Barb
Gold Member
Nice to wake up this morning not feeling guilty for slipping off the rails! I have realised that I am now doing what I really want to do. Eat what I want, when I want but only quality food. No rubbish. Last night was interesting, I had 2 squares of really nice dark chocolate - then no more! I was satisfied, I would/could easily have eaten 4 more but thought 'whats the point, I have had the nice flavour, I am not hungry so why overdo it?'. I feel like I am breaking down lots of habits at quite a rate, I feel so much more in control, it's like i have uncovered a whole new way of looking at stuff. To demonstrate;
Old Barb; Not on a diet, therefore eat and drink everything and anything, no rules as a new diet could be coming along at any time. Avoid healthy food like fruit and veg as they HAVE to be eaten on a diet and diet food couldn't possibly be nice because a diet is a punishment for being a pig and getting fat. Eat what veryone else has as not worthy to be cooked for seperately. Have wine with DH whether wanted or not as could be on a diet soon and it will be too calorific to enjoy. Feel bad about self all the time, every mirror passed is an opportunity to be disgusted with self. Constant depression about clothes, forthcoming events, what other people must think of me etc...
Old Barb - on a diet. Full of enthusiasm for whichever plan it is that is going to do it this time (but obviously won't). Eating healthier food but not appreciating it as full of resentment at being on a diet in the first place. Wanting all the foods I can't have, even if I wouldn'e normally have them that much anyway. Bad tempered at life. Still miserable at every mirror passed. Constantly calculating what weight I could be if I lost 1/2/3lbs a week between now and Christmas! Gradually slipping away from the diet and embracing full on the familiar feeling of failure.
New Barb - No diet = no failure. Each healthy food choice celebrated as a success at nourishing my body. Each eating opportunity regarded calmly and food choices made based on quality and need. Effort being made to have what I really want and therefore enjoying it more. Realisation that I hold the key, just have to use it. Thinking before each food decision, not grabbing food on the run. Making the health not the weight the priority. accepting that I actually LIKE fruit and veg, they are a pleasure not a punishment.
I could ramble on and on, but really should go to work soon. Just want to capture how my different way of life is developing.
Hope everyone has a good day.
Old Barb; Not on a diet, therefore eat and drink everything and anything, no rules as a new diet could be coming along at any time. Avoid healthy food like fruit and veg as they HAVE to be eaten on a diet and diet food couldn't possibly be nice because a diet is a punishment for being a pig and getting fat. Eat what veryone else has as not worthy to be cooked for seperately. Have wine with DH whether wanted or not as could be on a diet soon and it will be too calorific to enjoy. Feel bad about self all the time, every mirror passed is an opportunity to be disgusted with self. Constant depression about clothes, forthcoming events, what other people must think of me etc...
Old Barb - on a diet. Full of enthusiasm for whichever plan it is that is going to do it this time (but obviously won't). Eating healthier food but not appreciating it as full of resentment at being on a diet in the first place. Wanting all the foods I can't have, even if I wouldn'e normally have them that much anyway. Bad tempered at life. Still miserable at every mirror passed. Constantly calculating what weight I could be if I lost 1/2/3lbs a week between now and Christmas! Gradually slipping away from the diet and embracing full on the familiar feeling of failure.
New Barb - No diet = no failure. Each healthy food choice celebrated as a success at nourishing my body. Each eating opportunity regarded calmly and food choices made based on quality and need. Effort being made to have what I really want and therefore enjoying it more. Realisation that I hold the key, just have to use it. Thinking before each food decision, not grabbing food on the run. Making the health not the weight the priority. accepting that I actually LIKE fruit and veg, they are a pleasure not a punishment.
I could ramble on and on, but really should go to work soon. Just want to capture how my different way of life is developing.
Hope everyone has a good day.