Sorry to reply to everyone all in one post like this but it is actually nice to have it all together iykwim?
I was in a similar postion. People were telling me to stop long before I felt ready. I still had the tum, though my ribs were sticking out
I did keep going and found that the last stone, stone and a half came just off my stomach. Nothing more off anywhere else
There is a bit of a problem with listening to friends...even the most trustworthy, as they tend to see us from a different angle. They remember us bigger.
Thank you for replying and sorry to chop your whole post down like that but these are the two issues that really stuck out for me.
Thank you for telling me the last stone or so came off your stomach, that is actually a massive help because that is where all the excess is now, right on my stomach.
The girl that told me enough was enough actually didn't know me at my heaviest and so was very neutral. I think that is why I was so bothered about it. She wasn't in a position where she would be worried about me as competition (I am going to explain more about that statement in my next diary thread) or have any other negative reason to say it.
I am going to stick with the plan until the 9th November as originally planned and take it from there. I go away for a weekend on the 10th so I make actually not head straight into management I may need an extra week or so if I put on a bit of weight whilst away.
Wow, congratulations on meeting your targets hun
Not much I can add to the posts above, they cover everything so well.
I'd just say though, do it so you feel happy not because others think you should stop. It will stop any self doubt creeping in
Kitty xxx
Thanks Kitty. You are of course 100% right and this is my journey nobody else's!
In reality though i still have 2 stone to go. I know I havent achieved what i want to yet i'm just looking for a get out clause!!
If you can honestly say you are happy then good on you - you have achieved so much and I have no doubt you can maintain the slim you.
You know i'm here for you whatever your decision.
Thanks Helen, I am going to continue down, until after the bonfire challenge and take it from there. I did achieve my original goals but maybe they need reassessing as maybe they weren't "low" enough.
I was happy last night, I had size 14s on from Next and half way through the night I had to ask my husband to check the size as they kept falling down and my friend commented that they were actually baggy on my bum. Maybe I should have tried the 12s on
I have had people telling me to stop the diet since I hit about 13 stone (I'm 10st 7lbs now)
My trouble is that my top half lost the weight very quickly and that is what people see. They can't see my belly, bum or legs and I dress to make the most of my shape so these bits are diguised very nicely. As it was, once the weight had come off the top then it started to go off my waist, hips legs and bum and stopped coming off my top for a while so if I had stopped then I wouldn't have seen this.
The only way you are going to be able to tell when to stop is to be very honest about yourself.
Make sure that if you decide to stop it is for the right reasons rather than just a chance to eat again. I'm not saying that this will be an issue for you but it was certainly something I was mindful of
Also consider where your loses are now coming from. If they are coming from your skinny bits and not your larger bits then is it worth continuing? As I said, the weight started to come off my problem areas as I continued but if it doesn't then this could this just accentuate your problem areas because proportion is as important in the way you look as size or weight itself.
I also came to the conclusion that the diet wouldn't fix it all for me. The bits I need to sort out to get my proportions right are only going to be fixed by exercising and all the dieting in the world won't fix won't help which is a bummer because I can be bothered to diet and am not so good at the exercise portion (thank god for horse riding).
Good luck flopster with whatever you decide. As always I'm here to back you up
Crikey CoM you touched on a fair few raw nerves here with me lol!
I have said from the beginning this is MY journey and I am controlling it (or not as the case often is) MY way.
My mum has been warning me to stablise for a while, my husband pushing me to lose more. Both seem to be doing it to annoy the other and therefore I am ignoring both of their advice and cracking on with my journey my way lol!
I think you hit the nail on the head when you said about looking out of proportion and accentuating the problem areas. I will however get through to 9th November and take another decision then.
I have just been looking at all my photos from July through to those taken last night and the difference month on month is staggering. I can't wait to see how the next stone down actually looks and that is a major motivator.
I do need to exercise more, I am sure exercising will help tone because my belly is like a trampoline, it is so loose and flabby and the only way that is going to help is by toning. We were talking about that last night and we may join a gym as a family.
Thanks again for your support and a great reply.