How Do You See Yourself?

[SuzyK]

Hanz

I have lost quite a bit of weight already and in some ways I can feel it but I am still not seeing it.

Only yesterday my dad commented about my weight and he is really the first to say he can see a difference, even hubby said he hadn't really noticed, but he did then add that he sees me everyday.

I think that is why I am not seeing my loss in the mirror as I am looking for it. I need to keep away from the mirror for a few weeks I think and then I will notice a difference.

The scales are telling me great things and so are my clothes but I still can't get away from the baggy jumpers...... hopefully as the weather gets warmer I will trade them in!

It does take time to actually see we are losing as I am discovering.

 

[shelz]

I think more often than not the problem with us is our image perception of ourselves. I for one certainly dont think I am thin, however over the past few days I have had three different people comment on my weight loss since Christmas. It is nice for people to comment, but not necessarily when you cant see it yourself.

My fiance did make a good point last night though. People that havent seen you for a while do notice changes better than people that are with you all the time. They have had longer to remember you as 'what you were' so the changes since are bigger. The people that are with you day in day out wont notice as they see you all the time and weight/size changes are gradual.

It just comes back to image perception. I dont think I will ever see myself as somebody else would/does.

 

[snuggle69]

I have over the last 5 years lost 8 stone and am now battling to lose the last 2 stone
But when I look in the mirror I still see the 20 stone me not who I am now so I still avoid mirrors wherever possible my family all think I am mad but I just can't help it what makes it worse is all the excess skin I am left with

 

[SuzyK]

Just a thought that I read on another thread a while ago, for those of us that still can't see much difference it was suggested to get a photo of before and now and compare the two.

I still haven't done that but I guess if I did I would see a difference.

 

[shelz]

It is a good way to see. I took photographs of myself every month along my journey last time to show the shrinking process. It is something I havent really done this year.

 

[hchappyh]

Does the photo thing help....I think it's a good idea. Not done that before.. Will take a photo over the weekend and find another one that is fairly recent to compare...

weigh in yesterday, feel very smug. Lost 1lb more than my friend, another 3lbs this week totalling 1st 7lbs in 6 weeks! Really pleased and feel loads better about myself.

xx

 

[SuzyK]

Well done on the weight loss. Don't you just love Go Lower???


I haven't tried the photo thing yet but I think I will soon especially as I go on holiday in a few weeks . Normally I stay out of the photos so maybe this time I will allow myself to be photographed.

 

[Just Peachy]

Suzy, that's a good idea. I'm going on holiday for a little over three weeks and I'm missing three weigh-ins, it's kind of scary. I won't have a scale or anything but I wanna keep at it. I won't be as severe obviously cos I won't be cooking at all, but I'll make good decisions. Maybe I can bring my tape measure and that'll make me feel better? Photo's a good idea tho, before and after, I like it

 

[hchappyh]

That's a good idea, Peachy...taking a tape measure with you on your holidays. Just remember to enjoy yourself and try to make the best informed decisions. It'll be harder as you won't know exactly what your eating, but not eating chips will be a good start....When are you going and where? Don't think we'll be going anywhere this year. Would love to but the thought of planes or any type of travelling with a 3 and 6 year old doesn't bare to well.

xx

 

[breadbin]

hiya depends on the mood i think. sometimes i like what i see in the mirror and other times i feel so so fat and ugly and disgusting like shelz. times like that are sort of few and far between though thank god!! think its something to do with my upbringing - never had any self esteem or confidence in anything but doing great despite that sorry to hear that shelz, hope it gets better soon.

@hchappyc: i think its so much harder to lose weight for myself!! i have no problem losing weight if i think someone might be interested in me which is such a pity

@desperate for chocolate: fat isn't ugly.

 

[Just Peachy]

Happy-travelling with little ones can't be easy. I had to travel and move a lot when I was little and my mum would just give me Dramamine and I'd sleep the whole way through. It's not like she was drugging me by the way, the doctor said a small dose was ok. All the flight attendants thought I was an angel

Yeah going to steer clear of chips and the like, there probably won't be much where I'm going. Doing Paris, Marseille and Nice with one of my best friends, and then meeting my flatmate in Vienna, then Budapest and Prague. Then flying to London to meet my mum, going back up to Newcy, probably doing Edinburgh, Durham and York. Crazy times! But should be really good, I can't wait. 14 days now!!!

Travelling is like my goal in life, and eating is a big part of the experience for me. I cannnooott wait to have proper French pastries and coffee and baguette, cheese and wine, and then have schnitzel and bratwurst and German bier, and goulash and all of the other things I don't even know about!

