Laura Croft
Happily maintaining
One of the things I needed to learn to do in order to be at peace with food was to accept responsibility for my actions.
A long time ago, I had some therapy and the therapist told me about transactional analysis which is all about us operating in one or more egos - parent child adult.
I needed to take responsibility for my actions and this T really helped me to think about what 'ego' I was in. Any of these comments sound familiar?
Child mode:
I want some (pick the reward food) so I will have it. That food is bad. I am so stupid. I'm helpless.
It can be easy to lapse into this mode when we want reassurance from others as it puts them in parent or sometimes adult mode.
Parent:
Critical mode - Makes judgements, thinks about what 'should' be done
Nuturing mode - Can be either positive or negative but can negatively protect ie you deserve this food, you've worked hard.
Adult: Where we think and take action for ourselves, based on information that we receive. Good for keeping the Parent and Child under control
Please note I've really simplified this but when I read a lot of people lapsing and think about what ego they could be in, I thought this may help.
Here are two sites that give a bit more about Transactional Analysis and may be good starting points:
Facilitation skills - Google Books
TA Ego State Maps - Summary
A long time ago, I had some therapy and the therapist told me about transactional analysis which is all about us operating in one or more egos - parent child adult.
- Parent is our 'Taught' concept of life
- Adult is our 'Thought' concept of life
- Child is our 'Felt' concept of life
- http://www.businessballs.com/transact.htm
I needed to take responsibility for my actions and this T really helped me to think about what 'ego' I was in. Any of these comments sound familiar?
Child mode:
I want some (pick the reward food) so I will have it. That food is bad. I am so stupid. I'm helpless.
It can be easy to lapse into this mode when we want reassurance from others as it puts them in parent or sometimes adult mode.
Parent:
Critical mode - Makes judgements, thinks about what 'should' be done
Nuturing mode - Can be either positive or negative but can negatively protect ie you deserve this food, you've worked hard.
Adult: Where we think and take action for ourselves, based on information that we receive. Good for keeping the Parent and Child under control
Please note I've really simplified this but when I read a lot of people lapsing and think about what ego they could be in, I thought this may help.
Here are two sites that give a bit more about Transactional Analysis and may be good starting points:
Facilitation skills - Google Books
TA Ego State Maps - Summary
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