Is it true you will only lose weight & stick to it when you want to...

[x_kerry_x]

I am 26 and weigh 14.13... started about 8 weeks ago at 15.4 and got to 14.6 however the loss was slow and i got bored. Ive been off plan for about 2/3 weeks and have put on 7lb. I re-started yesterday (at home) and have a chart on the wall and will be weighin in every monday morning however i think im trying this for the wrong reasons... please help!

I am happy in my self, love my life and bf adores me (i think) he says he loves me at any weight and thinks im gorgeous. (ive put on about 2 and half stone since meeting him a year ago, was on a crash liquid diet when we met ) He probably doesnt mean it tho and will think im even hotter slimmer however because he loves me and tells me im gorgeous every day i am happy. I dont look in the mirror and think, yuk kerry what have you done, i make do with what ive got an dress to my figure. It is the biggest ive ever been but i carry it off well becuase im 5'9. Im a size 16 (sometimes 14 on top).

I see the scales and think sh*t i shouldnt weigh that much its enormous and say to myself i need to get those figures down. If i didnt see the scales id probably think i was ok and not that fussed about dieting...

Will i only lose weight when i know im myself that the weight is effecting me? I find im not 100% focused becuase i think i look ok.

Im confused lol, probably confused all of you aswell. Hope someone kind of knows what i mean.

Kerry xxxxx

 

[Beckyftwx]

Its great that you have the confidence you do, if you feel happy with your figure and your boyfriend adores it then why change?? If you have a bmi which is overweight then people may argue losing weight will be best for health reasons, but maybe a diet and weighing yourself each week isn't the answer if your not 100% wanting this and just cutting back on choc/crisps may be a better approach

 

[chloecat]

I understand what you mean. I guess a doctor would say for health reasons that you should diet if you are overweight, regardless of how you feel in terms of clothes, appearance etc... However, in reality it's difficult to be 100% committed if deep down you are quite happy. Why not cut the word 'diet' out of the equation and focus on a healthy lifestyle instead of weight loss? Maybe work on the good life principles like 5 a day, healthy meals, limited junk and think about overall health rather than how many lbs are being shifted? Maybe this would work better for someone like you who isn't too worried about shifting X amount of weight.

 

[Sparkswillfly]

I think you have to want it to get it. I agree with the above in terms of not dieting as such but 'cutting back'. I got down to about 13st two years ago and although I was still classed as overweight I was a size 14 and felt good about how I looked, it's not all about BMI.

 

[x_kerry_x]

I am Cutting things out and since being in sw I feel a whole lot more healthier in myself and for that reason I like to do it. During the week where I'm working sw is fine it's just weekend that kill me. Me n my partner are trying for a baby and have been referred to see a specialist , to be taken seriously I have to have a bmi or under 30. Mines about 31. Something so I should get down really but food makes me happy and I enjoy being me. I feel like I should get down for the all roundness ( is that even a word lol) of being healthy and happy. It's hard, feel like im
In a catch 22 situation lol. I would love to be slimmer but it's not essential but the scales tell me otherwise!! Xxx

 

[kingleds]

I generally think that it depends on how vain you are or how much confidence you have

If you are vain or lack self confidence, you'll be super sensitive about your appearance ,and will do somewthing at the slightest sign something is out of place. The kind of person who starts dying their hair when they see 1 grey hair, or gets botox when they see one line on their forehead. They also tend to be the kind of poople who freak out when people come to stay and deep clean their house before hand Not that I'm stereotyping on anything

THe rest of us are from what I like ot call the 'sod it, that'll do' generation. My health had to suffer before I started to loose weight, and I had to get othe point where I could no longer buy clothes on the high street before I stopped thinking that I looked alright. As a student I would happily go & buy new socks before I'd consider washing any. Even as a supposedly full grown adult I will often shut my kitchen door on the mess rather than actually, like, clean it up, and pray my mate who does a bit of cleaning for me doesn't bail this week.

So I guess the answer is, it depends on your personality. Some people would look at themselves as a size 14-16 and think - 'christ thats far too big, must do something aobut that'. I'm that size at the moment & I still think ' thats much smaller than I have been my entire adult life - Yay me!'

 

[x_kerry_x]

Thanks everyone for your input, i think it would be a good idea for me to continue as i am. Stick to cutting out the rubbish, ill loose a little weight which would be fab but as long as i feel healthy in myself thats all that matters at the moment. Continuing like this should help me shift half a stone or even more and i think noticing the difference will make me happy but im happy at the moment also. It sounds like im saying one thing then contradicting myself by saying weight loss is good.. lol i think im just a confused women at the moment lol.
All in all there is somethingi ve realised, eating crappy stuff makes my body feel crap and i hate that! Eating healthy makes me feel healthier and feel like i can do more and not be tired every half hour or so cus ive had a big high frmo chocolate then im on a low!
I think i would love to loose weight and be 'skinny ' however at this stage im happy if i stay the same. Certainly dont want to put more on and i know by contiuing to eat crap, this WILL happen.

I cant beleive i havent been on this site for ages, you all provide so much help and guidance its amazing.