But it's going to take a lot of self restraint to have only small and sensible amounts of everything. I'm not gonna deprive myself cos I'm on a diet, I'm only gonna do these places the one time probably, so I'll have it all but I'll be reasonable. Hopefully. Aaaaah, petrified but excited at the same time.

 

[breadbin]

Happy-travelling with little ones can't be easy. I had to travel and move a lot when I was little and my mum would just give me Dramamine and I'd sleep the whole way through. It's not like she was drugging me by the way, the doctor said a small dose was ok. All the flight attendants thought I was an angel

Yeah going to steer clear of chips and the like, there probably won't be much where I'm going. Doing Paris, Marseille and Nice with one of my best friends, and then meeting my flatmate in Vienna, then Budapest and Prague. Then flying to London to meet my mum, going back up to Newcy, probably doing Edinburgh, Durham and York. Crazy times! But should be really good, I can't wait. 14 days now!!!

Travelling is like my goal in life, and eating is a big part of the experience for me. I cannnooott wait to have proper French pastries and coffee and baguette, cheese and wine, and then have schnitzel and bratwurst and German bier, and goulash and all of the other things I don't even know about!

But it's going to take a lot of self restraint to have only small and sensible amounts of everything. I'm not gonna deprive myself cos I'm on a diet, I'm only gonna do these places the one time probably, so I'll have it all but I'll be reasonable. Hopefully. Aaaaah, petrified but excited at the same time.

wow sounds fantastic!! i agree, don't deprive yourself but make it a priority to walk loads round the cities, maybe with a camera or something and so you won't feel guilty bout any little thing you eat.

don't forget the black forest gateaux too

 

[Just Peachy]

Yeah, I do have a camera so I'll have a venture round and take lots of photos. I'm so excited! Black forest cake is my ultimate favourite, christ, this is going to be so hard lol.

 

[hchappyh]

Peachy, you'll be fine. Wish I could take a trip like that, sounds like heaven. I've never really been into travelling. Met my OH at uni, graduated and got married and then had kids, so it never really happened, although OH managed to get away abit - he's done OZ, New Zealand, Fiji, Hawaii, etc etc.....me, Turkey, Greece and Spain - doesn't have the ring to it..

Enjoy the food whilst you are away. I also like to try different foods when away. It's soooo part of the fun of being on your hols....don't let the diet spoil it for you. Eat as sensible as you can, but don't deprive yourself - the diet will still be here when you get back!!

Good luck
xx

 

[SuzyK]

Happy

the doctor gave me phenegan for the kids when we went to New Zealand last year but I never needed to give it to them. I just tried to keep to their routines as best I could. We had a night flight for the first leg so I encouraged them to go to sleep as soon as we took of. Fortunately it worked which is why we are planning on going again at Xmas..... Mine were 2 1/2 and 4 last year so don't be too put of. I won't say it was easy but it certainly wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.

Peachy, I have just over two weeks until we go away on holiday but nothing as exciting as your trip. It sounds awesome. I have done all around the world but hardly any of Europe. One day I am determined to make it to Ireland!!!!

Enjoy your trip and as you said, be sensible about your food and stick to your diet where you can.

Breadbin
Don't worry, one of the reasons I am losing weight is because I don't like how others see me.

 

[KookieDoh]

I think from my ugly duckling quote you can see how I view myself.

My own view point is messed up anyway as I suffer from a disorder that warps my self image. However for all my percieved flaws, weight wise, I don't feel anything is "imagined" there. The scales don't lie. I do carry weight extremely well apprantly so no one guesses that's how big I really am but I know and that's what makes the difference when I look in the mirror.

 

[Just Peachy]

Happy and Suzy- I know it sounds so cool, I still can't believe I'm doing it! I can't wait to do more. I've done a respectable for my young age but I'll be able to tick a few boxes after this year. Yay! Suzy, enjoy your holidays, what are your plans? x

 

[sugar_fiend]

Awww I'm so jealous of everyone going on holiday - especially you Peachy that sounds so amazing! I'm stuck at Uni until July and have nothing planned for after that

 

[Just Peachy]

Aw, I'm sorry lol. Don't worry, after this year, I'll be broke and I'll have to find a place, move back in, have to find a job, and go back to uni in September lol back to real life! It'll be nothing to be jealous of.

 

[SuzyK]

My holiday is to Spain and just lazing around the pool or on the beach, as much as my kids will allow..... We will also take the kids out on trips but I want to relax as much as I can.

Enjoy your freedom of uni, life changes once kids come along.....

Kookie doh you are doing really well losing weight so I hope when you see a difference on the scales you will see that Swan that is already in you.