I'd love to get your ideas and feedback to my current situation, I say "current" as I reallyyyyyyy hope it won't be permanent.....
I met a guy back in 2001 when I was a size 14......we recently met up again, I am now a 16/18. Nothing was said initially, but as the weekend progressed it all came to the surface:cry:, he just doesn't fancy me being this size. He did say you have the most beautiful face, smile, eyes...BUTTTTTTTTT the size thing hinders it! I got upset:cry::cry::cry:, and told him "what about the person, what about ME, I'm still the same person"....he taught about it and said YES you are right, but deep down I know he wants me to be slimmer.
Has anybody been in this horrible situation???? Is he a stinker?? OR is this the reality check-in I so need to get moving????
Hi Sussex Girl........I agree with you as well. You cannot help what you find attractive. I would hate my husband to put loads of weight on. I would still ALWAYS love him, but I prefer him slimmer and I'm sure he feels the same way about me. He has NEVER said so, but I know he finds me more attractive when I've lost weight. Lets just say now I've lost weight he seems a lot more keen on sex then he did a few months ago and I do understand that fully. I feel more confident in myself and that in itself is very sexy. I'm not hiding under huge pajamas anymore. What I would never forgive is if he had ever said he wouldnt have sex with me. That would be the most dreadful thing to hear.
Hi Lucylu.........
to answer your question, nothing was actually said directly at first.....it just started with him saying, so how long were you out of action when you tore the calf muscle in your leg (twice it happeened) (during this time I was on crutches, couldn't do my daily routine of swims and powerwalking)...so I read between the lines that Ooohhhooooooo....he's saying I've got fat.....so it just all started from then on! At no time did he insult me, barge at me or be nasty to me about my size increase...just that he would like if I was a little slimmer.
I know you will say he is a DIRTY RAT and BIN HIM, But I know myself I have to get back to the old me as I hate being like this!
My husband now, loves me fat, thin, happy, sad, he'd love me if I was purple with green dots. Thats what its all about.