Makes me laugh everyone thinking im body confident, i dont think that at all, i still hide away when im naked and normal things lol. I am normal and not arrogant about it, as soon as someone makes a passing comment abount me, ill be down in the dumps but im guessing as you get older people learn not to make comments like that so maybe im just ageing! Im woffling on now, dont really no what im on about, but thanks for your brilliant words of wisdom )xxxx

 

[Flymetodunoon]

If you are truly happy with how you look and feel then just get on with enjoying life

 

[downsizeme]

Your head does have to be in the right place. It's very difficult to do if you don't feel like you need to, willpower is the most important thing when you are losing weight - if you feel you don't need to lose weight then you are unlikely to have the willpower.

 

[hollys nan]

I totally agree with the above post. But I think it does actually get easier once you are in the zone. At first I found it hard changing habits, a little cake here, an extra something there, another drink etc. Once I had got into the zone I was away and now dont think twice about what I am eating and the cravings actually diminished fairly quickly. You will find your own way of doing things and if you are happy to maintain then thats great. We all have to be happy where we are and you will find lots of support on here. We all help and support each other.

 

[stivesliz]

Your head definitely needs to be in it. I wouldn't like to count up how many times I have rejoined SW in the last 15 years or so but I reckon it must be about 20+.

Even when I get to my 'target' I will still be classed as overweight, but I dont care as I am not one of life's twigs and I will always have my boobs and my bum. If you are happy, then hats off to you - maybe just moderate the naughties from a health point of view xxx

 

[lardylady]

Your head definitely needs to be in it. I wouldn't like to count up how many times I have rejoined SW in the last 15 years or so but I reckon it must be about 20+.

Snap! Something just clicked in my head this time I joined and I think that's why I have stuck to it and found it relatively easy. However, if you are 5ft 9in and a size 16, you certainly aren't enormous!!

 

[Rochelle1]

If you are genuinely happy at a size 14-16 then why are you worried?? A lot of us diet because we think we should! I think you've already told us in your post there that you arnt that bothered about losing any weight. Have you any health problems? If not then I don't see any reason to diet if you're happy as you are.

You could just eat sensibly. My aunty is about the same size as you (I think she's 14-16) and she joined weight watchers when I joined slimming world but she quit ages ago cos she realised she was only trying to diet because of what other people thought, and she was pretty alright about her size and was past caring about dieting.

I've not been a size 14 since I was about 13 lol!! So who knows maybe I will be happy when I get to that size too, I'm a 16 on top and 20 on bottom at the min, tried a size 18 top on yesterday while out shopping and it hung on me!! Was well pleased.

 

[x_kerry_x]

Maybe im just havign one of those days lol you watch tomorrow ill be saying i need to lose weight i can feel my reathing getting worse etc etc etc. SW is a great change of lifestyle and is a permanent one so maybe i should just follow the plans and see where it gets me, if i want something extra ill have it but changing my binges for good is a great option for me. One minute i say i dont want to next i do lol what am i going on about...

lardylady, well done with your weight loss!! Do you only do green days? I prefer green as i dont reaslly eat meat however felt this slowed down my losses alot. One week im up the next down, this is why i kind of gave up because i wasnt seeing much change. I think where ive doen crash liquid diets and lost lots in a short space of time, tis is what i expect to see on others however it doesnt work like that... the slower it comes off the longer it stays off right?x

 

[x_kerry_x]

Rochelle, youve hit the nail on the head there... sociately tells me i should weigh a certain weight and should be a certain size hence the reason why i think i should lose weight but then in reality im happy. Everyone would like to change something every now dont they.

Well done with the 18 hanging off you, love it when that happens ;-)

 

[Rochelle1]

Rochelle, youve hit the nail on the head there... sociately tells me i should weigh a certain weight and should be a certain size hence the reason why i think i should lose weight but then in reality im happy. Everyone would like to change something every now dont they.

Well done with the 18 hanging off you, love it when that happens ;-)

Exactly, we are told to be a certain BMI but really as long as you're healthy and happy who cares really?? I wanted to lose weight because I wasn't happy and my blood pressure was on the borderline so I wanted to for myself. Right now though a size 14 would be lovely size to be, so I bet you look great as you are!!

Only lose weight if you want to for yourself or your health, not for other people x

 

[Mrs CC]

Kerance, I think it is so hard to lose weight if its something you dont actually want to do and feel its something you have to do. If you find yourself telling yourself its for reasons other than yourself and what you want it will always be a struggle.

From what you've written it sounds like you would benefit from following sw just as a way of eating healthy without actually weighing yourself. That way you're doing it just to be healthier rather than any external factors.

From my own perspective as a serial dieter I'm currently struggling due to pregnancy. I'm not aiming to lose weight so have struggled to motivate myself to eat healthy and exercise. I'm gradually coming round to just eating and being healthy for the baby without worrying about me. But it is quite hard! But I'm also hoping that over the nine months it will sort me out so I quit my yoyo dieting lifestyle. I just wanna get into the habit of eating healthy and exercise as a lifestyle change for its own benefit and sake regardless of what it means for my weight.

 

[hells2012sw]

One thing I will say is that I have PCOS and I conveived both times after losing a lot of weight and being 11 stone, when I've been heavier ( like now ) my periods become very erratic, so that may be a motivator.

To me you need to be in the mindset, my weight has crept up since having my youngest almost 3 years ago and I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I've done various diets over the last couple of years then given up and gained the weight back plus more, however this time I really do think it's clicked in my head that I want to be a good, healthy role model for my kids, which is why I've joined SW as it's family friendly ( not that you would think that given the reaction of my kids to the quorn lasagne I just tried to feed them)