Diva
Cambridge Diet Counsellor
Whenever I ask clients this question - Do you like yourself? and How much does it matter whether you do or don't? - I am always intrigued by their answers. Most people smile, smirk, laugh or come out with some witty swipe at themselves but never actually answer the question. Those do answer the question either very quickly say "no" (or words to that effect!) or take a while before responding emotionally!
Now when you consider that I spend the majority of my day with people who say they want to change their lives...usually their weight, health, job, etc...their answers become even more intriguing!
How can you say you want to step up in your life yet cannot answer simply & honestly whether or not you like yourself! Maybe its embarrassment or its seen to be 'arrogant' or 'selfish' if we admit to such a thing. However, the reality is that unless we like ourselves and, therefore, treat ourselves with the respect and attention that we deserve it just makes it hard to make any lasting changes. We have to be number 1 in our lives in order to make the changes stick!
It doesn't if your answer to the question is 'no' because you can do something about that if you truly want...again, become your top priority and you can change it to a 'yes'.
When deciding to improve your health and appearance by becoming slimmer and living a healthier life...you can only truly commit to that when you make yourself your number one priority. You can only truly have long lasting success when you know at the core of your being that you have so much respect, love and belief in yourself that no amount of sugar, fats, other people's birthdays, nights out or junk is gonna stand in the way of that.
I saw a beautiful example of this yesterday when I was out with a friend. Unfortunately, despite all of her efforts on a particular project she did not get the results she was after and was absolutely livid - and I mean livid!!! Anyway we talked it through and I asked her "so what does this mean, are you just gonna throw in the towel" and her response was music to my ears...."no way, failure is not an option!". Simple words but she is so focussed on what she's doing and even though there has been (in her mind!) a small glitch, she's still pressing on because she knows that to do anything less would be a disservice to herself and what she wants.
The ones who struggle are the ones that their own stories & events and other peoples stories and events control them because what they want is not at the top of their own lists.
So again, how much does it really matter to YOU to like yourself?
Now when you consider that I spend the majority of my day with people who say they want to change their lives...usually their weight, health, job, etc...their answers become even more intriguing!
How can you say you want to step up in your life yet cannot answer simply & honestly whether or not you like yourself! Maybe its embarrassment or its seen to be 'arrogant' or 'selfish' if we admit to such a thing. However, the reality is that unless we like ourselves and, therefore, treat ourselves with the respect and attention that we deserve it just makes it hard to make any lasting changes. We have to be number 1 in our lives in order to make the changes stick!
It doesn't if your answer to the question is 'no' because you can do something about that if you truly want...again, become your top priority and you can change it to a 'yes'.
When deciding to improve your health and appearance by becoming slimmer and living a healthier life...you can only truly commit to that when you make yourself your number one priority. You can only truly have long lasting success when you know at the core of your being that you have so much respect, love and belief in yourself that no amount of sugar, fats, other people's birthdays, nights out or junk is gonna stand in the way of that.
I saw a beautiful example of this yesterday when I was out with a friend. Unfortunately, despite all of her efforts on a particular project she did not get the results she was after and was absolutely livid - and I mean livid!!! Anyway we talked it through and I asked her "so what does this mean, are you just gonna throw in the towel" and her response was music to my ears...."no way, failure is not an option!". Simple words but she is so focussed on what she's doing and even though there has been (in her mind!) a small glitch, she's still pressing on because she knows that to do anything less would be a disservice to herself and what she wants.
The ones who struggle are the ones that their own stories & events and other peoples stories and events control them because what they want is not at the top of their own lists.
So again, how much does it really matter to YOU to like yourself?