Morning, everyone!
This is so cool. I had my fourth counselling session last night and I just feel it was so totally the right time to be doing this. I'm getting "me" back. I almost got there with Lighter Life, but it was still slightly superficial somehow. I made huge progress, but I still had some "ishoos" going on. I think I'm starting to get back to the "me" I was (and was quite happy with) before my sister died all those years ago - almost as though I had put "me" on hold and was going through the motions of life. I've achieved a lot, given I wasn't really "here" fully - but I'm very excited to think a new lease of life is opening up for me now... it's quite amazing actually!
I'm only having another two sessions for now as it's quite expensive and I want to take a break and take stock before spending any more. What I've had has been so valuable to me though.
One sign that "I" am back is that I am growing things. I used to love gardening and plants when I was a child and young teenager, but could never quite get excited about it after my sister died, even though I tried. You should see my patio and windowsill now

. I've got tomatoes! (teeny tiny ones but very exciting) and strawberries and herbs and roses and a fern and lavender and peonies and a wisteria... all bursting into life... and runner beans and peas... and an apple tree loaded with fruit... and I got a hoya through the post (from eBay!) yesterday which is a huge milestone as I promised myself when I was 13 (my sister died the following year) that I would oneday have a conservatory with a hoya carnosa (wax flower) plant in it. I MADE IT!!!
I'm still very sad about my sister dying young. But I feel free to enjoy life. I'm allowed. I'm allowing myself to enjoy it! The smell of elderflower blossoms in the breeze... the cool blue of summer shadows slanting across the grass...
I'm going to be ok. I might be bigger than I want to be at the moment, but I can stop punishing myself. It's not my fault she died and she really wouldn't want me to still be sad and stuck and struggling, almost 30 years on...
Have a truly wonderful day, everyone.