Why I have been M.I.A! <long but worth it I promise>

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  1. katalena

    katalena Enjoying life!

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    I want to explain why I have been missing in action lately but to do so I need to tell you the whole story. I will make it brief but it will still be long! Please do stick with me and I hope you are still awake at the end!

    I was born with an imperforate hymen which was discovered when I started menstruating at 14 years old. A general anaesthetic and a gorgeous DR later and that humiliating experience was over!

    After years of horrendously painful, heavy periods I was diagnosed with endometriosis at 17 years old.

    I was just 21 when I first thought I was pregnant and terrified my boyfriend would leave me. When we realised I wasn’t we were both disappointed so decided to just see what happens.

    At this point I should say that timings are somewhat blurry. I know the facts about what happened but over the years I learnt to block the painful things out and all of this has been stored away in a brain compartment which copes really well with it all.

    So, we decided to keep trying but after approx a year nothing had happened. I visited the DR and recall the following things occurring but over what period of time I am unsure:

    Referrals
    Temperature charts
    Laparoscopy x3
    Fertility drugs – clomiphine
    Further tests (both myself & my partner)
    IUI (inter-uterine insemination)

    I can recall starting the IUI but have no memory of the first or second attempt. I didn’t have the third when it was planned as I had emotionally had enough. Instead I went on holiday with two girlfriends to recharge my batteries and think about whether or not I could continue.

    On the third attempt (in the 4th month) I remember still being unsure as to whether or not I wanted to do it. I remember lying there after the procedure and pushing to get the fluid out of me and almost feeling so angry that it wouldn’t work. That was a feeling that would live to haunt me for a long time.

    I can remember calling my Mum and telling her my already irregular period was late – 4 days seems to ring a bell. She said I should just call the hospital. Thinking they would say I had to wait a few more days, I called. She told me to go straight there and have a pregnancy test. When we got there my partner sat a few feet away from the room where she was testing my urine. It felt like the longest minute of my life. I will never forget the look on her face, the tone in her voice and the smile when she told me it was positive. My knees gave way and my b/f jumped up to grab me. I WAS PREGNANT!! It was an amazing feeling but it was to be short lived.

    A few weeks later I was rushed to hospital with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy – a salpingectomy later and the pregnancy joy was over and I was now a tube down.

    I don’t need to go into the details of that experience as I am sure it is something many people will be familiar with in some form or another.

    I was 22 years old and when I think back to that experience now, I can’t believe it happened at such a young age.

    We decided not to go through IUI again. It had drained me mentally and emotionally and put quite a toll on our relationship.

    We agreed to adopt. So we started the long process. They suggested that parting with our beautiful German Shepherd (Ellie) would be better as a parent giving their child up for adoption may not be comfortable knowing that breed of dog was in the household. We did and it tore my heart out. They suggested we got married – we maybe would have one day but it wasn’t on the cards for then but we did it to make the adoption process easier. We had a beautiful day and everything we wanted. We went through the entire process and had our lives completely explored. We soon got matched to a little boy, at panel he was given to another couple they felt better suited - my heart was once again torn out. Sometime later we were matched to a 10 month old boy but before we got to panel they came to us with a 7 week old baby – at panel the birth mother changed her mind – heart battered again, not only for 7 week old baby but also 10 month old boy. Eventually we did adopt that 10 month old boy but he was then 20 months old – there were some complications with foster mother who wanted to adopt him but because her cultural background didn’t match his and ours did he was given to us at panel – I was a Mummy!

    Anyway – to cut a very painful and complicated story short, after approx 2 years the adoption was a devastating experience and resulted in a broken, childless marriage.

    Six years later and after much time protecting and mending my heart I met my wonderful partner. We have been together almost 3 years and he knows the full story.

    He was never put off by the fact that it was unlikely we would have children.

    In the last couple of months I have started thinking more and more about it. I don’t know if that is because I am now approaching 36 and feel I would like that chance to at least try.

    I don’t hold my breath with all the complications I had but I once never believed I would be slim and my weight loss last year proved to me that anything is possible.

    Well..............I AM PREGNANT!! [​IMG]

    Kat xx
     
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  3. pancras

    pancras Full Member

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    Congratulation Katalena, what wonderful news, you must be so happy, slim and pregnant.
     
  4. katalena

    katalena Enjoying life!

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    I am over the moon, thankyou. It is early weeks yet but everything crossed :)

    I am going to continue working with my personal trainer at the gym (he is being advised by a pre-natal specialist) and maintain a healthy diet in the hope to keep the weight gain to minimum fat and just baby!

    A small price to pay in the grand scheme of things!

    Kat xx
     
  5. tafflass

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    wow what a story!
    you have been through so much.you must be very strong.
    amazing news that you are expecting.hope all goes well for you x
     
  6. katalena

    katalena Enjoying life!

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    Thank you Joanne :)
     
  7. Gemma79

    Gemma79 I will do this!

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    Kat that is amazing news!! Today really is a great day.

    (on a side note I want to slap he social worker who did your form F and recommended you got rid of your dog. As an assessing social worker myself I would never recommend such a thing as dogs are valuable learning tools for children, all pets are, but I guess times change!)

    Congrats again xx
     
  8. scotwannabethin

    scotwannabethin Back to the grindstone!!

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    Oh My Goodness, HUGE congratulations!! What a year you have had!!
    I am very pleased for you and hope all goes well, you must be just full of the joys of spring!!
    SWBT
     
  9. Blonde Logic

    Blonde Logic Yes. You can.

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    Congratulations Kat!!! Look after yourself!! :) :)
     
  10. melarnz

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    Huge amazing congratulations. Your story gave me goose bumps!! I do hope you have a wonderful pregnancy. Best of luck xxxxxx
     
  11. katalena

    katalena Enjoying life!

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    Thank you all :)

    Kat xx
     
  12. LL Gal

    LL Gal Beautiful day

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    Kat, that's so amazing ... Congratulations :)
     
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    thin_inside I Can Do This!

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    Fab news Kat. Congratulations. 2010 will be a great year!
     
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    What a sad story, but with such a happy ending :) Best wishes!!
     
  15. Morticia

    Morticia Happy in my own skin

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    kenshin112 Gotta Make A Change

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    Congrats Kat
    once again you've proved
    impossible is nothing (",) wish you the best love
    xx
     
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    Wow, what a story! Congratulations! I wish you all the best for the pregnancy and the beautiful child you'll bring into the world! xxx
     
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    OMG Kat....many congratulations! I hope everything goes well for you.

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    Kat - I can completely relate to your story ...I too have problems down below!!!! and have recently been through the adoption process although thankfully didn't have the competitive matching scenarios you painfully experienced nor had to get rid of my 2 dogs!
    I have had my son now for 15 months ( although legal stuff still drags on) and am a very happy, slimmer mummy.
    I am so happy for you and trust that you will be as happy a mummy as I am especially after your long and difficult journey to get there.
    Huge congratulations to you and your OH - what a fantastic last year you have had on your successful weight loss journey ... and what a wonderful year to look forward to as you start your parenting journey - woo hoo !
     
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    What a fabulous outcome for you - congratulations Kat! Take care of yourself and enjoy every moment :) xxx
     
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    Congratulations Kat!

    Some Angel must have wanted it to happen at this stage in your life ~ I hope you all are happy and healthy. xx :)
     
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