the most is that the teacher never did anything about it.

    huh never told anyone that before!

    But no, it's always upset me and it is those childhood memories that i want to turn around
     
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    I describe myself sometimes at work as the fatgirl but hypocritically would be quite offended if anyone said it back to me. Think I say it so that other people know I am under no illusion as to my size.

    Definitely don't use this word in front of my children as they are so impressionable.

    Actually trying not to use it at all any more in an attempt to be kind to myself - although sometimes I say it in a factual way, generally when I use it it is to belittle or knock myself.
     
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    I call it Fat Farm. But never when I am there! I call myself fat but I would never use it against anyone else. I don't have a problem with the word and, like many other people, I joke about myself being 'fat'.
     
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    LOL, I go to 'fat fighters'. I have always had the mickey taken out of me - especially by my family - still get it now , even from my mum, but hey she's fat too reckons she smaller than me -yeh right .
    I avoid any situations where there is people who I know who are gonna say something - I would rather walk 2 miles the long way round than go through a bunch of blokes who i know are gonna take the mick. I wont go swimming , I feel too fat to go into ''thin shops''. because they look down at you .The only shop i feel good in is 'YOURS' because it all fits , but I do hang my head in shame when I come out !!
     
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    I know i am FAT and have no problems using the word to describe myself, but i can also see how it could be offensive or upsetting to some people, so i usually say 'larger lady' if i'm describing somebody else. As for obese, now thats another matter, to me it is such a medical term that it makes me feel as if i'm knocking on heavens (or hells!!) door.
     
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    When I went up to my mums I invited her to SW with me... more for my moral support at a new class as a one off. She was all for it execpt for on the day! She claimed she'd had a week of eating so it wouldn't be worth her going (she doesn't go to SW and I hadn't implied she would have to WI!). Looking back I think she was worried of being told what she weighed as she thought she would have to WI... she makes out that she eats so healthly (apart from Thursday Fish and Chip night and Saturday Chinese Takeaway night EVERY week!)
     
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    Mum's eh?

    Mine just doesn't think and often says hurtful things. Like "I have this you could have borrowed, but it wont fit"!! She seems to think she is a lot smaller than she is - she is only around one size smaller than me, she drinks lots of wine (at least 2 glasses a night, a bottle + at weekends) and makes out like she is healthy!

    Over Easter when we visited her house I said I wasn't going to eat anything there as I wanted to get back onto the diet - to which she replied "yeah, yeah, heard it all before" - so much for support!

    Am determined this time just cos of that comment!
     
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    My mum's been quite supportive of me going to SW.

    My dad on the other hand... well he doesn't know I go and I will probably never tell him because he can be so insensitive. He'd call me at work (pre SW) and we'd be chatting normally then he'd say 'don't forget you need to lose some weight' as if it was just something he could drop in there! He likes to think he's healthy... well maybe he is living a healthier lifestyle now but a few years back is a different story. He'd be out ever Friday night drinking until he couldn't stand, eat crap like the rest of us and then as if to make up for it say 'I shouldn't have eaten that'.
     
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